Anonymous wrote:$1k/mo is likely fine. You will likely end up with between 350-400k in 18 years assuming a reasonable rate of return. I wouldn't personally fund a mid-tier private, but that's just me. GW, American, Georgetown, Catholic, etc. are largely a waste of money, IMHO. Our plan is for DD to go to one of the VA state schools unless she either A) shows exceptional aptitude in something that requires a specific school or B) gets into an ivy. In those cases we'll fund it and make it work, but otherwise for a run of the mill business, engineering or liberal arts pre-law type gig she will do just fine in VA.

Not hard to save $5k a month on that HHI either. 400k HHI, 15 year $450k mortgage with 2 Hondas paid for in cash sitting in the driveway. Easy to save that much or more when you don't overspend on house and cars.

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Seems like she asked a question as a result of the conversation with her friend. My response is that she shouldn't be discussing finances with friends to begin with.

And you need to get out of this mentality which is just as disturbing as a stepford wife group-think. Finances, particularly her finances, are hers to discuss as she wills. Especially with individuals and friends she's trusted for over two decades.

“A woman’s preaching is like a dog’s walking on his hind legs. It is not done well; but you are surprised to find it done at all.” - Samuel Johnson, 1971

That goes beyond religion to politics and to business ventures. Get your head out of your ass and own your portfolio.

Not sure what this has to do with being a woman. My husband also abstains from discussing finances with his friends. We may discuss certain investments or mention rental properties but NEVER mention numbers, which is what OP was doing.

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Seems like she asked a question as a result of the conversation with her friend. My response is that she shouldn't be discussing finances with friends to begin with.

And you need to get out of this mentality which is just as disturbing as a stepford wife group-think. Finances, particularly her finances, are hers to discuss as she wills. Especially with individuals and friends she's trusted for over two decades.

“A woman’s preaching is like a dog’s walking on his hind legs. It is not done well; but you are surprised to find it done at all.” - Samuel Johnson, 1971

That goes beyond religion to politics and to business ventures. Get your head out of your ass and own your portfolio.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I discuss finance issues with close friends. I don't get what's strange about that.

Oh my god were you people raised in barns? Not ok!

We make the same amount as OP and it would never in a million years occur to me to seek finance advice on this site. You really lack critical thinking skills, in addition to manners, OP.

And herein lies a big difference. If you were raised in old money, you don't discuss finances. People who weren't raised with money but have a decent income now tend to be more open with it.

Dumb old stick up the butt fake rules.

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Seems like she asked a question as a result of the conversation with her friend. My response is that she shouldn't be discussing finances with friends to begin with.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I discuss finance issues with close friends. I don't get what's strange about that.

Oh my god were you people raised in barns? Not ok!

We make the same amount as OP and it would never in a million years occur to me to seek finance advice on this site. You really lack critical thinking skills, in addition to manners, OP.

And herein lies a big difference. If you were raised in old money, you don't discuss finances. People who weren't raised with money but have a decent income now tend to be more open with it.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I discuss finance issues with close friends. I don't get what's strange about that.

Oh my god were you people raised in barns? Not ok!

We make the same amount as OP and it would never in a million years occur to me to seek finance advice on this site. You really lack critical thinking skills, in addition to manners, OP.

So weird. It's a anon board and why wouldn't I discuss finances with my very close friends? They're my friends after all.

It's bad manners and it puts people in an awkward position. Some people may not be saving for college because they spend too much money...others may be relying on family money and may not need to save in 529 plans. It's kind of a no win situation discussing this with friends. What's to gain? Are you going to seriously start saving more or less because of what a friend saves or doesn't save? Do you also compare mortgage payments and brokerage accounts? You're really clueless if you think you should be sharing what you're contributing to a 529 plan. It's fine to complain about college costs or something very general, but not talk numbers. I'd maybe reconsider your approach of discussing with friends and even think back to these conversations and see if you can pick up on the awkwardness now that you've been called out on it. There's a good chance your friend was criticizing you for not saving enough only because you were dumb enough to bring it up to begin with!

Uh, if this happens then that person is not my friend. I think that's your problem. I don't consider casual associates friends. If you are my friend we can discuss anything. But maybe that's why I only have two.

Nope that's not it. I don't discuss family finances with anyone except my immediate family. How we pay for our home, vacations and expenses are simply NO one's business and I have nothing to gain by sharing this information.

No one cares what you do or think. OP asked a simple question and she probably got enough information to make a decision from the reasonable posters. No one expects any information of value from the obnoxious and frothing at the mouth posters, like yourself, because you are either a 16 yr old troll or a bitter old person waiting to jump on somebody.

Seems like she asked a question as a result of the conversation with her friend. My response is that she shouldn't be discussing finances with friends to begin with.

Anonymous wrote:$1k/mo is likely fine. You will likely end up with between 350-400k in 18 years assuming a reasonable rate of return. I wouldn't personally fund a mid-tier private, but that's just me. GW, American, Georgetown, Catholic, etc. are largely a waste of money, IMHO. Our plan is for DD to go to one of the VA state schools unless she either A) shows exceptional aptitude in something that requires a specific school or B) gets into an ivy. In those cases we'll fund it and make it work, but otherwise for a run of the mill business, engineering or liberal arts pre-law type gig she will do just fine in VA.

Not hard to save $5k a month on that HHI either. 400k HHI, 15 year $450k mortgage with 2 Hondas paid for in cash sitting in the driveway. Easy to save that much or more when you don't overspend on house and cars.

Anonymous wrote:GW, American, Georgetown, Catholic, etc. are largely a waste of money, IMHO. Our plan is for DD to go to one of the VA state schools unless she either A) shows exceptional aptitude in something that requires a specific school or B) gets into an ivy. In those cases we'll fund it and make it work, but otherwise for a run of the mill business, engineering or liberal arts pre-law type gig she will do just fine in VA.

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Anonymous wrote:What's your HHI?

You're missing out on tax benefits putting that much in a 529.

At the very least, put it in two 529s (one in your name, one in your DH's). If you are eligible for a Roth, I would split the thousand as $330 in your 529, $330 in your husband's, and the balance split between two Roth IRAs. You can use Roth money to pay for college, and in the event your child doesn't end up needing it, you still have it for your retirement.

HHI is ~350k. we both max out 401(k) (spouse has a 9% match; I have none because I work in biglaw). In addition, we put away about $4000 in index funds. We also each backdoor the maximum into Roth IRA accounts.

We each put the minimum into the state-sponsored 529 for the write-off. The remainder goes into a 529 with Vanguard (fees are lower). What would be better for us to do?

I'm amazed that you are able to save $5K a month (and then some) on $350K. How do you manage that? Any tips?

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Anonymous wrote:What's your HHI?

You're missing out on tax benefits putting that much in a 529.

At the very least, put it in two 529s (one in your name, one in your DH's). If you are eligible for a Roth, I would split the thousand as $330 in your 529, $330 in your husband's, and the balance split between two Roth IRAs. You can use Roth money to pay for college, and in the event your child doesn't end up needing it, you still have it for your retirement.

HHI is ~350k. we both max out 401(k) (spouse has a 9% match; I have none because I work in biglaw). In addition, we put away about $4000 in index funds. We also each backdoor the maximum into Roth IRA accounts.

We each put the minimum into the state-sponsored 529 for the write-off. The remainder goes into a 529 with Vanguard (fees are lower). What would be better for us to do?

I'm amazed that you are able to save $5K a month (and then some) on $350K. How do you manage that? Any tips?

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I discuss finance issues with close friends. I don't get what's strange about that.

Oh my god were you people raised in barns? Not ok!

We make the same amount as OP and it would never in a million years occur to me to seek finance advice on this site. You really lack critical thinking skills, in addition to manners, OP.

So weird. It's a anon board and why wouldn't I discuss finances with my very close friends? They're my friends after all.

It's bad manners and it puts people in an awkward position. Some people may not be saving for college because they spend too much money...others may be relying on family money and may not need to save in 529 plans. It's kind of a no win situation discussing this with friends. What's to gain? Are you going to seriously start saving more or less because of what a friend saves or doesn't save? Do you also compare mortgage payments and brokerage accounts? You're really clueless if you think you should be sharing what you're contributing to a 529 plan. It's fine to complain about college costs or something very general, but not talk numbers. I'd maybe reconsider your approach of discussing with friends and even think back to these conversations and see if you can pick up on the awkwardness now that you've been called out on it. There's a good chance your friend was criticizing you for not saving enough only because you were dumb enough to bring it up to begin with!

Uh, if this happens then that person is not my friend. I think that's your problem. I don't consider casual associates friends. If you are my friend we can discuss anything. But maybe that's why I only have two.

Nope that's not it. I don't discuss family finances with anyone except my immediate family. How we pay for our home, vacations and expenses are simply NO one's business and I have nothing to gain by sharing this information.

No one cares what you do or think. OP asked a simple question and she probably got enough information to make a decision from the reasonable posters. No one expects any information of value from the obnoxious and frothing at the mouth posters, like yourself, because you are either a 16 yr old troll or a bitter old person waiting to jump on somebody.