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Anonymous wrote:Why would you let him pick the ring??? What did you think would happen?

We went to look at rings together. I told him I wanted a delicate halo like this below:




But he got me something like this:



The halo has a gap around the diamond. It's a beautiful stone and I love it but I dislike the setting. I'm irked because I specificslly showed him the kind of halo I wanted.

Um, I can see why he thought he was getting you what you wanted.

I honestly can't tell the difference.

Married lady here for 10 years, I have never ever heard of a HALO in rings. Wow.

Anonymous wrote:I am a little embarrassed by my engagement ring. It's a little over a carat and seems to be a good quality stone (ideal cut round brilliant colorless) but I dislike the halo setting my fiancé picked. It's a little dull and not pretty enough. Also I'm the only one with the smallest diamomd in my circle. I love my fiancé and will wear this forever. Sometimes I look down and get annoyed.

Interesting. Is your finance wealthy? Perhaps thats the best he could do without getting into debt or using needed savings. I think it is important to discuss financial expectations from the beginning to ensure you are both on the same page.

Anonymous wrote:My husband spent nearly $30K on a 1.9k flawless... and now all my friends have 2k+ VS that were a lot less expensive. he's a moron.

That's why you use a private jeweler and not some store.

I got a 1.5k for my wife with amazing quality in a custom platinum setting for a third of that.

Did you know:
It is estimated that less than one percent of women will ever wear a diamond of one carat or more.

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Anonymous wrote:sitting here without my engagement or wedding ring on because I don't wear them every day.

Keep the wedding band on all the time, cheater.

Ha!! I work from home, so who the cares of I wear a ring or not. When I'm out and about I'm usually with my husband or kid or both. So,.... no.

Wow, your ring is beautiful. You are so lucky to have someone that thinks that highly of you that he would buy you something so lovely. The center diamond has good sparkle! Congratulations on your engagement! Start enjoying it, please.

OP, you should have pointed out exactly the ring you wanted. I agree that the ring on the top picture is prettier. I think you should take it back and exchange for what you want. It is just a ring.

If it bothers you that much, take it in and have it re-set yourself. Obviously he couldn't tell a difference between the two settings when he bought the ring, so he probably won't notice when you change it. Might cost you a little money but you get what you want over the long haul without hurting his feelings. Win-win!

Here's the thing - people will bitch at you for not liking the ring, claiming that the ring isn't important in the long run. And that's exactly right. The ring isn't important in the long run, so just wear for a year then tell him you're resetting it because you want something a little different. If caring about the ring is shallow, then he shouldn't care about this - after all, it's just a ring!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let him pick the ring??? What did you think would happen?

We went to look at rings together. I told him I wanted a delicate halo like this below:




But he got me something like this:



The halo has a gap around the diamond. It's a beautiful stone and I love it but I dislike the setting. I'm irked because I specificslly showed him the kind of halo I wanted.

Um, I can see why he thought he was getting you what you wanted.

I honestly can't tell the difference.

OP - you are off to a bad start already. I feel sorry for your husband-to-be, seriously.

I hope he realizes how shallow you are and that marrying you will just start up an endless lifetime of "I don't love my house","I don't love my pool", "I don't love my Fendi bag", " I don't love my kids' private school."

But he won't know until it's too late... RIP.

I can barely see the difference between these two rings. Your husband thinks he bought you exactly what you wanted. The good thing is you can reset this and he won't notice.

I don't wear my ring anymore.

It was beautiful and perfect and exactly what I wanted. At first I would be really nervous about losing because it was the most expensive thing I owned. After I got used to it, hand washing was always weird and I never felt like my hands were clean.

After the wedding, I started only wearing it on special occasions. I really don't get people who wear giant rings daily.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't tell the difference between those two rings. Why not just have it reset? I stopped wearing my e-ring regularly after my kids were born. Too easy to scratch them. Now, I just wear it for special occasions.

+1
Ladies, you stress and moan and carry on about a ring that I swear, you will not give a damn about in 10 years.... If you make it 10 years. If you have kids, they are a hazard and then, bam, you get used to not having them on. It's Just. A. Ring.
Signed, 9+years married, sitting here without my engagement or wedding ring on because I don't wear them every day.

I never wear my rings either. Stopped when I got pregnant and my fingers were swollen.

I did get upgraded to a 3 carat after we were married. DH was an intern when he proposed. After he became a surgeon, I got a better ring. I rarely wear them though.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a little embarrassed by my engagement ring. It's a little over a carat and seems to be a good quality stone (ideal cut round brilliant colorless) but I dislike the halo setting my fiancé picked. It's a little dull and not pretty enough. Also I'm the only one with the smallest diamomd in my circle. I love my fiancé and will wear this forever. Sometimes I look down and get annoyed.

The diamond may be forever, but your datability certainly isn't.

I feel so bad for the poor guy. If he only knew how she really feels.