Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:52     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
It's rude.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:51     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?


I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.



Wow... even when asked to confirm (*HINT HINT*) he said "no, not the wife but you can bring your son"???...you should ask your husband why he is friends with this guy. If he can't give a legitimate answer then you should ask yourself why you are married to this guy.


Quite frankly, I don't blame the husband for going, even though I voted "inappropriate." Chances are this friend was around long before OP. The friend might be a dick, but my fiancé doesn't care for all of my friends but that doesn't mean I have to drop them for him.


Actually yes this friend should be dropped. When you are married you do put your spouse first - that is part of the deal. This is basic. You don't "give up friends" for your spouse but they take a back seat - and when one of your friends intentionally excludes your spouse from his/her WEDDING you need to be loyal to your spouse. This is no longer a good friend.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:51     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?


I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.



Wow... even when asked to confirm (*HINT HINT*) he said "no, not the wife but you can bring your son"???...you should ask your husband why he is friends with this guy. If he can't give a legitimate answer then you should ask yourself why you are married to this guy.


Quite frankly, I don't blame the husband for going, even though I voted "inappropriate." Chances are this friend was around long before OP. The friend might be a dick, but my fiancé doesn't care for all of my friends but that doesn't mean I have to drop them for him.


Actually yes this friend should be dropped. When you are married you do put your spouse first - that is part of the deal. This is basic. You don't "give up friends" for your spouse but they take a back seat - and when one of your friends intentionally excludes your spouse from his/her WEDDING you need to be loyal to your spouse. This is no longer a good friend.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:47     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?


Why doesn't the husband know the best friends fiance? Maybe because as you get older distance and time constraints mean you see friends less often. Not inviting his wife is essentially saying you have no interest in being in the friend's life long term imo



The OP didn't say any of that. The OP didn't say enough to make folks jump all over her husband. I'd there some bad blood? Did the wife disrespect the engaged couple in some way? There are always two sides to every story.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:46     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?


I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.


WTF?? Does this friend hate you? Because that's what I would be thinking. Also, I would be livid in your situation. Let them go, and you book yourself a spa weekend
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:41     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:To not invite the spouse is incredibly disrespectful no matter how little his friend may know you. If my friend invited me without my wife I would tell him that it's not happening. We are a package deal, and your hubby should at least respect you enough to be on your side in this matter instead of trying to make excuses for his friend.


+1000 yep
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:40     Subject: Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Inappropriate and totally classless. Why have a wedding where you can't afford to do the appropriate thing? People are so dumb. Your husband should decline.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:29     Subject: Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
How do we know it's not the best friend's wife that is controlling this situation? Let's be honest, bitches be crazy about wedding planning. Maybe she's been crazy the whole time and friend is just not going to fight her anymore. Maybe her parents are footing the bill. There are just too many questions to crucify OP's husband outright.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:18     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?


I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.


Did you have some bad drama with this friend or his future wife? Bad blood with some other guests or family?

You must be leaving something out. No way they would purposely exclude you. They said your DH can bring your son but not you.


I've only been around him and handful of times and there's never been an issue. I haven't met his fiancee and neither has DH.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:16     Subject: Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:Is the wedding local?


Yes.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:15     Subject: Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One of my husband's best friends is getting married and he sent out an invitation only inviting DH. DH told me about it and I said why would he only invite you. He said well he doesn't really know you like that and told me not to get upset. However, I feel some kind of way about that. What do you guys think?


Just wondering...how do you not know your husband's best friend?


I've only been around him a handful of times.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:09     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?


I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.


Did you have some bad drama with this friend or his future wife? Bad blood with some other guests or family?

You must be leaving something out. No way they would purposely exclude you. They said your DH can bring your son but not you.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 20:55     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?


I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.


Did you have some bad drama with this friend or his future wife? Bad blood with some other guests or family?

You must be leaving something out. No way they would purposely exclude you. They said your DH can bring your son but not you.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 20:53     Subject: Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
Do you not get along with his best friend? That's the only explanation that makes sense.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 20:46     Subject: Re:Do you think it's appropriate to invite a married person to a wedding without their spouse?
I'm kinda wondering if there is more to this story...

I'd tell my husband to go and plan a spa day for myself!