Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:49     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - let him handle the fall out - you let him run with this. Let him finish it.


Thanks.

Yeah.

That is the only thing I can think of too.

Still, it makes me feel embarrassed, for him, for my daughter, for us.

Why is everything so darn difficult?



I'm not sure if you need to be embarrassed. Girl scout cookie snaffoos happen all the time. Some girls from our neighborhood (we didn't know them, they are not on our street) sold my DD1 some cookies (she's 5, I was at the door when we chose). DD1 is in a weird phase where she likes to journal the important events of the day. Has written down on Jan 22, 'Girl scouts came to our house. I bought 3 types of cookies. They are coming Feb 14'. She has been asking every single day, since Feb 14, for the damn cookies. She is asking us to walk around the neighborhood in search of these girls now and her cookies.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:49     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
You're unhappy about far more than GS cookies. Are you so unhappy that you're willing to get a divorce. Or do you enjoy the house and the accoutrements that your husband's lack of presence provides--namely that he's out, you know, WORKING!?

You better decide what kind of life you want.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:38     Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your anger seems way disproportional to this small (in the grand scheme of things) problem. Seriously. It's not the end of the world, it's not even embarrassing. Sad fact is most people are probably somewhat impressed that your DH took he initiative to sell GS cookies at all. Kudos to him for attempting this PITA task.

DH and I have pretty major marital issues too but I don't think blowing up over issues like this is worth the emotions expended. Here's how we handled the Boy Scouts popcorn sales. I told him I had no interest in selling popcorn, but would gladly donate to the BS instead. He thought it would be a good experience for the boys, so he took them to sell it, he handled the orders and he did the deliveries. I have no idea how much they sold, whom they sold it to, whether it was delivered timely or if any of it was a handled correctly. We also had leftovers but I will assume he ordered extra for us and frankly don't care if it was a mix-up. Popcorn sales were his project- he's responsible for the outcome and it's not my concern. I have enough to worry about and be upset over.

Obviously, this isn't just about the cookies.


Eh, they probably won't be that impressed if he took their money but didn't deliver their cookies.


Such a small issue I'm pretty sure it can fixed somehow.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:35     Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:Your anger seems way disproportional to this small (in the grand scheme of things) problem. Seriously. It's not the end of the world, it's not even embarrassing. Sad fact is most people are probably somewhat impressed that your DH took he initiative to sell GS cookies at all. Kudos to him for attempting this PITA task.

DH and I have pretty major marital issues too but I don't think blowing up over issues like this is worth the emotions expended. Here's how we handled the Boy Scouts popcorn sales. I told him I had no interest in selling popcorn, but would gladly donate to the BS instead. He thought it would be a good experience for the boys, so he took them to sell it, he handled the orders and he did the deliveries. I have no idea how much they sold, whom they sold it to, whether it was delivered timely or if any of it was a handled correctly. We also had leftovers but I will assume he ordered extra for us and frankly don't care if it was a mix-up. Popcorn sales were his project- he's responsible for the outcome and it's not my concern. I have enough to worry about and be upset over.

Obviously, this isn't just about the cookies.


Eh, they probably won't be that impressed if he took their money but didn't deliver their cookies.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:35     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people just say to let DH handle the fallout. They are a family. It will reflect poorly on the family not just on DH. They will not support the kid in whatever else she raises money for. And, honestly, when the neighbors are thinking about this situation they will be thinking about the mother bc the father was just so sweet taking his daughter around and can't possibly be accountable for the fiasco because he is just a dumb man. Drives me nuts.


Really? Does messing up a cookie order "reflect poorly on the family"? Newsflash- your neighbors don't spend that much time thinking about your family in these terms. And if they do, it means they have no life, so why would you care? If someone is so petty that he or she were to judge me for messing up a cookie order, I'd be quite happy not to have anything to do with that person anyway.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:32     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
If he's your husband give him the benefit of the doubt. Even if you don't believe him it will show some trust or belief in him.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:32     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people just say to let DH handle the fallout. They are a family. It will reflect poorly on the family not just on DH. They will not support the kid in whatever else she raises money for. And, honestly, when the neighbors are thinking about this situation they will be thinking about the mother bc the father was just so sweet taking his daughter around and can't possibly be accountable for the fiasco because he is just a dumb man. Drives me nuts.


This is absolutely one billion and twenty percent true, and it drives me nuts too!!!!
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:30     Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Your anger seems way disproportional to this small (in the grand scheme of things) problem. Seriously. It's not the end of the world, it's not even embarrassing. Sad fact is most people are probably somewhat impressed that your DH took he initiative to sell GS cookies at all. Kudos to him for attempting this PITA task.

DH and I have pretty major marital issues too but I don't think blowing up over issues like this is worth the emotions expended. Here's how we handled the Boy Scouts popcorn sales. I told him I had no interest in selling popcorn, but would gladly donate to the BS instead. He thought it would be a good experience for the boys, so he took them to sell it, he handled the orders and he did the deliveries. I have no idea how much they sold, whom they sold it to, whether it was delivered timely or if any of it was a handled correctly. We also had leftovers but I will assume he ordered extra for us and frankly don't care if it was a mix-up. Popcorn sales were his project- he's responsible for the outcome and it's not my concern. I have enough to worry about and be upset over.

Obviously, this isn't just about the cookies.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:29     Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
I get what she is saying. It's not this one thing, but many he's done over a period of time. My bf had a husband like this. He would mess up everything. Got them into financial messes, many money making schemes that would blow up in their face. She made good money so he figured he was financially sound. She ended up dying, he's now struggling. That guy never learned, I will bet he would also mess up GS orders, lol.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:28     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.


What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?


If all along he knew there were going to be leftovers it almost sounds like he ordered 100 boxes himself and then sold off those 100. Sp the leftovers are the ones he did not sell.


According to GS regs, you are not supposed to collect money before the cookies are delivered. Hopefully, this is the case for your DH and everyone paid for the cookies they received (if not ordered).
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:22     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
OP, no one sane will care. My neighbor lost my cookies after I paid #10 for them, and apologized. I had totally forgotten I even ordered them. I thought nothing of it and moved on with my life. I understand it is a little frustrating, but I think your reaction to the situation is not proportional to what occurred.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:18     Subject: Re:This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
You should have orders to find out who got theirs and who didn't.

The leftovers belong to someone. Worst case you'll be getting calls, but I wonder what he did.

Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 11:01     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
I don't understand why people just say to let DH handle the fallout. They are a family. It will reflect poorly on the family not just on DH. They will not support the kid in whatever else she raises money for. And, honestly, when the neighbors are thinking about this situation they will be thinking about the mother bc the father was just so sweet taking his daughter around and can't possibly be accountable for the fiasco because he is just a dumb man. Drives me nuts.
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 10:55     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
Anonymous wrote:My husband takes my daughter around to sell Girl Scout cookies. " Thanks, DH! Good job!" All is fine. Thanks for participating for once in your child's life. Appreciate it.

When we get the cookies, they go around and deliver them. Still all is fine. Dh is feeling like superdad and bragging to everyone what he has done AND saying, "I can't wait for leftovers."

I try to explain: there will be no left-overs. You only get what you put in an order for.

I get an email this morning. "Here are the left-over cookies: 2 Rah-Rah Raisins, 7 Thin Mints, 10 Samoas, etc etc etc."

"Hmm?????" I ask, "Can you please clarify? Left-over??? Do you mean ones that have not yet been delivered???????????????????????????"

He calls me saying, "No, they're left-overs. We delivered them all. These are left-overs."

I try and I try to explain that there should be no left-overs; we only put in the order for what he had. He continues to insist, getting angrier and angrier, "I went out there and did all this cookie ordering!!! These are left-overs!!!!!!!"

THIS IS NOT POSSIBLE. WE DID NOT GET EXTRAS. DH HAS LOST TRACK OF WHO ORDRED WHAT AND WHAT HE HAS NOW DELIVERED AND NOW OUR GS COOKIE SITUATION IS A TOTAL CLUSTER-FUCK.

Why cannot he handle the simplest situation?? Why? Why?? Why?????


Op you will most likely have to write him up and put him on a performance improvement plan. Hopefully he will make the changes needed to remain in your service. One concern I would have is GSC are only sold once a year....so you might have to extend the review period. Otherwise he may have grounds. Maybe someone from HR can chime in?
Anonymous
Post 03/01/2016 10:54     Subject: This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.
That is really frustrating OP. I can understand why you would be totally annoyed at your DH.

The tracking of orders though is really on your DD though. That's part of the process of learning. both you and DH should have worked with her each day she took orders to make sure the order form was filled out enough so she could figure out how ordered what.

Deliveries should have been separated at home and bagged up with delivery slips. Then your DD should have marked off on the order form who delivered.

Lesson learned for next time.

I do have a DD and she has sold at both of our offices in the past and we had her do this since she was a Daisy scout.