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Anonymous wrote:I have never in my entire parenting life encountered ANYONE who has these rigid attitudes about birthday parties that people on DCUM seem to have. Of course someone can hang out in a laser tag place, or chuck e cheese, or a trampoline park, or any other public place with anyone they like whenever they want.

As a parent, if I have a kid with me who wasn't invited to the party, it IS much easier to drop the invited child off and take the other child somewhere else than to try to keep them corralled in the party space but out of the way of the party. So I would recommend that to the OP's husband, since it is actually easier for him that way. But of course he can stay if he prefers.

I have never really met anyone who uses another kids BD party as free babysitting service in the name of "inculsion" But I guess it is who you know.

I have had pants drop off siblings with invited kids, just dumped and dashed. By the time I realized the sibling was there, I asked where the parents were, kid said, he left. I've had it happen three times, once an older sibling, once a younger sibling, and once an opposite gender twin. The twin, maybe I can understand if they were confused if both or just one twin invited, but the other times, they never asked. They just left them at the venue or my house. It happens.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never in my entire parenting life encountered ANYONE who has these rigid attitudes about birthday parties that people on DCUM seem to have. Of course someone can hang out in a laser tag place, or chuck e cheese, or a trampoline park, or any other public place with anyone they like whenever they want.

As a parent, if I have a kid with me who wasn't invited to the party, it IS much easier to drop the invited child off and take the other child somewhere else than to try to keep them corralled in the party space but out of the way of the party. So I would recommend that to the OP's husband, since it is actually easier for him that way. But of course he can stay if he prefers.

I have never really met anyone who uses another kids BD party as free babysitting service in the name of "inculsion" But I guess it is who you know.

Anonymous wrote:We just received an invite to a party and on the comments "to everyone" a mom asks if she can bring her 2 other kids. Talk about putting a mom on the spot. So tacky.

This post, some of the comments, and the evite is a wake-up call that you have to be explicit about parties and even then, have a back-up plan for the rude ones with zero social skills.

We had a house party that said no siblings but 2 moms coming in to drop off had siblings. They must have started chatting and stayed as the party started (most of us were outside with the games, food etc..) and their younger kids (preschool-ish) went outside and dumped all the bowls of cupcake decorations and icing that I had on one table all over our flagstone patio. I had to take everything away and my husband went in to ask them to get the kids as they were making a mess. They came out and said "Oh no, sorry we will leave." and just left. No offer to get more decorations and bring them back. My husband ran out real quick instead. It was such a shitty way to start a party.

Anonymous wrote:I have never in my entire parenting life encountered ANYONE who has these rigid attitudes about birthday parties that people on DCUM seem to have. Of course someone can hang out in a laser tag place, or chuck e cheese, or a trampoline park, or any other public place with anyone they like whenever they want.

As a parent, if I have a kid with me who wasn't invited to the party, it IS much easier to drop the invited child off and take the other child somewhere else than to try to keep them corralled in the party space but out of the way of the party. So I would recommend that to the OP's husband, since it is actually easier for him that way. But of course he can stay if he prefers.

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Anonymous wrote:Save everyone's sanity OP and GET A CARPOOL!!! Once parties are drop off, I started doing carpools and they are a godsend. Only place I have had a problem is at Chuck E Cheese, bc of the hand stamps, but otherwise everywhere else do a carpool FFS.

I agree but sometimes you don't know who is invited and you will upset little Larla or Johnny's mom by asking. The new thing is to keep evites private. So annoying. I need carpool options!

Anonymous wrote:The party thrower will feel obligated to include DH and sibling, especially if it is one of those places where the kids congregate in the party room in between each game and eat and drink in between the games. We get that it would be so much easier to have your other child join in, for your dH to not have to find another location to entertain the other child and for your DH to not have to deal with the shining from the other child that he wants to stay...but he needs to either drop the I ted kid off, or better term arrange a carpool and try to have your DH do pick up after the party.

Anonymous wrote:Save everyone's sanity OP and GET A CARPOOL!!! Once parties are drop off, I started doing carpools and they are a godsend. Only place I have had a problem is at Chuck E Cheese, bc of the hand stamps, but otherwise everywhere else do a carpool FFS.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree - find something else to do with the sibling. We had an ice skating party where the parents could get discount tix for the public skate if they wanted. A few families took advantage of this and then came to the party room and ate the food (which was enough for the party-goers). As a result, we didn't have enough space for the invited kids and we ran out of food before each kid ate pizza.

It wasn't necessarily a matter of cost - the venue limited the number of kids that we could host.

What does this have to do with anything though? Not one person has said its ok to bring uninvited kids to the party room or to eat the food. No one. But you are really overstepping if you think people shouldn't have gone to the public skate and then picked up their other kid after the party is over. That's what's insanely controlling. The people who are suggesting it's somehow rude for siblings to be entertained in the same building!

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Anonymous wrote:I agree - find something else to do with the sibling. We had an ice skating party where the parents could get discount tix for the public skate if they wanted. A few families took advantage of this and then came to the party room and ate the food (which was enough for the party-goers). As a result, we didn't have enough space for the invited kids and we ran out of food before each kid ate pizza.

It wasn't necessarily a matter of cost - the venue limited the number of kids that we could host.

What does this have to do with anything though? Not one person has said its ok to bring uninvited kids to the party room or to eat the food. No one. But you are really overstepping if you think people shouldn't have gone to the public skate and then picked up their other kid after the party is over. That's what's insanely controlling. The people who are suggesting it's somehow rude for siblings to be entertained in the same building!

Anonymous wrote:I agree - find something else to do with the sibling. We had an ice skating party where the parents could get discount tix for the public skate if they wanted. A few families took advantage of this and then came to the party room and ate the food (which was enough for the party-goers). As a result, we didn't have enough space for the invited kids and we ran out of food before each kid ate pizza.

It wasn't necessarily a matter of cost - the venue limited the number of kids that we could host.

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Anonymous wrote:It's open to the public! Why would this be a problem? At the one in Gaithersburg, there are 3 huge parties, plus the public, playing all at once. How would 2 people among all the hordes in the room matter at all to the party thrower/birthday child?

Because the person throwing the party will feel responsible for taking care of the sib. Laser tag is open every day so why did you pick this one to dump your kid on someone else's party? Because you want the parents to supervise your DC ...

No. Because it is a PITA to figure out another way to entertain a kid for 90 mins. As long as dad watches his own kid, I think it is fine.