Anonymous
11/15/2016 10:42
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:If you are not a troll, you are someone that needs to think about this a little more. Why would you deserve an investment you didn't have anything to do with? I am guessing you didn't suggest he buy Apple stock?
I think she knows it's not rational, but she doesn't care because she's desperate. Her plan was to divorce, get the house, alimony, child support, and $2 million. Presumably, she figured she would invest the $2 million and live on its proceeds after the alimony ran out.
Now she is faced with having to get a job, so she is looking for any angle she can in order to collect that $2 million and avoid working forever. She doesn't care if it's fair or rightfully hers. Desperation causes people to sacrifice logic and morals all the time.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 10:33
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
If you are not a troll, you are someone that needs to think about this a little more. Why would you deserve an investment you didn't have anything to do with? I am guessing you didn't suggest he buy Apple stock?
Anonymous
11/15/2016 10:03
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
Your husband should get a medal from all the DW's out here! You have an affair and he gives you more than you deserve. Get off your butt and get a job.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 10:01
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
OP, what is your STBX investing in now? I've recently inherited $160K and would love to turn it into millions like he did. TIA!
Anonymous
11/15/2016 09:42
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
Hmm, unless you guys are in VA and he can prove adultery to the point where grounds are proven, he's paying you alimony. As much as he's offering? Likely no, and it might get reduced a bit if you come off as selfish money-grubber. So you'd get alimony but not as much as he'd
You'd be remiss if you didn't ask for the full records from the account just to make sure he wasn't throwing in comingled funds in there at some point after buying Apple and/or seeding the account with the inheritance.
But that $4 million? Nope, ain't happening.
At least you can do the Eat, Pray, Love bullshit on someone else's dime now!
We are in VA.
It doesn't matter if the judge will or will not take your infidelity into consideration. If you don't take his offer and instead take it to a judge, you're going to end up with less. You could fight and give it a shot, and spend some of your money on attorneys fees. Or you could accept the very, very generous offer your DH has put on the table, and focus your energy on finding yourself a job.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 09:40
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
Hmm, unless you guys are in VA and he can prove adultery to the point where grounds are proven, he's paying you alimony. As much as he's offering? Likely no, and it might get reduced a bit if you come off as selfish money-grubber. So you'd get alimony but not as much as he'd
You'd be remiss if you didn't ask for the full records from the account just to make sure he wasn't throwing in comingled funds in there at some point after buying Apple and/or seeding the account with the inheritance.
But that $4 million? Nope, ain't happening.
At least you can do the Eat, Pray, Love bullshit on someone else's dime now!
We are in VA.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 09:31
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
You are greedy given you cheated. Let your affair partner take care of you.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 09:26
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
Hmm, unless you guys are in VA and he can prove adultery to the point where grounds are proven, he's paying you alimony. As much as he's offering? Likely no, and it might get reduced a bit if you come off as selfish money-grubber. So you'd get alimony but not as much as he'd
You'd be remiss if you didn't ask for the full records from the account just to make sure he wasn't throwing in comingled funds in there at some point after buying Apple and/or seeding the account with the inheritance.
But that $4 million? Nope, ain't happening.
At least you can do the Eat, Pray, Love bullshit on someone else's dime now!
Anonymous
11/15/2016 09:26
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
No human could be this bad. Has to be a troll.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 09:05
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
Yes, I'd say that you did. The good news is that you can still have PASSION you are just paying a steep price for it. I wonder how good PASSION will sound when you are 70 and struggling to pay for health insurance.
I have so little respect for cheaters. Money grabbing cheaters? All the worse.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 08:42
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
So you cheated, you're the one who initiated the divorce, and you were sure you would walk away with the house, alimony, child support, plus $2 million. On top of that, you have posters on here telling you that you should push him to give you even MORE!
It's hard to feel any sympathy for you.
Time to brush up on your resume.
It's hard to feel any sympathy for you.
Time to brush up on your resume.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 08:34
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
HA, yes, sorry, you did. Take the offer. You may not be getting the 1/2 you want. But you're getting more than 1/4, in the long haul. Take his example and invest some of it.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 08:09
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
OP here. We had a discussion last night. He said -- unilaterally -- that I either accept is offer, or I will get the minimum I am entitled to by law. He is angry with me because of some things I did (I needed passion in my life).
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
What he said is, if I chose to fight, he will bring up my infidelity. His lawyer told him that could eliminate the alimony.
He also made it clear: if I do take the deal, I need to stay in the house for 3 1/2 years, until our child finishes HS. After that, I am free to move.
He showed me details of how he got from then to now with the money: He deposited the inheritance in account, used that to buy 2671 shares of apple on Feb, 2004.
He sold it about a year ago. He sold in 2015 for 131.21. He paid almost 1 million in tax from the proceeds.
I guess I screwed up.
Anonymous
11/15/2016 05:45
Subject: Re:My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:because he is their father with four million dollars!Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. Put it in the separation agreement that he has to fund each kids 529 plan with 60,000 upfront.Anonymous wrote:Of course the inheritance is his. He is being very generous to you giving you the house and paying you alimony for a decade. Take it before he changes his mind.
I would try to get in writing that he will take care of college funds for the kids.
I don't think OP is in a strong bargaining position, folks.
Why should her DH agree, in writing, to fully fund the kids' college tuition on his own? He's already giving OP more than she is legally entitled to.
But why should he make it part of his separation agreement with the OP? Presumably, she will be working at some point, and maybe also able to contribute... no? Especially since she won't have a mortgage.
No mortgage but she will still have real estate taxes and insurance payments on the house. it isn't like she will be living rent free forever.
You're right. She will still have bills to pay, so hopefully she will try to find a job soon. Good point!
Your SAHM fantasy life is over OP. Welcome to the real world!
Anonymous
11/15/2016 05:21
Subject: My STBX inherited money in 2004, invested it, and is claiming it is all his
Troll.