Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 10:25     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DW is a total 10, but she's never had to try to maintain it before. The women in her family were all similarly attractive until they had kids and never hit the gym after that. We're about to start trying for our first, and the thought of her never looking like she does right now again scares me. How can I convince her we'd be best off adopting? We'd love the kid just the same, biological parenting isn't "better" in any way, and it'd mean a much happier life for us together.

Before you ask, I'm hitting Equinox regularly, I'm doing my part and I'm regularly getting hit on by women on the street when I go for a run shirtless. And I totally understand that she's not going to look 35 forever. But there's a big gap between the women who are still making an effort to look good at 45 and the women who aren't, and I'd prefer not to be on the wrong side of that divide.

I don't think you understand how children work. It's not pregnancy and childbirth that changes women's bodies. It's the drastic change in lifestyle that comes with a newborn child.

Say you adopt. What next? Do you think an adopted child doesn't need food, care, diaper changes, daycare pickups? Do you think they take no time at all? Do you think you can adopt the kid, put it on a shelf and that's where the story ends? Do you think you'll still hit the gym as much? Don't you WANT to spend time with your child? Shouldn't your wife?


+1 I remember that high school project where they gave you a bag of flour as a surrogate for a child. I just put it in my locker and did my own thing. Can't do that with a child. Sometimes I wish I could leave my 2 year old at home alone and hit the gym..
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 09:22     Subject: Re:How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Hey, Shallow Hal....right now I'm picturing you as a short, fat, balding guy with a vestigial tail.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2016 09:07     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Anonymous wrote:I don't think you understand how children work. It's not pregnancy and childbirth that changes women's bodies. It's the drastic change in lifestyle that comes with a newborn child.

Say you adopt. What next? Do you think an adopted child doesn't need food, care, diaper changes, daycare pickups? Do you think they take no time at all? Do you think you can adopt the kid, put it on a shelf and that's where the story ends? Do you think you'll still hit the gym as much? Don't you WANT to spend time with your child? Shouldn't your wife?


This is a good point.
OP, read the thread "Why do women let motherhood destroy their marriages... "
This could very well happen with adoption too!
Learn about the mindset of a future SuperMOM. Discuss this at length with your wife.
Don't adopt or have kids unless you can agree on priorities like continued self care and sexual intimacy while also being good parents.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2016 21:10     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Anonymous wrote:My DW is a total 10, but she's never had to try to maintain it before. The women in her family were all similarly attractive until they had kids and never hit the gym after that. We're about to start trying for our first, and the thought of her never looking like she does right now again scares me. How can I convince her we'd be best off adopting? We'd love the kid just the same, biological parenting isn't "better" in any way, and it'd mean a much happier life for us together.

Before you ask, I'm hitting Equinox regularly, I'm doing my part and I'm regularly getting hit on by women on the street when I go for a run shirtless. And I totally understand that she's not going to look 35 forever. But there's a big gap between the women who are still making an effort to look good at 45 and the women who aren't, and I'd prefer not to be on the wrong side of that divide.

I don't think you understand how children work. It's not pregnancy and childbirth that changes women's bodies. It's the drastic change in lifestyle that comes with a newborn child.

Say you adopt. What next? Do you think an adopted child doesn't need food, care, diaper changes, daycare pickups? Do you think they take no time at all? Do you think you can adopt the kid, put it on a shelf and that's where the story ends? Do you think you'll still hit the gym as much? Don't you WANT to spend time with your child? Shouldn't your wife?
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2016 20:00     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Wow, you're a real catch. Could you be any more shallow?
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2016 08:52     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you want you wife to stay hot after pregnancy you'll need to make sure you have plenty of money to hire a housekeeper, a nanny and a cook so that your wife can find the time to maintain her body. She'll probably need a breast lift after breast feeding and regular injections of botox and filler.
I would also suggest helping with the child rearing and house maintenance but I get the impression that that's not your style.


This oh and have the kid before she is 30 so her body can actually recover before metabolism slows down and makes that much much harder.


Also, have only one kid. The more kids you have, the more ragged your wife's body will be.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2016 07:55     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
I know many woman, myself included, who actually looked better after kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2016 00:28     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
If you both are so vain that you cannot sacrifice your physical appearances for the sake of a child, then you are both better off adopting.

Goldfish.

Because being a parent is all about sacrifice sacrifice & did I ever mention sacrifice.......??!

You sound very shallow + are obviously too superficial to even be a good parent since once you have a child, the center of the universe switches from you to your child.

And you do not seem like you are ready to evolve yet.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 21:42     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Anonymous wrote:If you want you wife to stay hot after pregnancy you'll need to make sure you have plenty of money to hire a housekeeper, a nanny and a cook so that your wife can find the time to maintain her body. She'll probably need a breast lift after breast feeding and regular injections of botox and filler.
I would also suggest helping with the child rearing and house maintenance but I get the impression that that's not your style.


This oh and have the kid before she is 30 so her body can actually recover before metabolism slows down and makes that much much harder.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 21:31     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
If you want you wife to stay hot after pregnancy you'll need to make sure you have plenty of money to hire a housekeeper, a nanny and a cook so that your wife can find the time to maintain her body. She'll probably need a breast lift after breast feeding and regular injections of botox and filler.
I would also suggest helping with the child rearing and house maintenance but I get the impression that that's not your style.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 21:19     Subject: Re:How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Yo OP, the key is to make sure if she wants bio kids to get a c-section so she doesn't stretch, and while she is under, get a boob job.

And while you are at it, learn to make a better troll post.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 20:05     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Anonymous wrote:You do realize that when women formerly hot/fit "let themselves go" post-pregnancy it's about 15% due to having been pregnant and 85% due to the stresses and schedule of being a mom, right?


This. I've known so many men who complain that their wives got out of shape after kids, but none of them help out with the kids very much. Won't help cook healthy meals, won't watch the kids so mom can workout, won't help with tasks around the house so mom has the time to go to the gym. I've known men who hit the gym everyday but get upset if their wife wants to, since they'd be stuck with the kids. Women usually do most of the domestic work even if they also work full-time. The men I know who are heavily invested in their family, do their fair share of the work, and make family fitness a priority have the best looking wives.

Also, women who make fitness and looking attractive a priority before pregnancy tend to keep it up after kids. Women who don't usually fall apart kids or no kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 19:19     Subject: Re:How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
Oh OP. This is the saddest post.

As hot as you claim to be as a couple, I am sure that you now realize, that's all you seem to have going in your marriage. P

Please don't have kids. Adopt some dogs.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 19:18     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
And if they are married to assholes like OP
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2016 17:59     Subject: How to talk DW into adoption so she stays hot?
You do realize that when women formerly hot/fit "let themselves go" post-pregnancy it's about 15% due to having been pregnant and 85% due to the stresses and schedule of being a mom, right?