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Anonymous wrote:"I doubt the first poster's child is as much of an outlier as you think. I suspect a lot of "picky eating" is actual food/texture aversion, and so people focus on the wrong aspect ("the child is being defiant," or "the child is being stubborn"), and the problem really isn't a battle of wills, but a need to help condition the child to new food textures/tastes. "

Sweet Jesus - I don't know that I've ever seen a more ridiculous statement in my life. You think the kid who lives in a trailer has "texture aversion". It is a privilege to refuse foods. Only people who have too much of it do it. Tell your child to eat it or not. Do not, I repeat DO NOT indulge this nonsense and all your child to control your home. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to your family, it is not fair to your child.

PP, it's actually based in science.

"But new research shows that picky eating does matter in ways that go beyond concerns around obesity or malnourishment. A study conducted by Duke University’s Center for Eating Disorders and published in the fall found that even moderately selective eaters were more likely to show symptoms of depression, social anxiety, or ADHD than those kids who weren’t picky eaters. Severely selective eaters were more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety. Many adults with eating-related issues, meanwhile, reported being picky eaters as children..."

Picky eaters are born not made:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2016/02/24/are-picky-eaters-born-made/7mfRUVteAcMLrO2oTmTeJM/story.html

Again, a disease of affluence. No picky eaters in Malawi. Calm down.

Well kids in Malawi will have a better shot if they can survive birth and avoid contracting HIV. Depression, anxiety, ADHD are disorders of the brain just as complications in childbirth or HIV affect the body. All of these things exist in every county just to different degrees.

Sorry to say, ADHD is a also a form of affluenza. I taught in a school in Tanzania for 2 years working at a NGO. There was not ONE single child, not ONE that did not pay attention and behave in class. They were so eager to learn, thry would hang onto my every word. Many of them walked miles (like 10+) to get to school. Our school served lunch, which was critical. The kids HAPPILY ate what was in front of them. Thr staple was a type of porridge made from flour and beans and a type of corn.

If your child is picky, then it's because of your parenting an the excessive options you give them. It's not your kid. It's you.

I have no idea why none of the kids had ADD or even behavior problems of any sort in Tanzania and then I come back to the US and we're got a quarter of the kids a hot mess. I do know for sure that kids and parents take school for granted here and don't treat it with the same amount of respect that people do when school is a privilege. I suppose food is so abundant and given the choice of a daily buffet of chicken nuggets, pizza, and hotdogs, they'll demand that instead.

The thought of a child in tanzania demanding cereal and ice cream for dinner, or really many ANY demands when it comes to food is laughable.

Zero fucks poster has their parenting game on point.

So ADD is imaginary - what about food allergies, not a lot of those in Tanzania either, I would guess, are they also imagined? Even if I agree with your point about parental behavior influencing picky eating, you have completely undermined your points with this line of argument.

I'm a Np. ADD isn't imaginary, but those kids in Malawi probably got up at the crack of dawn to help make breakfast, then walked 5 miles to school. They didn't have the pent up energy of kids these days who wake up, may have a 5 minute chore in the morning, then ride a bus to sit 6 hours a day. I bet those kids climb trees and get very dirty and don't have nightly baths. All that dirt builds up the immune system, which helps prevent allergies. We live in a too clean country, our body's immune system needs something to do, hence allergies.

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Anonymous wrote:"I doubt the first poster's child is as much of an outlier as you think. I suspect a lot of "picky eating" is actual food/texture aversion, and so people focus on the wrong aspect ("the child is being defiant," or "the child is being stubborn"), and the problem really isn't a battle of wills, but a need to help condition the child to new food textures/tastes. "

Sweet Jesus - I don't know that I've ever seen a more ridiculous statement in my life. You think the kid who lives in a trailer has "texture aversion". It is a privilege to refuse foods. Only people who have too much of it do it. Tell your child to eat it or not. Do not, I repeat DO NOT indulge this nonsense and all your child to control your home. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to your family, it is not fair to your child.

PP, it's actually based in science.

"But new research shows that picky eating does matter in ways that go beyond concerns around obesity or malnourishment. A study conducted by Duke University’s Center for Eating Disorders and published in the fall found that even moderately selective eaters were more likely to show symptoms of depression, social anxiety, or ADHD than those kids who weren’t picky eaters. Severely selective eaters were more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety. Many adults with eating-related issues, meanwhile, reported being picky eaters as children..."

Picky eaters are born not made:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2016/02/24/are-picky-eaters-born-made/7mfRUVteAcMLrO2oTmTeJM/story.html

Again, a disease of affluence. No picky eaters in Malawi. Calm down.

Well kids in Malawi will have a better shot if they can survive birth and avoid contracting HIV. Depression, anxiety, ADHD are disorders of the brain just as complications in childbirth or HIV affect the body. All of these things exist in every county just to different degrees.

Sorry to say, ADHD is a also a form of affluenza. I taught in a school in Tanzania for 2 years working at a NGO. There was not ONE single child, not ONE that did not pay attention and behave in class. They were so eager to learn, thry would hang onto my every word. Many of them walked miles (like 10+) to get to school. Our school served lunch, which was critical. The kids HAPPILY ate what was in front of them. Thr staple was a type of porridge made from flour and beans and a type of corn.

If your child is picky, then it's because of your parenting an the excessive options you give them. It's not your kid. It's you.

I have no idea why none of the kids had ADD or even behavior problems of any sort in Tanzania and then I come back to the US and we're got a quarter of the kids a hot mess. I do know for sure that kids and parents take school for granted here and don't treat it with the same amount of respect that people do when school is a privilege. I suppose food is so abundant and given the choice of a daily buffet of chicken nuggets, pizza, and hotdogs, they'll demand that instead.

The thought of a child in tanzania demanding cereal and ice cream for dinner, or really many ANY demands when it comes to food is laughable.

Zero fucks poster has their parenting game on point.

So ADD is imaginary - what about food allergies, not a lot of those in Tanzania either, I would guess, are they also imagined? Even if I agree with your point about parental behavior influencing picky eating, you have completely undermined your points with this line of argument.

I don't know if it is imaginary or not. I had a class of NINETY children that spanned an age range from 5-12 years old and not one had behavior problems and all sat in their chairs and listened. How else do you think I wrangled that many children with one teacher assistant? The parents had an EXPECTATION that their chilsren would value the great privilege they had to go to school. Its a first world mindset to not be grateful and therefore not value what we have. American kids are entitled, their parents are entitled and it's a nation or brats. We have a great nation and I love it here, but make no mistake, we are crass, obnoxious, and take no responsibility for our actions in our homes or in our world for that matter (as this thread demonstrates).

And now kids didn't have allergies, you know why??? Because they are not exposed to a huge range of food choices. That's the point. Get it? No, every single one of those kids ate their food without an allergic reaction. There was no nut free table. I brought a huge amount of candy with me and most all of them had never even tasted candy in their entire lives, let alone make demands for Lucky Charms and Strawberry ice cream for dinner and they were all skinny and some walked 24 miles a day round trip through the bush to school without mom and dad escorting them.

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Anonymous wrote:"I doubt the first poster's child is as much of an outlier as you think. I suspect a lot of "picky eating" is actual food/texture aversion, and so people focus on the wrong aspect ("the child is being defiant," or "the child is being stubborn"), and the problem really isn't a battle of wills, but a need to help condition the child to new food textures/tastes. "

Sweet Jesus - I don't know that I've ever seen a more ridiculous statement in my life. You think the kid who lives in a trailer has "texture aversion". It is a privilege to refuse foods. Only people who have too much of it do it. Tell your child to eat it or not. Do not, I repeat DO NOT indulge this nonsense and all your child to control your home. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to your family, it is not fair to your child.

PP, it's actually based in science.

"But new research shows that picky eating does matter in ways that go beyond concerns around obesity or malnourishment. A study conducted by Duke University’s Center for Eating Disorders and published in the fall found that even moderately selective eaters were more likely to show symptoms of depression, social anxiety, or ADHD than those kids who weren’t picky eaters. Severely selective eaters were more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety. Many adults with eating-related issues, meanwhile, reported being picky eaters as children..."

Picky eaters are born not made:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2016/02/24/are-picky-eaters-born-made/7mfRUVteAcMLrO2oTmTeJM/story.html

Again, a disease of affluence. No picky eaters in Malawi. Calm down.

Well kids in Malawi will have a better shot if they can survive birth and avoid contracting HIV. Depression, anxiety, ADHD are disorders of the brain just as complications in childbirth or HIV affect the body. All of these things exist in every county just to different degrees.

Sorry to say, ADHD is a also a form of affluenza. I taught in a school in Tanzania for 2 years working at a NGO. There was not ONE single child, not ONE that did not pay attention and behave in class. They were so eager to learn, thry would hang onto my every word. Many of them walked miles (like 10+) to get to school. Our school served lunch, which was critical. The kids HAPPILY ate what was in front of them. Thr staple was a type of porridge made from flour and beans and a type of corn.

If your child is picky, then it's because of your parenting an the excessive options you give them. It's not your kid. It's you.

I have no idea why none of the kids had ADD or even behavior problems of any sort in Tanzania and then I come back to the US and we're got a quarter of the kids a hot mess. I do know for sure that kids and parents take school for granted here and don't treat it with the same amount of respect that people do when school is a privilege. I suppose food is so abundant and given the choice of a daily buffet of chicken nuggets, pizza, and hotdogs, they'll demand that instead.

The thought of a child in tanzania demanding cereal and ice cream for dinner, or really many ANY demands when it comes to food is laughable.

Zero fucks poster has their parenting game on point.

So ADD is imaginary - what about food allergies, not a lot of those in Tanzania either, I would guess, are they also imagined? Even if I agree with your point about parental behavior influencing picky eating, you have completely undermined your points with this line of argument.

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Anonymous wrote:You have an underweight child who needs more calories. Why in the world would you deny him a bowl of cereal or ice cream?

Signed, mom a child beneath the growth chart, and you bet she gets cereal and ice cream.

And diabetes one day. Good job!

You owe an apology to every diabetic. Cereal and ice cream do not cause diabetes. You have seriously disordered thinking about food. And hateful thinking about disabilities.

NP. What you eat and how you live matters. A lot. Sorry.

Of course it does. What does that have to do with cereal and ice cream?

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Anonymous wrote:"I doubt the first poster's child is as much of an outlier as you think. I suspect a lot of "picky eating" is actual food/texture aversion, and so people focus on the wrong aspect ("the child is being defiant," or "the child is being stubborn"), and the problem really isn't a battle of wills, but a need to help condition the child to new food textures/tastes. "

Sweet Jesus - I don't know that I've ever seen a more ridiculous statement in my life. You think the kid who lives in a trailer has "texture aversion". It is a privilege to refuse foods. Only people who have too much of it do it. Tell your child to eat it or not. Do not, I repeat DO NOT indulge this nonsense and all your child to control your home. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to your family, it is not fair to your child.

PP, it's actually based in science.

"But new research shows that picky eating does matter in ways that go beyond concerns around obesity or malnourishment. A study conducted by Duke University’s Center for Eating Disorders and published in the fall found that even moderately selective eaters were more likely to show symptoms of depression, social anxiety, or ADHD than those kids who weren’t picky eaters. Severely selective eaters were more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety. Many adults with eating-related issues, meanwhile, reported being picky eaters as children..."

Picky eaters are born not made:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2016/02/24/are-picky-eaters-born-made/7mfRUVteAcMLrO2oTmTeJM/story.html

Again, a disease of affluence. No picky eaters in Malawi. Calm down.

Well kids in Malawi will have a better shot if they can survive birth and avoid contracting HIV. Depression, anxiety, ADHD are disorders of the brain just as complications in childbirth or HIV affect the body. All of these things exist in every county just to different degrees.

There is no mother on Malawi Urban Moms typing "My Ethan says he will only eat things that are brown and yellow. So that means we are pretty much stuck with rice and peppers. Any tips on how to get him to eat goat?"

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Anonymous wrote:"I doubt the first poster's child is as much of an outlier as you think. I suspect a lot of "picky eating" is actual food/texture aversion, and so people focus on the wrong aspect ("the child is being defiant," or "the child is being stubborn"), and the problem really isn't a battle of wills, but a need to help condition the child to new food textures/tastes. "

Sweet Jesus - I don't know that I've ever seen a more ridiculous statement in my life. You think the kid who lives in a trailer has "texture aversion". It is a privilege to refuse foods. Only people who have too much of it do it. Tell your child to eat it or not. Do not, I repeat DO NOT indulge this nonsense and all your child to control your home. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to your family, it is not fair to your child.

PP, it's actually based in science.

"But new research shows that picky eating does matter in ways that go beyond concerns around obesity or malnourishment. A study conducted by Duke University’s Center for Eating Disorders and published in the fall found that even moderately selective eaters were more likely to show symptoms of depression, social anxiety, or ADHD than those kids who weren’t picky eaters. Severely selective eaters were more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety. Many adults with eating-related issues, meanwhile, reported being picky eaters as children..."

Picky eaters are born not made:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2016/02/24/are-picky-eaters-born-made/7mfRUVteAcMLrO2oTmTeJM/story.html

Again, a disease of affluence. No picky eaters in Malawi. Calm down.

Well kids in Malawi will have a better shot if they can survive birth and avoid contracting HIV. Depression, anxiety, ADHD are disorders of the brain just as complications in childbirth or HIV affect the body. All of these things exist in every county just to different degrees.

Sorry to say, ADHD is a also a form of affluenza. I taught in a school in Tanzania for 2 years working at a NGO. There was not ONE single child, not ONE that did not pay attention and behave in class. They were so eager to learn, thry would hang onto my every word. Many of them walked miles (like 10+) to get to school. Our school served lunch, which was critical. The kids HAPPILY ate what was in front of them. Thr staple was a type of porridge made from flour and beans and a type of corn.

If your child is picky, then it's because of your parenting an the excessive options you give them. It's not your kid. It's you.

I have no idea why none of the kids had ADD or even behavior problems of any sort in Tanzania and then I come back to the US and we're got a quarter of the kids a hot mess. I do know for sure that kids and parents take school for granted here and don't treat it with the same amount of respect that people do when school is a privilege. I suppose food is so abundant and given the choice of a daily buffet of chicken nuggets, pizza, and hotdogs, they'll demand that instead.

The thought of a child in tanzania demanding cereal and ice cream for dinner, or really many ANY demands when it comes to food is laughable.

Zero fucks poster has their parenting game on point.

+1,000,000

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Anonymous wrote:You have an underweight child who needs more calories. Why in the world would you deny him a bowl of cereal or ice cream?

Signed, mom a child beneath the growth chart, and you bet she gets cereal and ice cream.

And diabetes one day. Good job!

You owe an apology to every diabetic. Cereal and ice cream do not cause diabetes. You have seriously disordered thinking about food. And hateful thinking about disabilities.

NP. What you eat and how you live matters. A lot. Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have an underweight child who needs more calories. Why in the world would you deny him a bowl of cereal or ice cream?

Signed, mom a child beneath the growth chart, and you bet she gets cereal and ice cream.

And diabetes one day. Good job!

You owe an apology to every diabetic. Cereal and ice cream do not cause diabetes. You have seriously disordered thinking about food. And hateful thinking about disabilities.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have an underweight child who needs more calories. Why in the world would you deny him a bowl of cereal or ice cream?

Signed, mom a child beneath the growth chart, and you bet she gets cereal and ice cream.

I agree! Cereal and ice cream are healthy foods, full or "real ingredients" (depending on the brand and style). Feed your child!

But if these are displacing foods with actual nutritional value (only some cereal is any good for you) then it is not healthy and it will not help your kid get onto the growth chart.

Signed, mother with a skinny kid telling you things I learned from his nutritionist when he fell off the growth chart.

Bosh. Calories are calories, and when you have a seriously underweight child -- I'm not talking about a picky eater or a small child -- you pack in fat and calorie dense foods over fiber and "nutrtionally correct" foods -- that's what MY NUTRITIONIST said. Super fatted ice cream (fortified milkshake) is the number one recommended food for people who are seriously underweight -- not chicken and broccoli.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I doubt the first poster's child is as much of an outlier as you think. I suspect a lot of "picky eating" is actual food/texture aversion, and so people focus on the wrong aspect ("the child is being defiant," or "the child is being stubborn"), and the problem really isn't a battle of wills, but a need to help condition the child to new food textures/tastes. "

Sweet Jesus - I don't know that I've ever seen a more ridiculous statement in my life. You think the kid who lives in a trailer has "texture aversion". It is a privilege to refuse foods. Only people who have too much of it do it. Tell your child to eat it or not. Do not, I repeat DO NOT indulge this nonsense and all your child to control your home. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to your family, it is not fair to your child.

PP, it's actually based in science.

"But new research shows that picky eating does matter in ways that go beyond concerns around obesity or malnourishment. A study conducted by Duke University’s Center for Eating Disorders and published in the fall found that even moderately selective eaters were more likely to show symptoms of depression, social anxiety, or ADHD than those kids who weren’t picky eaters. Severely selective eaters were more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety. Many adults with eating-related issues, meanwhile, reported being picky eaters as children..."

Picky eaters are born not made:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2016/02/24/are-picky-eaters-born-made/7mfRUVteAcMLrO2oTmTeJM/story.html

Again, a disease of affluence. No picky eaters in Malawi. Calm down.

Well kids in Malawi will have a better shot if they can survive birth and avoid contracting HIV. Depression, anxiety, ADHD are disorders of the brain just as complications in childbirth or HIV affect the body. All of these things exist in every county just to different degrees.

Sorry to say, ADHD is a also a form of affluenza. I taught in a school in Tanzania for 2 years working at a NGO. There was not ONE single child, not ONE that did not pay attention and behave in class. They were so eager to learn, thry would hang onto my every word. Many of them walked miles (like 10+) to get to school. Our school served lunch, which was critical. The kids HAPPILY ate what was in front of them. Thr staple was a type of porridge made from flour and beans and a type of corn.

If your child is picky, then it's because of your parenting an the excessive options you give them. It's not your kid. It's you.

I have no idea why none of the kids had ADD or even behavior problems of any sort in Tanzania and then I come back to the US and we're got a quarter of the kids a hot mess. I do know for sure that kids and parents take school for granted here and don't treat it with the same amount of respect that people do when school is a privilege. I suppose food is so abundant and given the choice of a daily buffet of chicken nuggets, pizza, and hotdogs, they'll demand that instead.

The thought of a child in tanzania demanding cereal and ice cream for dinner, or really many ANY demands when it comes to food is laughable.

Zero fucks poster has their parenting game on point.