Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:55     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as hateful as mothers of this generation are toward their parents, I can see why so many stay away from their kids an grandkids. Why would anyone chose to put up with the abuse?


This was my thought! Read the threads here and so how selfish, nasty, and shrewish the adult kids are when it comes to their parents - and especially their parents around the grandkids - and it's no surprise they don't want to be around, even to help.


That's Xers for you whiny shrews that can't see their own faults as they complain about everyone else.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:33     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as hateful as mothers of this generation are toward their parents, I can see why so many stay away from their kids an grandkids. Why would anyone chose to put up with the abuse?


This was my thought! Read the threads here and so how selfish, nasty, and shrewish the adult kids are when it comes to their parents - and especially their parents around the grandkids - and it's no surprise they don't want to be around, even to help.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:23     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
It's definitely your mom. My parents drop everything for us when there is a crisis. I found out my now ex-DH was cheating and kicked him out. My parents came to help pack his stuff and just help me function. My nephew needed emergency surgery - they dropped everything and flew up here after work and stayed for a week.

Some Boomers are assholes. Some are awesome. Just like every other generation.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:16     Subject: Re:Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Sorry to hear your family is going through a tough time. Hope your husband is ok. OP, I sympathize. My mom is deceased and my MIL is extremely selfish. The first thing my MIL said upon meeting her first granddaughter was, "I don't change diapers." She has never even held my kid so either my husband or I could eat or have a short break. That said, I do not ascribe that to all people of her age or anything. I know plenty of people whose parents/ILs are very nice and try to help out when they can. It sounds like your mom does help some. I just try to remember what it's like having no family help and hope to be around long enough to help out my grown kids if they should become parents.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 12:05     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am so aggravated at my mother. My husband is in the hospital from a car accident. We have two kids. Heaven forbid she change her freaking schedule and her perfect retirement routine. That would just be too anxiety provoking. She might even have to, gasp, drive 30 minutes here and back to help. So I'm lugging two young kids to the hospital, running out of food and cooking plain pasta. She can barely be bothered to text, "it's not serious, is it?"

She actually does care. But since she babysat last week for 8 hours she feels taken advantage of and doesn't want to come help. but also guilty now for not stepping up. She even said to me, "I don't want to come over because I have plans with my other granddaughter and she catches everything. I don't want to come to the hospital and risk getting sick." Lamest excuse ever. Just freaking tell me your too burned out from your little sitting job last week. I may not understand but at least you won't compound the situation by playing coy.

What is wrong with that generation? Seems like everyone I know who's over 60 has an attitude of "I did my work in life, I got my money, you're on your own". So selfish! I cannot imagine having a family member or friend in the hospital and not offering to help or bother calling.

Newsflash to you baby boomers, you might regret your attitude when you're old and alone.
Also, if you're not going to step up, at least call. don't text.


That is a valid reason. Older people should not visit hospitals unless they have to, because they are more susceptible to communicable disease. Her not wanting to spread anything to other kids is valid too. You're being selfish by expecting help. Solve your own problem.


Are you OP's mom? Did you miss the part where this is a freaking emergency? Sometimes, people need to lean on their family when there's an emergency and their family needs to get their heads out of their asses and help.


Not if it compromises their own health, no. In case of a "freaking emergency," OP should have a trusted babysitter (or 3) that she can call. And she should plan for that.


GMa has no problem spending time with the other grandchildren. It could be that OP has raised nasty, entitled, little brats like OP and Gma just don't have the energy or desire to be around them long term.


Does OP's mother have some kind of immunodeficiency that precludes her from interacting with people and going out in public? She has no problem being with her other grandchild, so how is she compromising her health by baby sitting OP's child? She wouldn't have to go to the hospital. Does it occur to you that it might be more of a comfort for the OP's child to be with the grandmother during this stressful time than with a "trusted" babysitter?

Good Lord, don't break your legs jumping off your high horse.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 11:40     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:Really? How about the fact that this is the generation that made money off the younger generations? Housing is 3xs what they paid. College tuition is ridiculous.

But they'll have a nice retirement. All that traveling and dining out...


A freaking men.
They scrimped and saved through the seventies and some eighties. Then during the 90s it was a consumer heaven for them. Huge houses, Christmases, wasting tons on dining and entertainment. Putting it all into their refinanced mortgages, and letting the credit card debt gain some weight. Not to mention their weight gain. Subsequent diabetes or high blood pressure. Expensive meds. "Waaaah! Medicine is expensive!!"
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 11:37     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Am I the only one who finds it ironic when millennials complain that Boomers are selfish because they won't do exactly what millennials want them to do?

Raise your own family, OP. No one owes you anything.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 11:31     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Really? How about the fact that this is the generation that made money off the younger generations? Housing is 3xs what they paid. College tuition is ridiculous.

But they'll have a nice retirement. All that traveling and dining out...


College tuition is so expensive because somewhere along the way between the early 90s & early 2000s, millenials convinced themselves that every colleg student needs access to giant, state of the art rock climbing walls in order to be properly educated.

THAT is why college is so expensive. Baby boomers have very little to do with that.

Plus, aren't most baby boomers in their mid to late 70s by now, not early 60s?

If your mom is in her 60s then she was a teen/college student during the 70s. That was a very selfish and me me me time, similar to our fragile millennials. It is no wonder why she is selfish.



Explain to me exactly how millennials decisions effected education policy while they were merely school children and teenagers. Millennials were not voting or in the workplace in any meaningful way or number during the 90s or early 2000s. Those flashy educational expenses were status symbols for boomer parents. Sure, children may want the world if you offer it to them, but it's ultimately adults' job to establish limits. If you really think children were having this much influence--where the hell were the adults that were letting them! The worst you can accuse millennials of is now coming to expect what they've known all along, which, while unflattering, we all do to some extent.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:48     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Donot label someone selfish until you say I am having an emergency, I need help, and state specifically what you need.

I do agree that some active retirees treat retirement like their job and do not like their routines to be upset.

My type A mom and dad talk about how they are at the busiest times in their lives (my dad is retired, my mom not yet).
They raised 4 kids and both took turns finishing bachelors and masters degrees while raising us. I guess you forget!
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:41     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Really? How about the fact that this is the generation that made money off the younger generations? Housing is 3xs what they paid. College tuition is ridiculous.

But they'll have a nice retirement. All that traveling and dining out...


College tuition is so expensive because somewhere along the way between the early 90s & early 2000s, millenials convinced themselves that every colleg student needs access to giant, state of the art rock climbing walls in order to be properly educated.

THAT is why college is so expensive. Baby boomers have very little to do with that.

Plus, aren't most baby boomers in their mid to late 70s by now, not early 60s?

If your mom is in her 60s then she was a teen/college student during the 70s. That was a very selfish and me me me time, similar to our fragile millennials. It is no wonder why she is selfish.


The oldest baby baby boomers are not quite 70.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:34     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:I am so aggravated at my mother. My husband is in the hospital from a car accident. We have two kids. Heaven forbid she change her freaking schedule and her perfect retirement routine. That would just be too anxiety provoking. She might even have to, gasp, drive 30 minutes here and back to help. So I'm lugging two young kids to the hospital, running out of food and cooking plain pasta. She can barely be bothered to text, "it's not serious, is it?"

She actually does care. But since she babysat last week for 8 hours she feels taken advantage of and doesn't want to come help. but also guilty now for not stepping up. She even said to me, "I don't want to come over because I have plans with my other granddaughter and she catches everything. I don't want to come to the hospital and risk getting sick." Lamest excuse ever. Just freaking tell me your too burned out from your little sitting job last week. I may not understand but at least you won't compound the situation by playing coy.

What is wrong with that generation? Seems like everyone I know who's over 60 has an attitude of "I did my work in life, I got my money, you're on your own". So selfish! I cannot imagine having a family member or friend in the hospital and not offering to help or bother calling.

Newsflash to you baby boomers, you might regret your attitude when you're old and alone.
Also, if you're not going to step up, at least call. don't text.


1st, send this to your mother.
2nd, I have a feeling you are not a good daughter.
3rd, your problems, figure them out yourself.
4th, I have ungrateful kids like you. I look forward to being old, alone, and dying without any regrets.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:32     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:Boomers and the millennials they spawned are absolutely insufferable. We Xers are surrounded.


+1 the most spoiled people ever.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:29     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:Really? How about the fact that this is the generation that made money off the younger generations? Housing is 3xs what they paid. College tuition is ridiculous.

But they'll have a nice retirement. All that traveling and dining out...


College tuition is so expensive because somewhere along the way between the early 90s & early 2000s, millenials convinced themselves that every colleg student needs access to giant, state of the art rock climbing walls in order to be properly educated.

THAT is why college is so expensive. Baby boomers have very little to do with that.

Plus, aren't most baby boomers in their mid to late 70s by now, not early 60s?

If your mom is in her 60s then she was a teen/college student during the 70s. That was a very selfish and me me me time, similar to our fragile millennials. It is no wonder why she is selfish.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:17     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My parents are always willing to help but we've never asked for anything out of reason. My in laws do extraordinary things for their daughters family but for our kids they are very restrictive and controlled.


Yup, they help out their daughters but the sons are shit out of luck.


GenX DIL will hardly let us near the grand kids, but showed up at the door with kids and pajamas when DS need hospital. We took care of them of course. DS is a nice guy; apparently we could have raised him to be a little more selfish.


So your DS is an angel, but your DIL is a bitch? Your son needed to go to the hospital and you kindly watched your own grandkids while your son was hospitalized? The best your can say about your child is "DS is a nice guy?" I think it is the case of pot calling kettle black.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2016 10:11     Subject: Baby boomers so selfish, what is the point of family anyway
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My parents are always willing to help but we've never asked for anything out of reason. My in laws do extraordinary things for their daughters family but for our kids they are very restrictive and controlled.


Yup, they help out their daughters but the sons are shit out of luck.


GenX DIL will hardly let us near the grand kids, but showed up at the door with kids and pajamas when DS need hospital. We took care of them of course. DS is a nice guy; apparently we could have raised him to be a little more selfish.