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Anonymous wrote:I was that child. I was immature and insecure. Thus not reading social cues and wanting validation for my smarts all the time.

I grew out of it.

OP here. Yes! He doesn't read social cues at all. Could it be nerves??!

This was my kid too. Thing is this is the sort of behavior that can have serious consequences like suspension or even removal from a school if it doesn't stop. What we did was set a bright line rule that we enforced everywhere. My son could not touch anyone between neck and knees without permission, except parents - we didn't want to forbid hugging. No punishment of rewards. Just intervened every single time he broke the rule. It worked. Only downside was he couldn't wrestle with his brother but it was worth it.

OP here. We started enforcing something similar today. He isn't allowed to touch anyone except hug me, father, or grandparents. I hope it works! Thank you for posting.

And the shouting out?

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Anonymous wrote:I was that child. I was immature and insecure. Thus not reading social cues and wanting validation for my smarts all the time.

I grew out of it.

OP here. Yes! He doesn't read social cues at all. Could it be nerves??!

This was my kid too. Thing is this is the sort of behavior that can have serious consequences like suspension or even removal from a school if it doesn't stop. What we did was set a bright line rule that we enforced everywhere. My son could not touch anyone between neck and knees without permission, except parents - we didn't want to forbid hugging. No punishment of rewards. Just intervened every single time he broke the rule. It worked. Only downside was he couldn't wrestle with his brother but it was worth it.

OP here. We started enforcing something similar today. He isn't allowed to touch anyone except hug me, father, or grandparents. I hope it works! Thank you for posting.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like your child has sensory processing disorder. Could be a mild version of it but it is definitely tactile and auditory sensory seeking behavior.

http://spdlife.org/symptoms/sensory-seeking.html

There are things you can do to help appease his tactile seeking. Some kids like chewing necklaces, stress balls at their desks, bouncy bands for his feet at his desk, etc...
Kids like this also like cleaning up, sorting, filing, handing things out. Let his teacher encourage those things when he is done classwork instead of sitting at his desk reading.

I would recommend an OT if behaviors do not get better.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think something is "wrong" with him besides the fact that people make excuses for him. I am most definitely not one of those people. I want to fix this. He's been evaluated recently (7 months ago) and he's find according to school specialists and an outside specialist. I am actually a step mother to him and not his biological mom. I do raise him full time however. I work tirelessly for my children and I need some advice. I need a tactic that will stick. My husband works beside me in following through with consequences so that's no issue. My third grader has this idea in his head that he's cute and everyone wants to hear what he has to say and that people think it's cute when he tickles. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about this. It seems like whenever he is with his grandmother (husbands mother), she is making excuses for him and it's rubbing off on him. For example:

I will talk to him about his calling out in class and his response will be "I just have a lot to say!" Which sounds like my mother in law! What should I do?? Advice?? I've told my husband my concerns but in the grand scheme of things it doesn't seem to be a big deal to him. She's a good grandma.

I hear you OP. He needs a punishment that you consider out of line with the offense, something that will without a doubt show him that his behavior isn't cute and won't be tolerated. And it needs to happene every time he does this until he gets it through his head.

OP here. I've suggested taking away his Harry Potter wands and things in his room which are items he loves dearly. My husband thinks that will cause him to be scared to tell us if he does things at school (which he's actually been very good about. He doesn't lie. He comes home and says I got in trouble for....") I don't want him to be afraid to be honest but I also fear he'll be THAT KID. I want him to have a good school experience and have friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I was that child. I was immature and insecure. Thus not reading social cues and wanting validation for my smarts all the time.

I grew out of it.

OP here. Yes! He doesn't read social cues at all. Could it be nerves??!

This was my kid too. Thing is this is the sort of behavior that can have serious consequences like suspension or even removal from a school if it doesn't stop. What we did was set a bright line rule that we enforced everywhere. My son could not touch anyone between neck and knees without permission, except parents - we didn't want to forbid hugging. No punishment of rewards. Just intervened every single time he broke the rule. It worked. Only downside was he couldn't wrestle with his brother but it was worth it.

Anonymous wrote:Year after year I'm having the same issues with my son. He will not keep his hands to himself at school. It's not hurting anyone but it's tickling. I have no idea why he does it or why he won't stop doing it. I've told him to stop and that it's not okay to touch other people and invade their personal space. Additionally, he will not stop calling out in class or correcting other classmates. It's been years of hearing from teachers he lacks self control when it comes to calling out. He is what an observer would call "a know it all". He thinks he knows better than everyone even when I explained he has a lot of learn, let others learn, others learn at their own pace. Etc etc. I've said it all! He has no special education issues. He can't get through one day without arguing with or correcting someone. Anyone with a similar child? Help a mommy out, please.

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Anonymous wrote:I was that child. I was immature and insecure. Thus not reading social cues and wanting validation for my smarts all the time.

I grew out of it.

OP here. Yes! He doesn't read social cues at all. Could it be nerves??!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think something is "wrong" with him besides the fact that people make excuses for him. I am most definitely not one of those people. I want to fix this. He's been evaluated recently (7 months ago) and he's find according to school specialists and an outside specialist. I am actually a step mother to him and not his biological mom. I do raise him full time however. I work tirelessly for my children and I need some advice. I need a tactic that will stick. My husband works beside me in following through with consequences so that's no issue. My third grader has this idea in his head that he's cute and everyone wants to hear what he has to say and that people think it's cute when he tickles. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about this. It seems like whenever he is with his grandmother (husbands mother), she is making excuses for him and it's rubbing off on him. For example:

I will talk to him about his calling out in class and his response will be "I just have a lot to say!" Which sounds like my mother in law! What should I do?? Advice?? I've told my husband my concerns but in the grand scheme of things it doesn't seem to be a big deal to him. She's a good grandma.

I hear you OP. He needs a punishment that you consider out of line with the offense, something that will without a doubt show him that his behavior isn't cute and won't be tolerated. And it needs to happene every time he does this until he gets it through his head.

Anonymous wrote:OP- Your child reminds me of my son's classmate. (BTW- My DS has ADHD so he struggles with impulse control too. He started medication in 3rd grade). This boy couldn't not touch other kids at school. Even as other boys grew out of the constant touching phase by about 2nd grade, he was still like a 3 yr old in his ability to control his impulses. I would see him a few times a year at various school functions. By 4th grade, none of the boys wanted to be near him. My DS said that this boy is in trouble a lot so none of the boys wanted to be near him or they would end up in trouble too. Even at their 5th grade farewell ceremony, he was unable to stand up and not touch or grab other kids. Make an appt. for a consultation. We went to KK and even though we waited 4 months for the appt, it was worth the wait.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think something is "wrong" with him besides the fact that people make excuses for him. I am most definitely not one of those people. I want to fix this. He's been evaluated recently (7 months ago) and he's find according to school specialists and an outside specialist. I am actually a step mother to him and not his biological mom. I do raise him full time however. I work tirelessly for my children and I need some advice. I need a tactic that will stick. My husband works beside me in following through with consequences so that's no issue. My third grader has this idea in his head that he's cute and everyone wants to hear what he has to say and that people think it's cute when he tickles. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about this. It seems like whenever he is with his grandmother (husbands mother), she is making excuses for him and it's rubbing off on him. For example:

I will talk to him about his calling out in class and his response will be "I just have a lot to say!" Which sounds like my mother in law! What should I do?? Advice?? I've told my husband my concerns but in the grand scheme of things it doesn't seem to be a big deal to him. She's a good grandma.

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I would like to add once more that this only happens in school and the correcting happens at home but not with grown ups. Mostly just siblings or other kids. The need to always be right and call out may be just his personality. I just don't know!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think something is "wrong" with him besides the fact that people make excuses for him. I am most definitely not one of those people. I want to fix this. He's been evaluated recently (7 months ago) and he's find according to school specialists and an outside specialist. I am actually a step mother to him and not his biological mom. I do raise him full time however. I work tirelessly for my children and I need some advice. I need a tactic that will stick. My husband works beside me in following through with consequences so that's no issue. My third grader has this idea in his head that he's cute and everyone wants to hear what he has to say and that people think it's cute when he tickles. I couldn't sleep last night thinking about this. It seems like whenever he is with his grandmother (husbands mother), she is making excuses for him and it's rubbing off on him. For example:

I will talk to him about his calling out in class and his response will be "I just have a lot to say!" Which sounds like my mother in law! What should I do?? Advice?? I've told my husband my concerns but in the grand scheme of things it doesn't seem to be a big deal to him. She's a good grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. He really is just a normal kid in all other ways. He's always been very affectionate and hands on. Unfortunately that isn't flying in public school! I've taken tv away sometimes and allowance but feel like anything else wouldn't fit the crime.

You are mitigating his behavior. He is annoying to the other children. He is annoying to everyone but you. You are not helping him by saying he's affectionate and hands on. Your little talks with him aren't helping. Neither are your mild punishments. Maybe it's time you get a little tougher with the consequences.