Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 08:16     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.




Girl on the left is too skinny, I'd actually pass on her.

Girl in the middle is ideal and girl son the right is my upper bound (but still hot, IMO) - she is what I'd call "plump". DW tells me that's "curvy" and "plump" is bigger. IMO, any bigger is "fat".

I actually find there are a lot of women/sizes in between the left and center, which where I prefer to date.


OK, I am girl on the right. Defined waist, larger thighs, big boobs and butt. I think of myself as fat though and assumed men did too. I guess most do but some see me as plump.
Anonymous
Post 02/25/2016 08:07     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.


http://en.rocketnews24.com/2015/08/27/the-difference-between-a-fat-woman-and-a-plump-one-according-to-one-japanese-twitter-artist/


One just looks like they have less body fat versus the other. I bet you they both weight the same.


The have different body types, so the fat is distributed differently. I agree, the weight range is the same.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 21:55     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.




Girl on the left is too skinny, I'd actually pass on her.

Girl in the middle is ideal and girl son the right is my upper bound (but still hot, IMO) - she is what I'd call "plump". DW tells me that's "curvy" and "plump" is bigger. IMO, any bigger is "fat".

I actually find there are a lot of women/sizes in between the left and center, which where I prefer to date.


Agreed. I would take the girl on the right and the girl in the center over the one on the left.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 21:54     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I like my men to be ripped, so that's very important.
I just think men look so unattractive when big. Very womanly. And they feel soft and squishy, which is also feminine.


Another way for men to be attractive regardless of body



Eh, she doesnt look impressed. At all.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 16:44     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:One just looks like they have less body fat versus the other. I bet you they both weight the same.


Well, we all know we're talking about how much body fat you appear to have, not the actual raw weight number. This is silly. Who cares if they weigh the same....one looks fat, the other does not.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 16:42     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.




Girl on the left is too skinny, I'd actually pass on her.

Girl in the middle is ideal and girl son the right is my upper bound (but still hot, IMO) - she is what I'd call "plump". DW tells me that's "curvy" and "plump" is bigger. IMO, any bigger is "fat".

I actually find there are a lot of women/sizes in between the left and center, which where I prefer to date.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 16:36     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
More to love.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 14:45     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and lost about 15 pounds. Now i'm pretty fit and skinny. My OLD responses are probably up 10 TIMES what they were previously.

I think that if you manage to get a date with a great guy and show him that you're wonderful, it's okay to be a little overweight. But I've observed it's harder to get that first date if you're not thin.

I wish this wasn't true, but it is. I see it every day.







I agree with this. I'm a size ten - still losing baby weight God help me - but was hit on constantly pre-pregnancy, as a 4/6. It's amazing how an extra 20 pounds has made me feel constantly frumpy/unattractive/invisible.

Let's take "hit on" out of the equation. Men will hit on anything (fat or skinny) depending on the time of day and their mood. Dating sites are different because it's not instant gratification...like in a bar.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 14:38     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.


http://en.rocketnews24.com/2015/08/27/the-difference-between-a-fat-woman-and-a-plump-one-according-to-one-japanese-twitter-artist/


One just looks like they have less body fat versus the other. I bet you they both weight the same.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 14:37     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and lost about 15 pounds. Now i'm pretty fit and skinny. My OLD responses are probably up 10 TIMES what they were previously.

I think that if you manage to get a date with a great guy and show him that you're wonderful, it's okay to be a little overweight. But I've observed it's harder to get that first date if you're not thin.

I wish this wasn't true, but it is. I see it every day.







I agree with this. I'm a size ten - still losing baby weight God help me - but was hit on constantly pre-pregnancy, as a 4/6. It's amazing how an extra 20 pounds has made me feel constantly frumpy/unattractive/invisible.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 14:33     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.


http://en.rocketnews24.com/2015/08/27/the-difference-between-a-fat-woman-and-a-plump-one-according-to-one-japanese-twitter-artist/
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 14:21     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is telling that people clearly understand that being overweight is unattractive, yet they don't care enough about the marriage to actually put in the effort. Suddenly divorced, they put forth the effort. I honesty think this is why so many marriages fail. People just stop putting in the effor with their spouse.


I got overweight because 95% of the household and child related work falls to me, yet I work outside the home 45 hours a week as well. If he wanted the me I was 20 pounds ago, he has to do more work. Simple.

I don't understand what that has to do with your diet. You're fat because you eat too much. Not because you do too much.


Spoken like someone who has never tried to do too much.

I still don't understand why you are blaming your weight on your DH "making" you do too much. I would think that someone sitting on the couch all day watching TV and eating would be fat but not someone that is constantly busy. Your food choices (type and amount) are the culprit here. Be honest with yourself.


I am the person who thinks you have never really worked too hard, but not the poor woman who is doing 95% of the childcare and still working full time. I know it's hard for her because I live in the real world with other people, and I know what it's like not to have any time to care for yourself. Stop being an asshole to this poor lady.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 14:21     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Show me plump, I'm curious.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 13:07     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:Fat girls
eat more at dinner time
so its a more expensive date
then a slender chick
However at least a fat girl wont go running to
the bathroom stick her finger down her throat
and vomit all that expensive food down the toilet

some women carry the weight better than others

for the most part if youre even asking the question youre not ready to date because youre too insecure

get your big butt to they gym for 3 or 4 months
then try again


Anonymous
Post 02/24/2016 13:03     Subject: If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It seems like every single online dating profile indicates a desire for a slim/fit partner. Is there no hope for an average 40 something to find a quality person?


People put that in to weed out the actual fatties. If you're truly average sized then it won't be an issue.


+1

It really depends on what you mean by "average 40 something". The last 40-something I dated (when I was an "average" 43 year old) was thin - no excess fat, no rolls, even when not standing straight.

I would date up to plump, provided she made it clear she wasn't self-conscious about her looks.