Anonymous wrote:DH here wishing DW was <25. My DW used to be so wondefully trim. She is still active but can't stop herself from eating, snacking, cheese, deserts, wine... Yes, it matters!

What's your BMI?

27.9

My husband thinks I'm fine. Of course, his BMI is over 30, so it's all relative.

22.1 as of this morning. I have very little muscle though, because my only exercise is cardio (jogging/bike), so I'm probably bigger than most other 22s (size 8). I know I should start doing strength training but it's just so much easier to put on my headphones and run for 30 minutes than to figure out a bunch of circuits and whatnot. Anyone have a beginner strength training workout they like?

DH would probably care if I gained a lot of weight, like 30+ pounds, but he is fine with a little extra chub, and I think actually prefers it. I put on 15 pounds a couple of years ago after a period of eating not-great and skipping workouts due to work stress, and he just kept commenting on how great my boobs looked. (He is Latino fwiw).

26.5 - would like to lose 5-10 lbs. as I've been creeping up in my 40's.

Right. I believe there are only a couple of us fatsos here LOL

42 or something like that. DH adores me. But I have a young child, and my longevity is a concern.

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Anonymous wrote:25.1

Here is my problem... I just lost 10 lbs and my bra size went from a D to a full C, I am fine with that.

I would like to lose 10 more because it seems a healthier weight, but my boobs don't look good smaller .. They start to sag and my butt gets flatter and I don't like that look.

So I have little incentive to lose weight... Flat boobs and butt, flatter stomach.

Obviously I think about it.

When my H was younger he cared, now he is more evolved and he does not care... Or maybe he just like D boobs... Idk.

You need some squats for that booty.

No I don't. I am muscular ... Flat muscles are less attractive.

Uh, no. Get a personal trainer and start working out seriously.

23.5, apparently. I've never calculated it before this thread.


I don't think it matters to me because I seem to have some sort of body dysmorphia that makes me think I'm hugely overweight no matter what I weigh, from 100 to 140 pounds (I'm not tall ... at all). I've never actually done anything about my weight throughout the years on purpose. If I'm too stressed, I just am not hungry and if I'm very sad, I emotionally eat. I've been this particular size for my late twenties and late thirties, was way smaller early twenties and way bigger early thirties. Husband says he doesn't care, but he is much more physical with me now then when I was bigger.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:25.1

Here is my problem... I just lost 10 lbs and my bra size went from a D to a full C, I am fine with that.

I would like to lose 10 more because it seems a healthier weight, but my boobs don't look good smaller .. They start to sag and my butt gets flatter and I don't like that look.

So I have little incentive to lose weight... Flat boobs and butt, flatter stomach.

Obviously I think about it.

When my H was younger he cared, now he is more evolved and he does not care... Or maybe he just like D boobs... Idk.

You need some squats for that booty.

No I don't. I am muscular ... Flat muscles are less attractive.

This makes no sense. That's not how glutes are shaped. If you're getting saggy and flat and flabby when you lose weight, you aren't muscular.

I did not say flabby, I said flat. My stomach is flat does that make it flabby....NO. If my butt is flat,... aka without fat it is not as sexy as one that is fat. If you don't understand my only questions is... .Are you white?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:25.1

Here is my problem... I just lost 10 lbs and my bra size went from a D to a full C, I am fine with that.

I would like to lose 10 more because it seems a healthier weight, but my boobs don't look good smaller .. They start to sag and my butt gets flatter and I don't like that look.

So I have little incentive to lose weight... Flat boobs and butt, flatter stomach.

Obviously I think about it.

When my H was younger he cared, now he is more evolved and he does not care... Or maybe he just like D boobs... Idk.

You need some squats for that booty.

No I don't. I am muscular ... Flat muscles are less attractive.

This makes no sense. That's not how glutes are shaped. If you're getting saggy and flat and flabby when you lose weight, you aren't muscular.

20.4 I'm not overweight but definitely out of shape and weak.

18.5

I do care about my weight, and so does my husband but to a much lesser degree.

23.

I care.

16.2

No, I don't have,an eating disorder. I just can't gain weight no matter how hard I try (& lose weight at the drop of a hat).

Do I care? Yes, I really wish I weren't so skinny (I would love to gain about 20 lbs). I've been this,say my whole life, though, so I've come to terms with it. I'm still holding out some hope, though, that I will beaming the majority of people who gain weight as they approach middle age!

Does my DH care? I'm sure he would like it if I gained some weight but he married me when I was at this weight so it obviously doesn't bother him too much. The only time he's ever said anything negative about my body was when we had only known each other for a relatively short time & were still just friends & it was said out of concern for my health (he was worried I might have an eating disorder but, after spending a good deal of time with me, realized I was telling the truth/wasn't in denial when I said I was just naturally scrawny).

26-27

Anonymous wrote:20, and yes my DH cares. He made it very clear when we were dating that he would not be attracted to me if I was fat.

Boy, sounds like a happy marriage.