Family ring. Didn't even need to be resized.

Anonymous wrote:No engagement ring. Time to do away with those. What about an engagement investment?
We do have cheap gold bands, but we are not even married.

Maybe so you wouldn't get hit on in a grocery store, bar, etc? At least an engagement ring tells guys that one is taken and not to waste the effort of making small talk.

5k back than it was worth every penny, now think back its a waste of money, shouldn't event spend on anything and be single!

Zero. Married a feminist, she would have had a "WTF" look on her face if I gave her a ring lol

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Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Don't marry him. This does note bode well.

why?

His inability to come up with an "adequate" ring is hard to swallow? And when anything other than a 800k shitshack is out of reach is that hard to swallow too? This is a recipe for gourmet resentment.

Agree. 2k is fine. Save your money for a house in an area with good schools.

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Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Your BF is a good guy. I would stick with him. He is not overextending himself, trying to be something he is not. He means well and when ready he can always upgrade someday. I was in my 30s when I bought my wife's engagement ring. I spent around 20k on diamond solitaire but I was making 200k+ so it wasn't a huge deal. I could have gone bigger and more expensive but didn't. Why? No point. It wouldn't make her any happier than she is. Money is great and nice rings are awesome too but doesn't keep you warm at night.

It's so hard to take your advice seriously once I read that you spent 20k on the solitaire. At 20k I would hope that your wife is happy and wouldn't need bigger or better. At 200k+ I don't blame you for spending 20k, but don't try to relate to the poor guy who confessed the truth of his financial assets where he can only afford a 2k ring for the PP.

No engagement ring. Time to do away with those. What about an engagement investment?
We do have cheap gold bands, but we are not even married.

Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Your BF is a good guy. I would stick with him. He is not overextending himself, trying to be something he is not. He means well and when ready he can always upgrade someday. I was in my 30s when I bought my wife's engagement ring. I spent around 20k on diamond solitaire but I was making 200k+ so it wasn't a huge deal. I could have gone bigger and more expensive but didn't. Why? No point. It wouldn't make her any happier than she is. Money is great and nice rings are awesome too but doesn't keep you warm at night.

Anonymous wrote:Engagement ring was $14K in 2005
Wedding band was 3K

His band was $1200

No regrets

same

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Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Don't marry him. This does note bode well.

why?

Not PP but probably a disconnect of expectations here.

If you're ready to spend your life with your BF, does the 2k engagement ring matter that much to you?

For me, I had to figure out the same thing and what we ultimately decided was we figured out that if we waited 6 months, BF who had only been at his job for 1.5 years at the time of discussion was able to have more time to save up for the ring I really wanted. In the end, it was the best decision for us. Moving forward, we both have careers where our salaries will grow over the years, assuming we stay in the same job, and there's no expectation on my end for purchasing a 800k home. 750 is our top limit, and I'm much more comfortable in the 550-650 range because we do have student loans to slough through.

Make sure you know what you want, what your expectations are BEFORE you agree to marry your BF. Otherwise, it's a really hard pill to swallow later on when you start planning the wedding and realize that you're both not on the same page when it comes to financial concerns.

I had no engagement ring, just a $30 gold band. I loved it. Husband doesn't wear a ring.

Years ago he bought me an eternity band. Never asked for one, it was a surprise. I feel bad because I can no longer wear it. He should have just put the money in a secret savings account. THAT would have been of better use.

Just saying. I am not the jewelry wearing type. He knew this before he bought that ring.

I should pawn it. Mama needs some pocket money.

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Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Don't marry him. This does note bode well.

why?

Not PP but probably a disconnect of expectations here.

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Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Don't marry him. This does note bode well.

why?

Anonymous wrote:These rings are so expensive!

Do all these men have family money to spend? Or are high earning lawyers?

My BF who is about to propose to me sat me down and told me he cannot afford a nice ring for me so he will get me one for like 2k. It was hard to swallow.

Don't marry him. This does note bode well.

Anonymous wrote:My engagement ring was a family ring (free). So, pretty much nothing.

+1 But it's insured for a fortune.

Then again, if you have to ask, you can't afford it.