Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 20:34     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:The child who is not taught that s/he can refuse to hug a relative, is more likely to be a 15 year old who feels unable to refuse to give his or her BF a blowjob.


Is this an actual study or you just pulled it out of your ass?
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 20:16     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:The child who is not taught that s/he can refuse to hug a relative, is more likely to be a 15 year old who feels unable to refuse to give his or her BF a blowjob.


Oh please, I was taught to hug my grandparents and I had no issue speaking up when an "uncle" was making me uncomfortable and my parents agreed and made sure to keep him away and stop inviting him over when I was there. That is part of parenting to teach when it is ok and safe and when it is not.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 20:10     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
My siblings, cousins and I all hated when Aunt Sophie saw us and loudly, slobberly kissed our faces and ears.

No one died or got sick or got molestes but once someone brought it up years later it was a yucky memory that all made us cringe and cover our ears...
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 20:07     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Seriously, this is your problem? Is she forcing you to give her a hug and a kiss? No?

Why do you have to interject yourself between grandparents and grandchildren. Let them figure out what works for them.



Children aren't empowered.


Grandma bribing for a hug, withholding gifts for a hug/kiss, putting down people til she gets one and then CRYING when she doesn't get one.

Man. dH needs to tell her to F'in relax and speak to your kid like the age he is. So he will tell her to bug off. But whatever the heck is happening now is just apsurd, on the part of the self centered gramma.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 18:10     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.


How often do you have to press your body onto that of someone who you don't want to meet?

If there is one thing that is all about my child, it's her body.


So everything is about her. No need to pay respect to a relative. It's her body and the special snowflake doesn't want a hug. Why are you letting your child run the show?



SMDH. Do you not get that ***it is polite to GREET someone by saying hello, but that you don't have to have bodily contact to be polite********? You can just prompt them to say, "Hi, Grandma," and then hugs can be freely given when the child overcomes her initial shyness/reluctance ***on her own.***

Who are you gross people who WANT a forced hug? Who are you people that are so controlling that you gain satisfaction from the hug of a child who doesn't yet want to hug you?


Well said.

Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 18:09     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.


How often do you have to press your body onto that of someone who you don't want to meet?

If there is one thing that is all about my child, it's her body.


So everything is about her. No need to pay respect to a relative. It's her body and the special snowflake doesn't want a hug. Why are you letting your child run the show?



SMDH. Do you not get that ***it is polite to GREET someone by saying hello, but that you don't have to have bodily contact to be polite********? You can just prompt them to say, "Hi, Grandma," and then hugs can be freely given when the child overcomes her initial shyness/reluctance ***on her own.***

Who are you gross people who WANT a forced hug? Who are you people that are so controlling that you gain satisfaction from the hug of a child who doesn't yet want to hug you?
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 18:06     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.


How often do you have to press your body onto that of someone who you don't want to meet?

If there is one thing that is all about my child, it's her body.


So everything is about her. No need to pay respect to a relative. It's her body and the special snowflake doesn't want a hug. Why are you letting your child run the show?



Okay. Now you're a troll.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 18:04     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.


How often do you have to press your body onto that of someone who you don't want to meet?

If there is one thing that is all about my child, it's her body.


So everything is about her. No need to pay respect to a relative. It's her body and the special snowflake doesn't want a hug. Why are you letting your child run the show?

Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 18:02     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.




Oh, my word. This is the worst thing I've read on DCUM in a LONG time...
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 17:58     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.


How often do you have to press your body onto that of someone who you don't want to meet?

If there is one thing that is all about my child, it's her body.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 17:54     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.


Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 17:53     Subject: Re:Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Sadly your child will need to do many things in life he or she doesn't want to do. I often have to shake hands with people I don't want to meet. Not everything is about your child. Your making this all about your child which will cause problems later on.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 17:51     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
The child who is not taught that s/he can refuse to hug a relative, is more likely to be a 15 year old who feels unable to refuse to give his or her BF a blowjob.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 17:48     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
JackieTreehorn wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This kind of thing has been happening since the beginning of time. Somehow we all survived...


And some of us were abused, molested, pressured into sex, or date raped because we were taught to go along, to be "good," to be liked.


You're making a huge leap there, drama queen.


Educate yourself.


Learn to calm your little self down.


Wow. Sexual abuse and dominance didn't happen to you, so it didn't happen to everyone? OK. Wow. I feel sorry for your children.


"I feel sorry for your children." !!! Wasn't that just cited as one of the classic DCUM eye-rollers spouted by posters toodim to think of anything fresh? Haha!


Stop this silly crying. Who cares what you feel? Give grandpa a hug now. NOW! And later, when he tells you to be a good girl and keep a secret about his special game, you better mind him.


Thank you


Sadly, this.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 17:23     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:I dont know abt you guys but Im Asian, I teach my kids to give their grandparents, uncles, aunt (both side) a big hugs whenever they come over.

Its like building a good close knit family relationship.


I'd rather my nieces and nephews hug me because they feel like it not because they'll get in trouble if they don't.