Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 13:12     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many men I've slept with.


I have it pretty much figured out, not that I have spent a lot of time thinking about it. In all honestly, I love you and it doesn't concern me in the least.


Even though many of them were better lovers, more creative and less inhibited, and that I think of them when we're together?


That's evil. Couples with good sex lives are able to communicate their wants and needs.


I asked and she laughed and said no way in hell. See! Communication.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 12:35     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have had an AP for the past year.


Same here.


what is AP?


It's a college level course taken in high school to get college credit. You have to take the test though.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 12:33     Subject: What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:I am horrible at playing board games (ie Risk) due to my competitive nature. I often get into fights.

Lol my husband knows this about me. How have you managed to hide it? Hahahaha.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 12:19     Subject: What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
I am horrible at playing board games (ie Risk) due to my competitive nature. I often get into fights.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 11:54     Subject: What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
My husband doesn't know anything about the one night stand I had (before we met).

And he doesn't know how much I masturbate to offset the depressingly different sex drives he and I have.

He would, however, totally know that I would read "AP" as au pair and not affair partner. And he'd probably make the same mistake - which is a good thing IMO.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 10:51     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have had an AP for the past year.


Same here.


what is AP?


She's been shopping at the A&P instead of Whole Foods for the past year.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 10:43     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have had an AP for the past year.


Same here.


what is AP?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 10:36     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:Are you really saying it is evil to think of other lovers when you are with somebody else? Sad, yes. Unfortunate, yes. You might have an intimacy problem, yes. But evil?


Everyone thinks about past lovers or "other people" occasionally.

Wouldn't want my SO to know about it. Wouldn't want to know who my SO thinks about. But so long as neither party acts on those thoughts, who cares?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 10:33     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many men I've slept with.


I have it pretty much figured out, not that I have spent a lot of time thinking about it. In all honestly, I love you and it doesn't concern me in the least.


Even though many of them were better lovers, more creative and less inhibited, and that I think of them when we're together?


If you are unable to communicate what your husband needs to do to be "better" / "more creative" / "less inhibited" then that's your fault, not his.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 10:20     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many men I've slept with.


I have it pretty much figured out, not that I have spent a lot of time thinking about it. In all honestly, I love you and it doesn't concern me in the least.


Even though many of them were better lovers, more creative and less inhibited, and that I think of them when we're together?


That's evil. Couples with good sex lives are able to communicate their wants and needs.


Are you really saying it is evil to think of other lovers when you are with somebody else? Sad, yes. Unfortunate, yes. You might have an intimacy problem, yes. But evil?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 10:11     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many men I've slept with.


I have it pretty much figured out, not that I have spent a lot of time thinking about it. In all honestly, I love you and it doesn't concern me in the least.


Even though many of them were better lovers, more creative and less inhibited, and that I think of them when we're together?


That's evil. Couples with good sex lives are able to communicate their wants and needs.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 09:34     Subject: What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:That now that we've had kids for a few years, I still wish we didn't. He thought once we had them, I'd realize how much I wanted them and never realized it before. Nope.


Sounds like you're blaming him. It's not his fault you did something you knew you didn't want. People who do not want kids really should not have any. If that's a deal breaker for the relationship, better to get out than have kids you KNOW don't want.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 09:32     Subject: What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks PP. good news is the only thing I'm sad about is that I didn't speak up for myself sooner. If anyone is out there even thinking about saying something to your doctor about how rundown or sad you are, do it. My life changed instantly when I finally made a weak ask for help. It's been five years and I'm so happy and most importantly back to being myself. If it's even crossed your mind that things aren't right for you, talk to your doctor. I needed that reminder then but unfortunately it took me a year to see that sleeping all the time and sobbing at the news was not behavior that was in line with the real me.


I am so happy to hear this. So glad you're on the right track now.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 09:30     Subject: What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Um, nothing? Is that bad?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2016 09:28     Subject: Re:What is one thing your SO doesn't know about you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many men I've slept with.


I have it pretty much figured out, not that I have spent a lot of time thinking about it. In all honestly, I love you and it doesn't concern me in the least.


Even though many of them were better lovers, more creative and less inhibited, and that I think of them when we're together?