Anonymous
06/21/2016 14:09
Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because getting married shouldn't be a career plan. I know a certain former cheerleader married to a doctor who has three daughters and she is clearly grooming them for marriage rather than careers. It's sad because she's basically investing in their looks rather than their educations, and creating women who are not strong and self-sufficient. It's as though we are teaching our daughters to be doctors and lawyers and she's teaching hers to be poodles. And this was really obvious from the time the girls were young -- Some girls chose the Girl Scout badges on health and science and her girls chose Haircare and the like. Kinda sad and limiting.
+1
A marriage is a relationship. It is not a financial plan. The man is not a plan. Hope is not a plan.
Everyone has to be capable of self-sufficiency.
True, but if a woman marries "well" it can greatly improve her life. I do well on my own but with my husband I do even better. On the flip side, marrying a deadbeat or lazy man can pull one down significantly. Who you marry is extremely important.
+1 "Marrying well" can even give you more career options. You're free to explore alternate career paths or walk out of a bad career situation. I find alot of the commentators on this thread sound quite bitter.
Anonymous
06/21/2016 13:31
Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!
It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?
The difference is the appreciation of beauty is seen as human nature whereas the worship of material wealth is seen as a less than admirable trait.
The difference is that the guy is viewed as being stupidly in "love" and unaware that he is marrying a golddigger, whereas the golddigger is very aware of the situation. So while the guy isn't vilified, he is perceived as an idiot.
They're not idiots they know exactly what they are getting and they have many choices .
They typically pick someone pretty, well dressed, flexible, someone who gives him positive attention and typically she has some kind of job - teacher or nurse - and a college education.
He gets someone to have as many kids as he wants and someone to care for them rather than day care of a nanny.
She gets lots of nice vacations, endless kid duties and plenty of yoga pants.
Perhaps a hut at Martha's Vineyard.
Does anyone else run in these circles? Have you noticed how these type of gals from the DC area all have DD's that look like they're wearing lingerie every time they're not in some kind of school uniform? You know like really slutty short plunging dresses, smiling for the family portraits on the vacations? That or white pants and Lily Pulitzer?
No thanks..
+ a million. It's an equal transaction, he basically wants an incubator + nanny.
Anyway, people marry each other for all sorts of f*cked up reasons. Money would be one of the more down-to-earth ones.
Anonymous
06/20/2016 15:51
Subject: Re:What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Umm ... what? Successful businessman marries cute and fun woman, something something daughters dress like skanks. Is he supposed to marry someone else? Do the daughters dress badly because their dad has cash?
Anonymous
06/20/2016 14:22
Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Notice that when a man marries a young hot 20 something, he never gets vilified. It's always the girl who is the vicious, scheming gold digger!
It's the same concept when a guy wants to marry a hot/attractive woman. No one thinks there's anything wrong with that. What's the difference?
The difference is the appreciation of beauty is seen as human nature whereas the worship of material wealth is seen as a less than admirable trait.
The difference is that the guy is viewed as being stupidly in "love" and unaware that he is marrying a golddigger, whereas the golddigger is very aware of the situation. So while the guy isn't vilified, he is perceived as an idiot.
They're not idiots they know exactly what they are getting and they have many choices .
They typically pick someone pretty, well dressed, flexible, someone who gives him positive attention and typically she has some kind of job - teacher or nurse - and a college education.
He gets someone to have as many kids as he wants and someone to care for them rather than day care of a nanny.
She gets lots of nice vacations, endless kid duties and plenty of yoga pants.
Perhaps a hut at Martha's Vineyard.
Does anyone else run in these circles? Have you noticed how these type of gals from the DC area all have DD's that look like they're wearing lingerie every time they're not in some kind of school uniform? You know like really slutty short plunging dresses, smiling for the family portraits on the vacations? That or white pants and Lily Pulitzer?
No thanks..
Anonymous
06/20/2016 12:51
Subject: What is wrong with a woman marrying well?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because it just acknowledges the economics of the marriage transaction while we're supposed to carry on with the fiction that you should marry for love.
but you can fall in love with a rich guy just as easily as with a poor guy, no?
But does that mean you fall out of love if he loses his wealth? Do you take out the "for richer or poorer" part of the vows?
I would say what is wrong with a man marrying well? A guy that depends on you to earn all the money, support him ...but he would he would only propose with the ring you provided if he really loved you. Would you advise your daughter to seek out this type of guy?