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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that honesty, character, trustworthy, and integrity don't get listed in this thread.

For some, guess these are unimportant qualities???

No, they don't get listed because someone having an affair does not have those qualities. Goes without saying.

They're also nice guy qualities. Women may want long term relationships with honest, trustworthy guys, but that's not what turns them on. Not enough drama to get the juices flowing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who reads these threads and wonders if my wife is posting here? This definitely feeds into every insecurity and feeling of inadequacy I've ever had in my marriage.

Is she satisfied in bed? Do you treat her with respect? If yes to both, don't sweat it.

Not really sure about the first one, but yes to the second one. Sounds like maybe I do need to sweat it a little. I am hesitant about the first one because if she were truly satisfied, she'd be more interested than 3 x per month, right?

Why have you been ok not knowing the answer to the first question? You should get off on pleasing her and that should be your primary goal (and vice versa) when having sex. You probably wouldn't have to worry otherwise. I honestly wonder if some of the so-called nice guys are selfish in bed and other areas but look good on paper otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that honesty, character, trustworthy, and integrity don't get listed in this thread.

For some, guess these are unimportant qualities???

No, they don't get listed because someone having an affair does not have those qualities. Goes without saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Potential...

The fact thatbhe knows me. Really knows me.
He's seen me at my worst and still thinks I'm amazing
We go back 10 years and I love that he has seen me grow up spnto speak, and me him
His arms.
The steamy make out sessions we used to have
The endless flirting
The way be makes me like the most beautiful thing on the planet
The way he laughs
The way he stares at me
That he can call my bs
That he's a man in every sense of the word
That he loves his mom and sisters more than anything

He is a man in every sense of the word but he is lying to his wife, kids and the mom and sisters he loves - he sounds like a real winner go for it!

He isn't married. Lying to no one. I said potential AF partner we are just friends and close. I'm married

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little disturbed that not one man posted here with some sort of lovely, romantic thing about his AP. Yet there were several women who went on and on about theirs.

Is this just a coincidence, or is it that men don't really have romantic love/affection for their APs and are just in it for the sex and not the romance?

I'll propose a theory that there is an inverse relationship between the likelihood a man will cheat to his capacity for romance. In other words, ladies, if he's cheating, he's more likely to be using you as his cum dumpster. If he's the romantic sort, he's probably sticking it out with his wife even if she's not necessarily worthy of the effort.

The corollary to this could be that there is an inverse relationship between the likelihood a woman is to cheat and her ability to recognize when a man is using her for his cum dumpster.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little disturbed that not one man posted here with some sort of lovely, romantic thing about his AP. Yet there were several women who went on and on about theirs.

Is this just a coincidence, or is it that men don't really have romantic love/affection for their APs and are just in it for the sex and not the romance?

I'm a little disturbed that not one man posted here with some sort of lovely, romantic thing about his AP. Yet there were several women who went on and on about theirs.

Is this just a coincidence, or is it that men don't really have romantic love/affection for their APs and are just in it for the sex and not the romance?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that honesty, character, trustworthy, and integrity don't get listed in this thread.

For some, guess these are unimportant qualities???

We're talking about cheaters here. Perhaps you might want to look up the word "irony."

Hahahaha....so true!

Women posting on this thread are a huge disappointment. It seems like all of them are in LOVE with the guy, how nice to screw yourself royally over a FB!

He's kind
He's attractive, well endowed
Attentive, generous
Laughs at my jokes
Calls me all the time, texts me during the day to see how I'm doing
His eyes light up when he sees me. I randomly catch him staring at me.
My friends have commented on it, and a local bartender commented on how " close" we are.
After several years I still get butterflies when he says my name.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that honesty, character, trustworthy, and integrity don't get listed in this thread.

For some, guess these are unimportant qualities???

We're talking about cheaters here. Perhaps you might want to look up the word "irony."

Anonymous wrote:It seems that honesty, character, trustworthy, and integrity don't get listed in this thread.

For some, guess these are unimportant qualities???

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who reads these threads and wonders if my wife is posting here? This definitely feeds into every insecurity and feeling of inadequacy I've ever had in my marriage.

I was thinking the same thing but about my DH. Maybe you're my DH. Wouldn't that be something.

It would be our pina colada moment.

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Anonymous wrote:Proximity. He lives next door.

That should end well.

Hahaha the neighbor!!! Finally!

FBI. Say no more.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems the puritan, bible-waving crowd is up early today...

I'm an atheist. But I keep my promises.

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