Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:56     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Unless you as dad will be called Papa, I don't honestly see why you would possibly care. The incest thing is straight up BIZARRE and the fact that your mind would even go there says WAY more about you than your wife or her father.


+1. OP sounds like a real douche canoe.


I think OP has control issues in general.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:54     Subject: Re:FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
OP, what does your child call you (or what do you refer to yourself as to your child)? If it's Papa, then yes, having a grandfather called Papa might be odd. Otherwise you are making way to much out of this. Papa is a variation of what is used to refer to a grandfather. You have some very odd hangups about this name.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:47     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
DH grew up calling my his grandparents "Bama and Papa" and "Nana and Grandpa" in Northern California. Nothing weird there.

I called my grandparents in Baltimore "Grandma Flo and Pop-Pop" and "Grandma Lois and Grandpa Joe." Also nothing weird. Just what we called them.

FWIW, DS calls my dad "Pop-Pop," but it often comes ou sounding more like "Papa." It's all good.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:44     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:Growing up in the Midwest my wife called here parents Amma and Papa. She wants our son to call them that too. I've never heard anyone call a grandfather Papa. I think southerners or people in rural areas may use some variant but not straight Papa. To me it's no different than calling him Dad. It seems incredibly inappropriate and even implies something incestuous between him and his daughter. She doesn't see it. I think that the fact that she called them these things is evidence enough that they are names for parents but she doesn't see it. What's the best way to handle this? We are all together for the week and I feel done after only 24 hours.


Papa i s perfectly acceptable. You are being ridiculously silly and obtuse.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:43     Subject: Re:FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Back in the day...kids used to call their father "pa"....(reference any old movie or TV show...e.g., Bonanza...)...Papa is actually short for "Pa's Pa"...
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:35     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
My husband grew up calling his maternal grandmother and grandfather Nana and Papa. They lived in Maine. My daughter now calls my husband's parents Nana and Papa. Why exactly would this bother anyone?
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:33     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
My son calls FIL "Papa" (paw-paw), and calls my dad "Papa Frank." I don't see any issue with it.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:31     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:Unless you as dad will be called Papa, I don't honestly see why you would possibly care. The incest thing is straight up BIZARRE and the fact that your mind would even go there says WAY more about you than your wife or her father.


+1. OP sounds like a real douche canoe.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:29     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yuck. Papa sounds like a dad's name. And since YOU'RE the dad, if you don't like it then your wishes should be respected. I would defer to my husband on this and expect him to defer to me on what names the grandmothers could use.


Nobody actually calls their fathers papa but lots of people.call their grandpas papa.


I find a lot of hipsters have their kids call them Papa. Bearded men, all of them. Ok, when I say "a lot" I mean that I have met like 2, but whatever.


This totally cracks me up bc its so true! I have a hipster cousin, complete with beard and handlebar mustache and kids who call him "papa". So ridiculous
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:28     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
It's hilarious to see how hung up people are getting over a word! I dot. Even know wher to go with the incestuous comment.... It's so bizarre, I can't even.


What do know is this: people call thier grandparents is regional, cultural, and personal. I know Opas, Papus, Papas, Peperes, Pops, Pas, Granddads, Grandpas, Papaw, etc. Yu go with what is traditional in YOUR family, and hat finds meaning with the kids and Grandparents.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 09:21     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:We are all together for the week and I feel done after only 24 hours.


Here's your true problem. The names aren't the issue--sounds like you're frustrated with the whole visiting with in-laws situation, and if Papa wasn't an issue, something else would be.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 08:56     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Unless you as dad will be called Papa, I don't honestly see why you would possibly care. The incest thing is straight up BIZARRE and the fact that your mind would even go there says WAY more about you than your wife or her father.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 08:48     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:
I'm French and our name for "Dad" is Papa.
There is no way someone other than my children's father is going to be called Papa!


Yes, but that isn't true in English so it's a common name for a grandfather.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 08:48     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yuck. Papa sounds like a dad's name. And since YOU'RE the dad, if you don't like it then your wishes should be respected. I would defer to my husband on this and expect him to defer to me on what names the grandmothers could use.


Nobody actually calls their fathers papa but lots of people.call their grandpas papa.


I find a lot of hipsters have their kids call them Papa. Bearded men, all of them. Ok, when I say "a lot" I mean that I have met like 2, but whatever.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2016 08:45     Subject: FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
I am another one who called my grandparents Nana and Papa. They were from NYC, btw.