Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 17:37     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, ALL of my female friends are super close to their moms. and A LOT of my female friends speak to their moms every day or even multiple times if you count text email etc., and i know of no grown men who do that.


This is fascinating to me. You're the second person to say this. How old are you?

I have many friends who aren't close to their mothers and know almost no one who speaks to their mom daily. Too busy.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 17:19     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I really wanted a girl. I got my son, and I'm so glad I got him instead of a girl. Is that honest enough for you?


That's me, too. Pregnant with #2 now and couldn't care less. honestly.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 16:46     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a girl and TBH, I'm kind of hoping she's not going to be a sitting quietly getting a mani pedi, or shopping kind of girl. I'm hoping she's going to be a mountain biking, hiking, ball of sass. But, she's going to be who she is, and I'm already anticipating I'm going to have to learn to use glitter and eyeshadow.

My SIL is deeply depressed about not having a girl. She had two really great little boys and can't even appreciate what an awesome family she has.

I wonder how many of you women deeply pining for a girl have unresolved mommy issues, or self esteem issues? Is it about wanting to mold someone into a mini me?


I hate it when people crow about their girls being "sassy" or "feisty". It's such gendered language that you rarely hear used to describe our sons.


No, boys get "rambunctious", "busy" or "such a BOY". I want my daughter to buck against the little lady stereotypes, meek and quiet aT lunch like a PP mentioned. I want a who has opinions and a voice. I want her to ask questions, disagree, and not be scared to be who she is...so yes, in current terminology that I can quickly use to Illustrate who I hope she'll be - I want sassy.


Huh. I have two boys, but if I have a girl I will use the same language to describe how I hope she will be as I do with my sons - confident, brave, and compassionate. No need to water it down with gendered language like spunky, sassy, or feisty.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 16:37     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I'm a pp happy with 3 boys. For the record, I have a love-hate relationship with my mother (moved continents upon turning 18!), my brother has always been extremely close to her (still is!). Similarly, my mother did not get along with my grandmother at all.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 16:36     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I am one of three girls and I have 2 boys. I was in the car with my mom and sisters the other day and my mom said "ahh my 3 girls. Girls will always be by your side and never leave you like boys." I was so hurt. Here I am with a toddler and baby, both boys, in the thick of the early years of parenting, my baby boys are the loves of my life and she says that? I found it to be so rude and insensitive.


Your mom wasn't just rude and insensitive, she was wrong, as a bit of reading in this thread or any other on the Internet will attest. Who "leaves" you has much more to do with how your kids are raised than with whether they sprouted peens or vags in the womb.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 16:10     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I am one of three girls and I have 2 boys. I was in the car with my mom and sisters the other day and my mom said "ahh my 3 girls. Girls will always be by your side and never leave you like boys." I was so hurt. Here I am with a toddler and baby, both boys, in the thick of the early years of parenting, my baby boys are the loves of my life and she says that? I found it to be so rude and insensitive.


That was rude. But most likely the relationship with your mother will survive that slight. Perhaps your mother recognizes that she is lucky to be able to drive around with you and your sisters after you've had kids. We consider ourselves to be a happy family, but my MIL never drove around town with her two sons after they married and have kids. They were simply too busy, and lived far away, and we DILs controlled the visits. (I hope that we were kind, but this type of ordinary event, driving around with both of her sons alone, unfortunately never happened.)
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:55     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I am one of three girls and I have 2 boys. I was in the car with my mom and sisters the other day and my mom said "ahh my 3 girls. Girls will always be by your side and never leave you like boys." I was so hurt. Here I am with a toddler and baby, both boys, in the thick of the early years of parenting, my baby boys are the loves of my life and she says that? I found it to be so rude and insensitive.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:50     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I'm another one who really did want a girl and is totally, 100 percent content with my two boys. OP, it says something very sad about you that you presume a woman couldn't love her sons more than some hypothetical dream of a daughter. My boys are the light of my life.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:48     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Everyone loves what they have.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:47     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:cause I didn't really want a girl to begin with...(I mean if we're being honest here.)

I can't imagine anyone saying that they don't want girls... except maybe Asians in the old country.

GL with that, because boys will not take care of you in old age.


I also only wanted boys. We didn't find out the sex of our first (and probably only) because I didn't want to be disappointed before the baby was born. We did end up with a boy, though I am sure I would be happy with a girl too. If we ever end up having a second child we will both be hoping it is a boy again, though, I'm sure raising girls is fun too.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:44     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I don't think anyone is faking...I think it's very normal to adjust to what you end up having. I never cared about having a boy and I just love having a boy! As far as easy-to-raise I say boy, hands down. Just so much simpler.

I do feel slightly for people who had two kids of the same gender 3 years apart, then a 5 year gap and boom, 3rd child of the same gender. Usually I think that's the case of someone trying for that 3rd to be the opposite gender. Of course I'm certain that no one in the situation feels anything but joy when they meet their child and it all works out, because why go for the third unless you are open.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:37     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Yes, ALL of my female friends are super close to their moms. and A LOT of my female friends speak to their moms every day or even multiple times if you count text email etc., and i know of no grown men who do that.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:36     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:cause I didn't really want a girl to begin with...(I mean if we're being honest here.)

I can't imagine anyone saying that they don't want girls... except maybe Asians in the old country.

GL with that, because boys will not take care of you in old age.


Do you READ this site and see how much some of these women hate their mothers?


+1

I had a terrible relationship with my mother and she had a terrible relationship with her mother. I really, REALLY didn't want a girl. I got the two boys that I asked for. I am very happy with them.

Not everyone is the same, OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:24     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I really wanted a girl. I got my son, and I'm so glad I got him instead of a girl. Is that honest enough for you?


Same exact situation except I have 2 boys. Wanted a girl, got a boy, hoped 2nd was an boy and it was. Would never want a girl now and glad I don't have one.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 15:23     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:all these people who say their nieces or neighbors girls are so high drama, what do you mean?

my DD's are 4 and 6, and I don't see that. I *DO* feel like they're calmer and more focused than their boy peers.


Come back in 10 years...we'll talk then.