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Anonymous wrote:Fear of commitment or he is short, fat, bald, ugly. Maybe all of those.

He's 5'8", not fat, not bald, not ugly. He's in GREAT shape. He's awesome in bed and will try anything. He's romantic, thoughtful, hot for me. He has said that he wants to get married and have a child but hasn't found "the one".

Why is baldness always looked at so negatively? I'm 6', good shape, and have thinning hair. Feel like women are going to look at me like a loser.

The same reason why I as a man dislike women with thin hair (blondes after 30 are major culprits of this). It is very unattractive.

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Anonymous wrote:Fear of commitment or he is short, fat, bald, ugly. Maybe all of those.

He's 5'8", not fat, not bald, not ugly. He's in GREAT shape. He's awesome in bed and will try anything. He's romantic, thoughtful, hot for me. He has said that he wants to get married and have a child but hasn't found "the one".

The women he wanted did not want him. There was another post on here by someone who said that all the guys she knew that were 5'8, 5'7, 5'6 that married young, met their partners in school and not in the 'open-market'.

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Anonymous wrote:Married to his career all these years, perhaps? He's getting older and surely is feeling a shift in who would consider him a prospect. Sometimes a change in market forces causes a change in tune!

Why? His value continues to rise. Men age like fine wine, women age like milk.

...In your fantasy

It is true though.
Have you experienced dating over 40? The numbers are strongly in men's favor.

In favor of what? Divorcees who are all holding out for a millionaire Brad Pitt-lookalike to get tired of the current divorcee?

He sounds like a commitment phobe. If he's great in bed and in great shape, the problem is him. Some guys say that they are looking for marriage because it scares off women to openly admit that you're 40 plus and solely looking for fun. I'd ask him specific questions about his intentions for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Married to his career all these years, perhaps? He's getting older and surely is feeling a shift in who would consider him a prospect. Sometimes a change in market forces causes a change in tune!

Why? His value continues to rise. Men age like fine wine, women age like milk.

...In your fantasy

It is true though.
Have you experienced dating over 40? The numbers are strongly in men's favor.

NP. This kind of low IQed "logic" is why you are single. What you are claiming -- that the numbers are in men's favor above 40 -- does not mean men age well. It simply means that the pickings become slimmer among men as the cohort ages, so women have to settle for dregs (like you with your man boobs and ED). Dummy.

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Anonymous wrote:Married to his career all these years, perhaps? He's getting older and surely is feeling a shift in who would consider him a prospect. Sometimes a change in market forces causes a change in tune!

Why? His value continues to rise. Men age like fine wine, women age like milk.

...In your fantasy

It is true though.
Have you experienced dating over 40? The numbers are strongly in men's favor.

Perhaps he IS telling you the truth.

He may very well have not met the right woman yet.

I agree he does sound like a great catch, I also would be wondering why some lucky lady didn't snatch him up years ago.

While not necessarily a red flag per say, it is only common sense to proceed slowly here in getting to know him.

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Anonymous wrote:Fear of commitment or he is short, fat, bald, ugly. Maybe all of those.

He's 5'8", not fat, not bald, not ugly. He's in GREAT shape. He's awesome in bed and will try anything. He's romantic, thoughtful, hot for me. He has said that he wants to get married and have a child but hasn't found "the one".

Why is baldness always looked at so negatively? I'm 6', good shape, and have thinning hair. Feel like women are going to look at me like a loser.

Tbh, it's definitely, definitely a bad thing. Use Rogaine if you can. Still, being short is worse than being bald, so at least you get points on that front.

It's not a bad thing, ignore the PP. many women love bald men. I find them very sexy too - but confidence in general is what is most sexy.
If you feel like a loser, that will be a problem - not the baldness itself.

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Anonymous wrote:Said that he has never found the right girl. He's a great guy, has an awesome job. Makes good money. Has a great family. He should have been taken years ago. What am I missing?

Probably nothing! You may have hit the jackpot. My DH was 44 when we met and I could have said the same thing. Go for it!

But how much younger than him were you? Anecdotally, the older men I knew who finally settled down, did so with significantly younger women.
PPs who met/married your DH's when they were in mid-forties -- were you much younger than him?

OP what you described is true of my 39 year old brother, who I think has too-high standards. Do he was probably just waiting for someone as wonderful as you!!

Could be a great fit, or could be a commitment phobe. Don't assume there's something wrong with him, but if everything is going well six months to a year from now and he is being wishy-washy about next steps and avoids making plans for the long-term future, believe his actions and cut and run (unless of course you are fine w no marriage/kids). The risk w a guy like that is that they think they want marriage and kids with the right woman, but they really don't want it at all.

My husband was about that age when we met. He's just impossibly picky and as he aged, became so set in his ways that it made relationships difficult. Add in the fact that he was flying high and moving to different cities and countries every couple of years and there's the recipe for bachelorhood.

I don't buy the "shyness" theory. I know a lot of guys who don't have a lot of game and tend to be shy, but they put themselves out there enough to connect because they're driven to have a relationship. I think the people who don't put themselves out there are just not driven to be emotionally connected.

Anonymous wrote:My best friend is like your guy. Somewhat short, but successful and career and family oriented but single at age 45 (is he a marathoner? Maybe this is my friend.) Reason he and others like him are often single is shyness. He isn't good at approaching women so he gets beat out by the more aggressive men.

That might be true about the shyness. But if you are in s relationship with him you are set. Just don't stay too long if you want to get married and he still isn't sure.
There should be a male version of the Runaway Bride. Come on - The Runaway Groom would be a great flick.

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Anonymous wrote:In real life, darling. Sorry to break it to you. His wallet gets fatter while your tits get saggier.

most women in their twenties and thirties would much rather marry a guy who is 30-35 than a guy over 35. a lot of women are wary of single men over 40, no matter how wealthy he is.

A lot of women are home alone with cats.

I'm home with my cats - and an extremely hunky smart successful husband. Cats are cool - pfffft.