Anonymous
04/25/2016 17:24
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:No, but inability to follow basic directions is a sign. You can just say no to most kids.
What is it a sign of? I'm genuinely curious.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 17:23
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the great ideas and links. I'll be sure to implement some of these. As for discipline, we do positive discipline and do not do punishments or time outs in our house.
Er, we also don't do any punishments-- but we do have boundaries. That's the missing link here.
What happens when the boundary is crossed?
Very curious about OP's response to this question.
Why, then you post on DCUM. But of course.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 17:20
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the great ideas and links. I'll be sure to implement some of these. As for discipline, we do positive discipline and do not do punishments or time outs in our house.
Your poor child.
+1 I feel bad for kids who are raised like this.
I now know how kids like affluenza teen are created or the kids who go to other countries on vacation break the rules and then come crying for the USA to save them. I wouldn't want the first time my child realizes boundaries are not to be crossed to involve the cops.
Seriously! This poor kid is in for a rude awakening...
Anonymous
04/25/2016 07:34
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the great ideas and links. I'll be sure to implement some of these. As for discipline, we do positive discipline and do not do punishments or time outs in our house.
Your poor child.
+1 I feel bad for kids who are raised like this.
I now know how kids like affluenza teen are created or the kids who go to other countries on vacation break the rules and then come crying for the USA to save them. I wouldn't want the first time my child realizes boundaries are not to be crossed to involve the cops.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 07:31
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Whatever to the pp's who think OP doesn't have punishments. Not OP here. We have punishments and time outs, but we don't call them that, because there came a point when our strong willed kid who would not listen didn't adhere to the boundaries realized she could do whatever she wanted.
I am sure if her kid is doing this kind of crap, he's doing other kind of crap, and there are consequences. They just don't feel like punishments, but just setting boundaries.
We set boundaries, there are consequences and punishments, though we don't think of them like that. We only think of them as reinforcing the boundaries in a way that makes sense to her. And DD is always trying to figure out how to one up us.
The soap. It's not everyday, just some days when her or one of her playdate friends decides they are going to dump the $10 liquid soap into the sink.
OP, maybe there is some way you can reposition or lock it down so that isn't possible, but help DS get bubbles when he wants them. I am rereading now and I get it. He wants bubbles, like my DD. Right now she can't reach the soap on her own or get it out on her own, just by the accidental setup we have.
I will pour a little dish soap in the sink when she wants bubbles. It is not a problem. Especially if we had OP's situation and she was losing all the soap!
It seems you need to find a new system of boundaries like OP.
Also how nice of you to blame another child for you inability to teach your daughter self control and respecting boundaries.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 07:29
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:No, but inability to follow basic directions is a sign. You can just say no to most kids.
Most kids respond because most parent teach their kids that ignoring boundaries has consequences.
Anonymous
04/25/2016 06:28
Subject: Re:Son won't stop dumping out soap
The method liquid soap bottles can be locked at the top - they could figure it out but it takes some real effort and you'd have time to wonder - mm I wonder where Johnny is - let me check the bathroom - we do try to keep our kids in our line of sight since only bad things seem to happen when they wander off! We went thru a phase where they were wiping excessively wnd clogging the toilet. We learned a few mins in bathroom is ok - anything longer and we go in search of them!
Anonymous
04/25/2016 02:59
Subject: Re:Son won't stop dumping out soap
My twins were like this for few months. We buy a large bottle and refill the dispensers in our bathrooms. We converted at that point to using the clear bottles so that I could see how much was in the dispenser and I only put a couple of tablespoons of soap in at a time. We only wasted about one disposable bottles' worth of soap before we finally taught them not to use it. It was a pain to have to refill the dispenser daily for a couple of weeks, but it worked. I just refilled after they went to bed and that was all the soap they had to use until the next night.
Anonymous
04/24/2016 23:48
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Whatever to the pp's who think OP doesn't have punishments. Not OP here. We have punishments and time outs, but we don't call them that, because there came a point when our strong willed kid who would not listen didn't adhere to the boundaries realized she could do whatever she wanted.
I am sure if her kid is doing this kind of crap, he's doing other kind of crap, and there are consequences. They just don't feel like punishments, but just setting boundaries.
We set boundaries, there are consequences and punishments, though we don't think of them like that. We only think of them as reinforcing the boundaries in a way that makes sense to her. And DD is always trying to figure out how to one up us.
The soap. It's not everyday, just some days when her or one of her playdate friends decides they are going to dump the $10 liquid soap into the sink.
OP, maybe there is some way you can reposition or lock it down so that isn't possible, but help DS get bubbles when he wants them. I am rereading now and I get it. He wants bubbles, like my DD. Right now she can't reach the soap on her own or get it out on her own, just by the accidental setup we have.
I will pour a little dish soap in the sink when she wants bubbles. It is not a problem. Especially if we had OP's situation and she was losing all the soap!
I am sure if her kid is doing this kind of crap, he's doing other kind of crap, and there are consequences. They just don't feel like punishments, but just setting boundaries.
We set boundaries, there are consequences and punishments, though we don't think of them like that. We only think of them as reinforcing the boundaries in a way that makes sense to her. And DD is always trying to figure out how to one up us.
The soap. It's not everyday, just some days when her or one of her playdate friends decides they are going to dump the $10 liquid soap into the sink.
OP, maybe there is some way you can reposition or lock it down so that isn't possible, but help DS get bubbles when he wants them. I am rereading now and I get it. He wants bubbles, like my DD. Right now she can't reach the soap on her own or get it out on her own, just by the accidental setup we have.
I will pour a little dish soap in the sink when she wants bubbles. It is not a problem. Especially if we had OP's situation and she was losing all the soap!
Anonymous
04/24/2016 23:27
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
wind a rubber band under it. makes it very hard to get a lot out. i did that in my kindergarten class. worked like a charm!
Anonymous
04/24/2016 22:59
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
No, but inability to follow basic directions is a sign. You can just say no to most kids.
Anonymous
04/24/2016 22:40
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Op, I have to understand with respect to a child with special needs. My son, this is an issue, and none of these disciple methods are stopping it. Aba or kazdin method, maybe progress. My nt daughter, just say no. There's a spectrum in between, I know, but consider it.
Did OP say her child had special needs? If that is the case, well that's one thing. But if he doesn't OP REALLY needs to grow a backbone and teach her child to respect boundaries, because she is in for a long road ahead if she is giving in to the whims of a FOUR year old and letting him crawl on shelves because she's too scared just to say no and discipline her child.
Anonymous
04/24/2016 22:31
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the great ideas and links. I'll be sure to implement some of these. As for discipline, we do positive discipline and do not do punishments or time outs in our house.
Er, we also don't do any punishments-- but we do have boundaries. That's the missing link here.
What happens when the boundary is crossed?
Very curious about OP's response to this question.
Anonymous
04/24/2016 22:23
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Op, I have to understand with respect to a child with special needs. My son, this is an issue, and none of these disciple methods are stopping it. Aba or kazdin method, maybe progress. My nt daughter, just say no. There's a spectrum in between, I know, but consider it.
Anonymous
04/24/2016 22:03
Subject: Son won't stop dumping out soap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the great ideas and links. I'll be sure to implement some of these. As for discipline, we do positive discipline and do not do punishments or time outs in our house.
Your poor child.
+1 I feel bad for kids who are raised like this.