Anonymous
07/13/2016 15:09
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
op: My parents say they can't deal with the peanut allergy. I think they are making an excuse, and they don't want to bother with the trip. The peanut allergy should not keep them from doing this trip!
Anonymous
07/13/2016 13:30
Subject: Drama performance at Disney
Anonymous wrote:OP, ignore the mean posters. DCUM is filled with miserable people who roam around looking for a fight and a chance to build their pathetic selves up by making someone else feel low. If you had written a post saying you were taking your daughter despite your other child's medical needs the same people would be piling on calling you neglectful.
In general the special needs board is better, but I think a lot of non special needs parents have been trolling there too lately because all the boards seem slower for the summer. But next time try posting there.
Your daughter does not need to go to Disney. My older son has never been because his younger brother doesn't have the physical stamina. It is not a "hardship". He is not "scarred". Only spoiled people think that way.
I'm sorry you have such a complicated life. It sounds stressful. I hope you can find a way to get some support.
as one of the "hateful"l posters i can assure that the point is not that the child should go to disney. what i found ridiculous are OP's claim that only she can care for the children (only she can make medicine, only she can deal with peanut allergy). this is the issue.
Anonymous
07/12/2016 22:38
Subject: Drama performance at Disney
OP, ignore the mean posters. DCUM is filled with miserable people who roam around looking for a fight and a chance to build their pathetic selves up by making someone else feel low. If you had written a post saying you were taking your daughter despite your other child's medical needs the same people would be piling on calling you neglectful.
In general the special needs board is better, but I think a lot of non special needs parents have been trolling there too lately because all the boards seem slower for the summer. But next time try posting there.
Your daughter does not need to go to Disney. My older son has never been because his younger brother doesn't have the physical stamina. It is not a "hardship". He is not "scarred". Only spoiled people think that way.
I'm sorry you have such a complicated life. It sounds stressful. I hope you can find a way to get some support.
In general the special needs board is better, but I think a lot of non special needs parents have been trolling there too lately because all the boards seem slower for the summer. But next time try posting there.
Your daughter does not need to go to Disney. My older son has never been because his younger brother doesn't have the physical stamina. It is not a "hardship". He is not "scarred". Only spoiled people think that way.
I'm sorry you have such a complicated life. It sounds stressful. I hope you can find a way to get some support.
Anonymous
07/12/2016 21:38
Subject: Drama performance at Disney
Anonymous wrote:I'm a grown up SN sib, and I get the attention thing, but it's basically BS, just an excuse to get people who want to go to Disney to do it. I wouldn't send my kid and I wouldn't feel any guilt about it.
+1. If Dad can't take her, she doesn't go. At eight years old, she should not go without adult supervision. There will be other opportunities.
Anonymous
07/12/2016 19:36
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
OP: Aw, thanks. I would like to give you a hug.
Anonymous
07/12/2016 16:33
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
I really think the people on here who are saying that OP is a "horrible mother," that she has Munchausen's by proxy and that her daughter will want nothing to do with her when she's an adult are extremely nasty and very off base. This site does seem to engender a lot of hateful people. Yes-OP seems to have some issues she needs to work through but don't most of us?
Anonymous
07/12/2016 15:00
Subject: Drama performance at Disney
I'm a grown up SN sib, and I get the attention thing, but it's basically BS, just an excuse to get people who want to go to Disney to do it. I wouldn't send my kid and I wouldn't feel any guilt about it.
Anonymous
07/12/2016 14:46
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:op: We discovered my 8 yo dd is peanut allergic a few months ago. Didn't know before.
So, she recently developed the peanut allergy? Or had she never had peanuts before? Did she break out in hives that cleared up with Benadryl? Or did she have full anaphylaxis from the peanut exposure?
The reason I'm asking is I can't figure out why your parents can't handle her peanut allergy. Obviously, they are flipped out by the idea of using an epi-pen but how severe could the allergy be if she didn't have it until she was 8?
It's possible they had DD avoid peanuts because of the possibility of an allergy, but it wasn't confirmed until later. Many daycares and even some schools are peanut-free. Most schools and activities prohibit snacks containing peanuts.
Hives as a reaction once or twice or 50 times does not guaranty a hives-only reaction on a subsequent exposure. I read recently about a boy who died on a family trip to Mexico with his parents. After 18 years of reacting to accidental peanut exposure with hives, he had an anaphylactic reaction after eating a dessert that, according to the chef, did not contain peanuts.
Anonymous
07/12/2016 01:29
Subject: Drama performance at Disney
I blame the drama school for pitching it! It is clearly not anything special since this is merely and after school activity, not a coveted audition-based performance troupe, and I can't imagine they need full participation. Now out and think nothing of it.
That said, you still have a ton of family issues to resolve before the next activity your DD has. It's only going to get more complicated as she gets older and you need to figure out a plan to manage the next few years.
That said, you still have a ton of family issues to resolve before the next activity your DD has. It's only going to get more complicated as she gets older and you need to figure out a plan to manage the next few years.
Anonymous
07/10/2016 21:40
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
Anonymous wrote:The drama class is private, once a week during the school year, and all summer at day camp. The day camp does swimming, crafts etc but the focus is theater. I believe it's a marketing approach by Disney to partner with theater schools in order to get families to travel to Disney.
One more reason to hate Disney. Shoehorning their marketing onto kids' educational activities.
I'm so freaking relieved my kids didn't like Disney when their grandparents took them. We get to do family vacations in natural places like national parks.
Anonymous
07/10/2016 21:37
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow. Maybe it's just because I don't have much disposable income for a dance trip to Disney, but I just don't agree with the idea that this "opportunity" is so make or break, or that any good parent would find a way to make it work.
A child's epilepsy is a big deal. Seizures can do permanent damage. OP is an MD as s presumably knows how to manage it better than a layperson.
Sometimes kids have to hear no or at least not now. Life goes on. If your kids aren't spoiled they'll understand that they aren't entitled to everything money can buy.
This isn't about money. It's about the kid who doesn't have special needs getting the shaft because the kid with special needs requires all of Mom's attention, and Mom won't find another solution for her other kid.
Different people have different definitions of "the shaft." Not going on a Disney trip with the kiddie drama troupe might be "the shaft" for people who see a Disney trip as every family's sacred obligation to provide.
Not everybody sees it that way.
Anonymous
07/10/2016 20:45
Subject: Re:Drama performance at Disney
The drama class is private, once a week during the school year, and all summer at day camp. The day camp does swimming, crafts etc but the focus is theater. I believe it's a marketing approach by Disney to partner with theater schools in order to get families to travel to Disney.
Anonymous
07/10/2016 20:08
Subject: Drama performance at Disney
What kind of class for second graders plans a trip like this? If it's a highly specialized theater program, maybe, but them I imagine it would operate like a sports team where only a few chaperones go with the group. But these kids are so young.
The whole thing sounds absurd anyway.
However it also sounds like you DD will never get a childhood trip to Disney any other time either because none of your reasons are ever going to be resolved - all of these things sound like lifetime issues to work around.
The whole thing sounds absurd anyway.
However it also sounds like you DD will never get a childhood trip to Disney any other time either because none of your reasons are ever going to be resolved - all of these things sound like lifetime issues to work around.