Why are youngerguys, unsupportive guys on this thread? Lol you sound deranged and pathetic. A guy who does well with the ladies would FOR SURE feel the need to leave these comments!

I am early 50's and have had a couple serious relationships over the past four years (one with a guy 11 years younger than me and two with guys very close to my age).

There is definitely a weird cultural phenomenon going on right now. Guys from 26-39 hit on me way more than men my age. I don't know if it is a cougar thing or they think older women are easy, but it happens a lot.

It is very easy for a late 40s/early 50s woman to get dates with men of a variety of ages. It is harder, though, to find a msn that you really want to spend the rest of your life with.

Anonymous wrote:That's confident but not attractive to most men

Okay, whatever you say.

That's confident but not attractive to most men

Anonymous wrote:Take heart! Had a cute young early 30 something slip me his number the other day when I was out with my 55 y.o. commitment-phobe boyfriend. We aren't as universally washed up as this board would have us believe!

Totally agree. I have been playing soccer again and can keep up with the young hot men. They would be shocked to know I could be their mother. The best part of being an ex pro soccer player is the ability to do this:

Anonymous wrote:Sexual attraction isn't just about the size and shape of bodies. People (except losers) are typically attracted to confident and happy people. No one wants to need to stroke someone's ego all the time no matter what they look like. A happy, confident older woman is going to attract the type of 30 year old men who don't need someone vulnerable and easily dominated in order to feel good about themselves.

Lovely lady, there's a difference between confident and plain dumb...those are not the only two options for a happy, secure, attractive 30-year-old man: what about an equally happy, secure, attractive 30-year-old woman?

It's all individual. Who cares what people on the Internet think. I hope things are great for you OP!

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Anonymous wrote:The key is to be a fun, friendly interesting person. Confidence is sexy and is easier for us older ladies who no longer care so much what others think of us.

Anonymous wrote:Always remember, ladies, that you have exponential knowledge, and sexual confidence, that you didn't have in your 20's. Personally, give me the woman with the confidence and the less than societally idealized appearance, than the much younger inexperienced bubblehead.

Nobody gives a damn about your "confidence". What you don't have is a 20-year old body. THAT is what men want.

"unconfident" 25 >>> "confident" 55

Sorry if truth hurts.

No decent human being wants to be with a person who's going out of their way to tell middle aged women they shouldn't feel confident.

Sorry if truth hurts.

Go ahead and feel confident if you want. Just don't delude yourself that it's important to men at all.

Sorry if truth hurts.

Men love confident women. I can see why you don't

Different poster here...you ARE deluding yourself. Having said that, who cares? If it makes you happy...

Sexual attraction isn't just about the size and shape of bodies. People (except losers) are typically attracted to confident and happy people. No one wants to need to stroke someone's ego all the time no matter what they look like. A happy, confident older woman is going to attract the type of 30 year old men who don't need someone vulnerable and easily dominated in order to feel good about themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:The key is to be a fun, friendly interesting person. Confidence is sexy and is easier for us older ladies who no longer care so much what others think of us.

Anonymous wrote:Always remember, ladies, that you have exponential knowledge, and sexual confidence, that you didn't have in your 20's. Personally, give me the woman with the confidence and the less than societally idealized appearance, than the much younger inexperienced bubblehead.

Nobody gives a damn about your "confidence". What you don't have is a 20-year old body. THAT is what men want.

"unconfident" 25 >>> "confident" 55

Sorry if truth hurts.

Yet 55-year olds get married every single day. How do you explain that?

NP. First of all, not that many do to begin with. Second of all, how many of those who marry are able to choose from 30 year olds?

Get real, sheesh. I mean I'm all for self-confidence and all, but does it really have to stem from how fuckable you think you are?

No one can choose from everyone they'd rather be with. People choose the best from what is gettable. So it doesn't really make a difference what a man marrying a 55-year old woman wants. Actions are what matters. Wants are a fantasyland.

Anonymous wrote:The thought of some cougar preying on younger men just to get their rocks off just skeeves me out! I mean, my brother got all sorts of sh*t for his May - September relationship. He was 43 and his then girlfriend was 27 and many of the women we know: a) badmouthed him; and b) badmouthed her. Personally, I think it was just jealousy that he was able to find a woman, although not within his so-called peer group, who loved and appreciated him and that she had taken an otherwise available man off the market for their divorced, sorry asses.

This is one area where sexes will never ever be equal. Don't even go there

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Anonymous wrote:The key is to be a fun, friendly interesting person. Confidence is sexy and is easier for us older ladies who no longer care so much what others think of us.

Anonymous wrote:Always remember, ladies, that you have exponential knowledge, and sexual confidence, that you didn't have in your 20's. Personally, give me the woman with the confidence and the less than societally idealized appearance, than the much younger inexperienced bubblehead.

Nobody gives a damn about your "confidence". What you don't have is a 20-year old body. THAT is what men want.

"unconfident" 25 >>> "confident" 55

Sorry if truth hurts.

Yet 55-year olds get married every single day. How do you explain that?

NP. First of all, not that many do to begin with. Second of all, how many of those who marry are able to choose from 30 year olds?

Get real, sheesh. I mean I'm all for self-confidence and all, but does it really have to stem from how fuckable you think you are?

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Anonymous wrote:The key is to be a fun, friendly interesting person. Confidence is sexy and is easier for us older ladies who no longer care so much what others think of us.

Anonymous wrote:Always remember, ladies, that you have exponential knowledge, and sexual confidence, that you didn't have in your 20's. Personally, give me the woman with the confidence and the less than societally idealized appearance, than the much younger inexperienced bubblehead.

Nobody gives a damn about your "confidence". What you don't have is a 20-year old body. THAT is what men want.

"unconfident" 25 >>> "confident" 55

Sorry if truth hurts.

Really....explain that to the guy I have been seeing for >1yr and is 16yrs younger than me. I will let him know your thoughts while he is having at me tonight.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, don't believe the boards. If you take care of yourself and look good and hold yourself with confidence, and who can't do that at 50, the guys in their 30's start to take notice. Wild thing is once you tell them how old you are, they don't care.

Sure, they'll bang you for a while, but forget commitment. You'll get dumped as soon as they find someone younger.

And at our age we will probably be the ones doing the dumping when we get bored with him on the XBOX all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:The key is to be a fun, friendly interesting person. Confidence is sexy and is easier for us older ladies who no longer care so much what others think of us.

Anonymous wrote:Always remember, ladies, that you have exponential knowledge, and sexual confidence, that you didn't have in your 20's. Personally, give me the woman with the confidence and the less than societally idealized appearance, than the much younger inexperienced bubblehead.

Nobody gives a damn about your "confidence". What you don't have is a 20-year old body. THAT is what men want.

"unconfident" 25 >>> "confident" 55

Sorry if truth hurts.

Yet 55-year olds get married every single day. How do you explain that?