Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 16:03     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:It's definitely not normal, but I don't think it's necessarily nosy or controlling behavior, either. I think it can come from unusual behavior in her own upbringing or some sort of social ineptitude.


Except that MIL is probably socially inept only when it is convenient for her to be.....

Even if she is "just nosy" (!!!) - which is awful, IMO - shut that sh!t down, OP!
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:53     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is your MIL Indian? I am Indian and several of my older and otherwise normal female relatives behave like this.

Nope! Very white actually. Poor mannered WASP.


+1

THE WORST.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:53     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
It's definitely not normal, but I don't think it's necessarily nosy or controlling behavior, either. I think it can come from unusual behavior in her own upbringing or some sort of social ineptitude.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:53     Subject: Re:Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here.
MIL worked before her retirement and was a breadwinner actually. However she never buys herself anything, another weird thing. She wears same stuff every single day.


OP, since you are still checking this thread, what's it gonna be? Are you going to be a grown-up and set the boundary--even if MIL and DH might not like it--or are you going to continue to be a doormat?


Are you bully MIL? WTF is your problem that you don't have basic manners?
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:52     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Close your bedroom door. My MIL would never go in my bedroom without permission or some real reason, like unpacking and putting a book on my bed for us, or to say hi to the dog.


God, if only this worked with my in-laws. If a door is closed, that's the first place they go.


+2

Deadbolt. Stat.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:50     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:People that nosy and invasive are lacking quite a lot of social skills.
Now to figure out if it's cluelessness or deliberate.


+1

Does she have Apserger's or something, or is she just an a-hole?
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:49     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why are you letting this happen?

No, this is not normal.


Because one time I said something and she started crying saying:"I thought we are family!".
Husband got upset and told me to be kind with her.


Protecting a reasonable amount of your privacy is not unkind. She is being unkind by being intrusive. You can tell her, "yes, of course we are family, but even family members have their privacy." Stop her from doing this. If you need to put a lock on your closet door, do it.



+10000

She is using the "but we are family" to get her way. Nip it in the bud. Now.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:48     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No not normal. She sounds like a mom to a mommas boy. Either jewish or italian.


Stop with the bigoted stereotypes.


I'm Jewish and I thought I'd heard everything...is there a stereotype about Jewish women going through purses?


I think it has more to do with the one about being nosy. Don't be thick.


Wow. Different poster here. No one I know from either background has EVER, EVER even considered being so rude. Rude is rude - any background.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 15:46     Subject: Weird mother-in-law
Anonymous wrote:Close your bedroom door. My MIL would never go in my bedroom without permission or some real reason, like unpacking and putting a book on my bed for us, or to say hi to the dog.


+1

And LOCK it. Seriously. This woman has issues. I know someone whose SIL did this to her - but only once!