I didn't actually wish harm to ex-DH but definitely there were times that I thought that if he were to die, that would make my life a lot simpler. We're divorced now.

A woman wishing her husband was dead? Can't say I'm too surprised.

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Anonymous wrote:When he was shoveling during the blizzard, I kept thinking that a heart attack wouldn't be so bad.

That's really craven of you.

+1 Seriously. I just can't imagine thinking that way or living that way.

My DH and I sometimes have a difficult time in our marriage but recently went through a serious cancer scare (he had cancer but it thankfully turned out to be low-grade) and all I could think that whole time was, "please, please let him be alive and be able to father our children." I would be devastated as well but just thinking about the children losing him makes me tear up. I have thought about what it would be like if he died, just in terms of imagining future scenarios, but all of them are a nightmare and I would never, never wish it and am so grateful he lives on. I hope he outlives me. But given his health issues he probably won't.
If you seriously think your life would be better if your spouse were dead, you should divorce.

Anyone who thinks wishing a spouse were dead is a normal negative thought needs to get some help or get out of the marriage stat. We all get annoyed with our spouses sometimes but not once in 15 years have I wished him dead - or even just gone for good. Wow. Horrible.

Every time I read these boards I'm even more grateful for my marriage and husband.

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Anonymous wrote:I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

I wish for your spouse to be a widower.

Yeah, my spouse probably wishes he was a widower, too. Oh, well. No such luck.

Anonymous wrote:I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

I wish for your spouse to be a widower.

hell no!! My husband is away for a week and it is SO MUCH HARDER without him. And I miss his company

Uh, your husband's death also would make your daughter sad.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea who these people are that have never had a negative thought in their life! Of course, at times I'm really angry, I've imagined this. I feel terrible for thinking it soon after and realize how dumb it is. I have also imagined how much better things would be if I suddenly died. Then, I realize that was stupid as well. If you don't have thoughts like this, I guess you're lucky. I always thought everyone did.

?! There is quite a difference between "never having a negative thought in their lives" and "sometimes wishing their husband were dead." I'm amazed anyone would think that wish is normal even as a fleeting thought.

I don't wish for it, but I think it will happen and sometimes try to think about how I will deal with it. DH doesn't take care of himself, and I doubt he will see our children grow all the way up (he would be 55 then).

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Anonymous wrote:
I admit I have thought it in the past. Then an acquaintance lost her husband suddenly in December. I would not wish that on myself or anyone ever. Particularly anyone with kids.


You wouldn't wish it on yourself. Nice. Burial arrangements ARE a hassle, aren't they?

I said myself or anyone else. Nice reading comprehension.

And the question OP asked was "do YOU wish YOU were widowed" (emphasis added because, as shown above, you have difficulty understanding the written word.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Next to my children dying, this is my biggest fear. I'm not sure how I could recover .

So, how does your spouse like playing third or lower fiddle to your kids?

2nd fiddle, my kids are equally the 2 most important people in my life. We both feel the same way.

I have no idea who these people are that have never had a negative thought in their life! Of course, at times I'm really angry, I've imagined this. I feel terrible for thinking it soon after and realize how dumb it is. I have also imagined how much better things would be if I suddenly died. Then, I realize that was stupid as well. If you don't have thoughts like this, I guess you're lucky. I always thought everyone did.

I hate my spouse so yes It would really make me very, very, extremely, infinity x infinity happy