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Anonymous wrote:OP is cheap not poor . YUCK

I'm "cheap," not poor, too. Why, "yuck?" I imagine my investment accounts, retirement accounts, rental properties, jewelry, etc. exceed yours but my kids are almost always in hand me downs and thrift store finds. You'd never know it: Justice, Under Armour, Nike, Land's End, etc. I'll "yuk" it up all the way to the bank and teach my kids a lesson, too.

My parents were frugal, I am the opposite.
It was shutty seeing other people have more and better stuff.
Hope your bank account makes you happy.
We go to Cayman and Europe annually.

Did you not read my post? Other kids don't have more or better stuff.

Which do you think my kids will appreciate a decade from now: that their college and, if they wish, graduate schools, are paid for, they will never have to worry about taking care of their parents, took nice vacations (Ireland, Canada, and Yellowstone were our last 3), etc OR that their mom and dad drove BMWs/Mercedes, leased new cars every few years, lived in huge homes and they will have to forge their eat through college including massive debt accumulation? Hmmmmmm...

I would rather have the parents who spent money on clothes and fun.

Different priorities, I guess. Hope you feel the same way in 20 years and are happy you spent $40 on a shirt for a child that was later donated and bought by me for my kid for $3. I know I'll be happy with our choices then. If you will be, too, then great! Your choices help mine!!

You are getting ripped off. I hav gotten stuff new for that price or cheaper. Then resell it to people like you.

I used it as an example. I rarely spend more than $1 on an item of clothing. I don't resell...I pass them on to friends who can use them when we finish with them, with rare exception. My child is in a sport that has specialized clothing. I buy it typically for $3-$4 at a thirft shop, we use them, and then resell them for $15 each on Ebay. Other than that we pass on all reuseble clothing to friends.

No one is going to buy a very used shirt for $15. You can get them new at the discount stores cheaper.

Save your eye roll, as optometry misread my post. I said I don't resell anything but the specialized clothing on child uses for a sport. That is what I sell for $15 on ebay. All other items I buy from thrift shops are passed on to friends, free. Did I ever mention a used shirt? The specialized sport clothing that I sell on ebay is not a used shirt.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is cheap not poor . YUCK

I'm "cheap," not poor, too. Why, "yuck?" I imagine my investment accounts, retirement accounts, rental properties, jewelry, etc. exceed yours but my kids are almost always in hand me downs and thrift store finds. You'd never know it: Justice, Under Armour, Nike, Land's End, etc. I'll "yuk" it up all the way to the bank and teach my kids a lesson, too.

My parents were frugal, I am the opposite.
It was shutty seeing other people have more and better stuff.
Hope your bank account makes you happy.
We go to Cayman and Europe annually.

Did you not read my post? Other kids don't have more or better stuff.

Which do you think my kids will appreciate a decade from now: that their college and, if they wish, graduate schools, are paid for, they will never have to worry about taking care of their parents, took nice vacations (Ireland, Canada, and Yellowstone were our last 3), etc OR that their mom and dad drove BMWs/Mercedes, leased new cars every few years, lived in huge homes and they will have to forge their eat through college including massive debt accumulation? Hmmmmmm...

I would rather have the parents who spent money on clothes and fun.

Different priorities, I guess. Hope you feel the same way in 20 years and are happy you spent $40 on a shirt for a child that was later donated and bought by me for my kid for $3. I know I'll be happy with our choices then. If you will be, too, then great! Your choices help mine!!

You are getting ripped off. I hav gotten stuff new for that price or cheaper. Then resell it to people like you.

I used it as an example. I rarely spend more than $1 on an item of clothing. I don't resell...I pass them on to friends who can use them when we finish with them, with rare exception. My child is in a sport that has specialized clothing. I buy it typically for $3-$4 at a thirft shop, we use them, and then resell them for $15 each on Ebay. Other than that we pass on all reuseble clothing to friends.

No one is going to buy a very used shirt for $15. You can get them new at the discount stores cheaper.

Anonymous wrote:To summarize the thread, most people won't judge you or your child based on material goods, but many people will find some reason to judge you.

Anonymous wrote:We bought a cheap backpack from Disney store and it fell apart right away! So I splurged just a bit for LL Bean and it's lasted two years. I figure we'll keep it one more year and then get a new, bigger one for her last 3 years at ES.

I don't think anyone really cares what young kids are wearing. As they get older, they'll care more. Save your money for the middle school/high school years when there is more pressure to look a certain way. I knew when I moved into a wealthy HS boundary that I'd have to increase the clothing budget for my daughter. She'll have enough battles to fight in her life; I don't want feeling like an outsider because of her clothes to be one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is cheap not poor . YUCK

I'm "cheap," not poor, too. Why, "yuck?" I imagine my investment accounts, retirement accounts, rental properties, jewelry, etc. exceed yours but my kids are almost always in hand me downs and thrift store finds. You'd never know it: Justice, Under Armour, Nike, Land's End, etc. I'll "yuk" it up all the way to the bank and teach my kids a lesson, too.

My parents were frugal, I am the opposite.
It was shutty seeing other people have more and better stuff.
Hope your bank account makes you happy.
We go to Cayman and Europe annually.

Being frugal is considered a virtue everywhere apart from here, the country of massive consumerism, credit card debt and personal bankruptcies.

It is BECAUSE we are frugal that we can afford occasional fancy vacations to Asia and Europe. We choose to tighten our belts for that, or to save for college, or buy less house to afford the great public school neighborhood.

The person saying yuck is either lucky enough to be able to afford the life she wants, or too blind to see financial catastrophe coming her way. She should have more respect for others' choices.

Anonymous wrote:I am poor (so, by default, so is my daughter) and one thing I always felt that would make her stand out was if her pants were too short. I may have bought them from super cheap places, but she's never worn high water pants.

She's 13 and still never owned anything by Under Armor or gotten a passport. Somehow happy with lots of nice friends despite that.

OP, I think you should judge yourself, and harshly, if you'd seriously consider getting rid of a 20 yr old car because of what kindergartners and their parents might think of you for having it. Shame on you. Why would you even WANT to be friends with anyone who'd judge you for living in a condo?

Anonymous wrote:Luckily you have a boy OP. They are pretty clueless about what they wear. My son is 11 and pretty much doesn't care what he puts on. I do buy some UA, Nike and Adidas stuff at the consignment store where I will sell it back 2-3 yrs later. Also, Marshalls is great for those brands as is Kohls (love Kohls cash). Don't even think about clothes until 4th or 5th grade though. Boys don't notice or care.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is cheap not poor . YUCK

I'm "cheap," not poor, too. Why, "yuck?" I imagine my investment accounts, retirement accounts, rental properties, jewelry, etc. exceed yours but my kids are almost always in hand me downs and thrift store finds. You'd never know it: Justice, Under Armour, Nike, Land's End, etc. I'll "yuk" it up all the way to the bank and teach my kids a lesson, too.

My parents were frugal, I am the opposite.
It was shutty seeing other people have more and better stuff.
Hope your bank account makes you happy.
We go to Cayman and Europe annually.

Did you not read my post? Other kids don't have more or better stuff.

Which do you think my kids will appreciate a decade from now: that their college and, if they wish, graduate schools, are paid for, they will never have to worry about taking care of their parents, took nice vacations (Ireland, Canada, and Yellowstone were our last 3), etc OR that their mom and dad drove BMWs/Mercedes, leased new cars every few years, lived in huge homes and they will have to forge their eat through college including massive debt accumulation? Hmmmmmm...

I would rather have the parents who spent money on clothes and fun.

Different priorities, I guess. Hope you feel the same way in 20 years and are happy you spent $40 on a shirt for a child that was later donated and bought by me for my kid for $3. I know I'll be happy with our choices then. If you will be, too, then great! Your choices help mine!!

You are getting ripped off. I hav gotten stuff new for that price or cheaper. Then resell it to people like you.

I used it as an example. I rarely spend more than $1 on an item of clothing. I don't resell...I pass them on to friends who can use them when we finish with them, with rare exception. My child is in a sport that has specialized clothing. I buy it typically for $3-$4 at a thirft shop, we use them, and then resell them for $15 each on Ebay. Other than that we pass on all reuseble clothing to friends.

Anonymous wrote:We bought a cheap backpack from Disney store and it fell apart right away! So I splurged just a bit for LL Bean and it's lasted two years. I figure we'll keep it one more year and then get a new, bigger one for her last 3 years at ES.

I don't think anyone really cares what young kids are wearing. As they get older, they'll care more. Save your money for the middle school/high school years when there is more pressure to look a certain way. I knew when I moved into a wealthy HS boundary that I'd have to increase the clothing budget for my daughter. She'll have enough battles to fight in her life; I don't want feeling like an outsider because of her clothes to be one of them.

Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. No one decides to upgrade their car to impress their kids' K peers. Anyone with this crazy needy attitude has already clawed their way into a McMansion and is posting "You must be jealous" on the Real Estate forum....