Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 20:28     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Condoms can get handed out at traffic lights as part of health campaigns.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 20:26     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
If he is that obvious about it there's probably tons of evidence for OP to find, unless she has already had suspicions and has just been ignoring them.

I don't think it suggests her husband is sleeping with men, though he could be. Condoms in a car = trying to keep sex secret, period.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 20:24     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeez, hookers and gay sex? Do straight people not use condoms?


Married people? No.


We are talking about a married person having an affair. Why would you assume he couldn't be having an affair with another woman??

Also, plenty of married people use condoms because they can't or don't want to take hormonal birth control.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 20:20     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. The additional condoms and lube tell you all you need to know in terms of knowing he's had sex with at least one other person if not people.

Honestly, and maybe it's just because this happens to me, the lube plus car condoms suggests same-sex anonymous hookup to me. There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked. If your DH's time is mostly accounted for and you can't imagine him being able to have a full time affair, that would be my guess.

For me, it was somewhat a comfort to know that the sex was anonymous and not at all emotional or personal, but I still couldn't live with the breach in trust and eventually split up.

SurvivingInfidelity.com can be a huge help to you now. I'm so sorry, OP.


DH here: sadly, this sounds like the most plausible scenario to me, too. I'd gather more evidence before confronting, however, since it is not entirely definitive and if he stonewalls and goes dark because he knows you know, you will drive yourself crazy wondering.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 20:20     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
All women are programmed to have the "talk" that they will divorce you if the man cheats. A desperate attempt to keep men loyal. Women know that older men can have a lot of younger nookie since men age so much better than women
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 19:42     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Op. I'm so sorry. The lube doesn't bode well. I, too, can thinking same sex or a pro. Or a same sex pro.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 19:41     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Where does OP say there was lube??
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 19:38     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeez, hookers and gay sex? Do straight people not use condoms?


Married people? No.


Many do. But OP would know.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 19:35     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP you obviously must suspect it to some degree. If I found a condom in my DH's car I'd assume either his friend left it as a joke or it was a joke.


Only a fool would think that. Who the hell just sticks condoms in their married friend's glove compartments? I don't suspect my husband of cheating in the least, but if clear evidence that he is doing so presents itself, I'm not sticking my head in the sand.


+1 15 year olds play jokes like that.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 19:23     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeez, hookers and gay sex? Do straight people not use condoms?


Married people? No.


Married people, yes. If they don't want to use chemical birth control. Or are having an affair.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 19:22     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
I'm so sorry, OP. The additional condoms and lube tell you all you need to know in terms of knowing he's had sex with at least one other person if not people.

Honestly, and maybe it's just because this happens to me, the lube plus car condoms suggests same-sex anonymous hookup to me. There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked. If your DH's time is mostly accounted for and you can't imagine him being able to have a full time affair, that would be my guess.

For me, it was somewhat a comfort to know that the sex was anonymous and not at all emotional or personal, but I still couldn't live with the breach in trust and eventually split up.

SurvivingInfidelity.com can be a huge help to you now. I'm so sorry, OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 18:50     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Anonymous wrote:Jeez, hookers and gay sex? Do straight people not use condoms?


Married people? No.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 18:36     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Jeez, hookers and gay sex? Do straight people not use condoms?
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 18:32     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
I think gay sex
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2016 18:24     Subject: Found a condom in my husband's car
Does anyone else think hookers when there's condoms and lube in the car?