Anonymous wrote:I heard several girls went without dates and had a blast!

I dunno. Perusing through my DD's social media, there did seem to be something special and memorable about a girl's date unveiling the corsage, or a girl pinning on the boutonnière without drawing too much blood. Lots of happy faces in those pictures. Really can't be replicated if dateless.

I heard several girls went without dates and had a blast!

Anonymous wrote:It should be a no-date affair. Everyone can go. No dates allowed. This will eliminate the stigma.

Trophies for everyone! Are you kidding???? No dates allowed? Just so some don't have their feelings hurt?!!! This is getting beyond ridiculous, this is part of being a human.

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Anonymous wrote:My junior daughter who has never been asked and who would like to be asked was not asked again this year, nor were any of her close friends. They did not attend. She felt that attending without a date would have only highlighted the fact that she was not asked. It will take a lot more to change the culture.

This broke my heart when I read this.

But what exactly is the culture that needs to be changed?

On the flip-side, my DD is at NCS and went with a date as friends. However, several girls in her friend group went without dates and they all hung out together at the dance and had a ball. The "single" girls did not feel out of place and at some point noone knows who came with a date and who didn't because it was a big party. She did say some kids who are dating each other hung out exclusively with each other but that was not the norm. Maybe what needs to change is realizing there is no stigma with going w/out a date. Wasn't NCS's hoco theme "trailblazers"? I love that my DD's friends decided to go solo and had a ball. Good for them!

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Anonymous wrote:My junior daughter who has never been asked and who would like to be asked was not asked again this year, nor were any of her close friends. They did not attend. She felt that attending without a date would have only highlighted the fact that she was not asked. It will take a lot more to change the culture.

This broke my heart when I read this.

But what exactly is the culture that needs to be changed?

WHA??? It "broke your heart"? Overreact much? Girls have wanted to attend dances but not been asked for generations. Its not a big deal. She will survive. Just like boys who are too shy or too awkward or get turned down don't go to dances either. Normal part of growing up. Several of my son's friends at STA did not go. And yes, several girls he is friends with at NCS didnt go. Same deal at my co-ed high school in the 80s. Nothing new here folks.

Anonymous wrote:It should be a no-date affair. Everyone can go. No dates allowed. This will eliminate the stigma.

It will eliminate what are wonderful, memory-filled, events, for the son, his date, and the parents.

It should be a no-date affair. Everyone can go. No dates allowed. This will eliminate the stigma.

Anonymous wrote:My junior daughter who has never been asked and who would like to be asked was not asked again this year, nor were any of her close friends. They did not attend. She felt that attending without a date would have only highlighted the fact that she was not asked. It will take a lot more to change the culture.

This broke my heart when I read this.

But what exactly is the culture that needs to be changed?

My junior daughter who has never been asked and who would like to be asked was not asked again this year, nor were any of her close friends. They did not attend. She felt that attending without a date would have only highlighted the fact that she was not asked. It will take a lot more to change the culture.

Did any girls show up without a date?

Yet again, not a big deal. Both schools have long invited the other school to their non-formal mixers. The NCS homecoming dance is not formal and is more of a mixer (not a date affair, in fact people wear costumes). The STA homecoming dance is semi formal and most people bring dates. Now both schools are opening up at least one of the semi formal dances (winter formal for NCS, homecoming for STA) to all students from the other school. Maybe those dances will start to look more like mixers but probably they will still look more like semi formal events with dates.

How is it looking for tonight?

This will be one of those school administration imposed initiatives that will result in zero change.

Anonymous wrote:Dear God. Why are we even still talking about freaking homecoming dances? So 1950s. Who cares about this crap?

My daughter's future therapist. The homecoming setup only serves to allow the Mean Girls further grist in the mill of separating out the Queen Bees from the Working Bees from the non-Bees.

Dear God. Why are we even still talking about freaking homecoming dances? So 1950s. Who cares about this crap?