Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the sperm donor to the 6 month old is not your fiance?

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OP...did he ask to stock up on slightly seasoned tuna before his trip?

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I did get pregnant rather quickly after we met. The pregnancy was not planned. We are both divorced and are older -in our 40s and have kids of our own.

I thought you were going to say you are in your 20s. Come on, a 40 something divorcee should not be so naive!

I going to call troll on the OP.

OP doesn't know that she's not the GF in this scenario.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

I'm sure he has. Don't be an idiot. She is leaving her baby to go after your fiance.

I still want to know who is watching the ex girlfriend's no daddy baby while she bikes around?

. She asked my fiancé's mother!

Is this a joke??? So she asked grandma? How sweet. Seriously though, for real?

Why wouldn't she ask grandma to babysit?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

I'm sure he has. Don't be an idiot. She is leaving her baby to go after your fiance.

I still want to know who is watching the ex girlfriend's no daddy baby while she bikes around?

. She asked my fiancé's mother!

Is this a joke??? So she asked grandma? How sweet. Seriously though, for real?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

I'm sure he has. Don't be an idiot. She is leaving her baby to go after your fiance.

I still want to know who is watching the ex girlfriend's no daddy baby while she bikes around?

. She asked my fiancé's mother!

Anonymous wrote:Wait. Are you the OP who lives with her fiancé in a home with his older kids and have to drive a long way to your job and your other kids school? And he refuses to make his older kids do anything around the house.


There was a recent thread about this and the ages of all parties are the same

Link please

Wait. Are you the OP who lives with her fiancé in a home with his older kids and have to drive a long way to your job and your other kids school? And he refuses to make his older kids do anything around the house.


There was a recent thread about this and the ages of all parties are the same

Sperm donor. Yeah right. He is the dad.

Her baby was conceived 15 or so months ago. You say they broke up about a year ago. So...honestly, it sounds very, very, very unlikely that she would break up with him and immediately (like, the next day) procure some sperm and shove it up her hoo-ha by whatever method and BAM instantly be pregnant. It's just not plausible.

I'm someone who is friends with a couple of exes. I've been invited to the weddings of an ex who I was with for four years (didn't go, since a piece of me still loves him) and one I was with for 3.years (went, totally happy for him, totally supportive of their happiness). I was best friends with my ex for a few years after we broke up and while I was sad that he hadn't wanted to marry me when we were together, we had been apart long enough that I knew it was for the best and I was so, so happy for them. We socialized as a couple with my then bf and we were very supportive of each other's relationships.

Even so, if I had asked him to go on a bike trip with me two months after their first son was born, she would have been right to punch me in the face. Who does that?!?! He has an infant!

I would say to him, "If you are serious about being a family, we need to set a date. After we're married, if we both have a friendship with your ex, I could see maybe socializing with her as a couple. But if the two of you want to leave your babies to go on vacation together, you still have romantic feelings for each other and I'm not okay with that. Go if you want to go, and we can work out custody and child support when you get back. If you still have feelings for her, please just go and don't waste outlet time trying to make a family that you don't really want."

Are you actually engaged? Is there a date set and plans in motion, at least for the marriage certificate? Or do you have a promise ring?

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Anonymous wrote:Were you with your bf when the ex's baby is conceived? No

Were you engaged before you got pregnant? No

Have you set a date? No.

When did he and the ex break up? Over a year ago

Why did she have a baby with a sperm donor? She asked my fiancé to have a baby with him. He said no. She wanted s baby

Have you socialized with her as a couple? Is she kind to you? Does she support your relationship? I've never met her

Is it normal for your bf to take long bike trips? Yes. He is an athlete and competes in bike and running races

It is absolutely nutso that a new mom with a 6 month old baby would leave the baby to take a multi-day bike trip with the father of a new 2 month old who is engaged to someone else. It's, like, so far beyond what any two people would ever do; it's absurd. Who wants a baby so desperately that they use a sperm donor and then leave their infant to go off with the father of someone else's infant? And how does the father not say, "That's crazy, Brittany! I have to take care of my baby. He/she's only 2 months old; I don't want to be away from him/her."

How long over a year ago? Do the math. His ex GF's baby is 6 months old. Add 9 months to that. If he broke up with her *about* a year ago, then the baby was conceived *before* they broke up. It's possible he said no. It's possible he thinks that the baby isn't his. But that doesn't mean that it isn't his. It all depends on when they last had sex. She could have told him she was on BC in order to get knocked up. And maybe that's why she wants him to go on a trip with her. She's using the biking thing because she knows he's an athlete and does that sort of thing, but it's a pretense to get him alone, bond, and then tell him the baby is his. It's possible that she realized when he had a baby with you that he wasn't closed off to the idea of fatherhood.

If I were you, I would want to be very clear on when he last slept with the ex GF. I know that sounds invasive, but the baby/breakup timeline does not add up, and I'd want some assurance.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

I'm sure he has. Don't be an idiot. She is leaving her baby to go after your fiance.

I still want to know who is watching the ex girlfriend's no daddy baby while she bikes around?