Anonymous
01/21/2016 23:57
Subject: Re:questions for those who have lost a child
I lost my nephew who I was very close to - was there when he was born, with all his hospital visits for 9 years and was with him when he passed from a seizure that put him in a comma.
The days in ICU I found to be a bit of a gift, a time to mourn and say good bye - I stayed with him at night while nobody was there and just was present with him, I cried most of the time, but it was comforting to be able to see him and feel his presence, because that will be something you will later long for. Not trying to make you feel worse. But when you are going thru it you think about the end and kind of how is this going to happen and because it is so painful want to get to the end...but it doesn't end - she will always be with you, you will have a deep loss and you will feel that and carry it. So, just slow down, try not to think of others or the house, or planning, just hold her hand, see her little face and let her feel your love and presence - she can feel it. No one can tell you what it will be like for you really. But it will probably not bring the relief you seek when she does pass, you will probably be very angry and a lot of other emotions you may not be prepared for. Going home will be difficult without her. Having lots of people around will help you from sinking, even if you don't really think you want them around or want to talk to them. You will have to comfort others when you feel they should be comforting you, people will be awkward and say odd things. It will be awful, but she was a gift and carrying her with you, feeling that love for the rest of your life is what you can hold to. I wish her a peaceful passing and comfort to you.
The days in ICU I found to be a bit of a gift, a time to mourn and say good bye - I stayed with him at night while nobody was there and just was present with him, I cried most of the time, but it was comforting to be able to see him and feel his presence, because that will be something you will later long for. Not trying to make you feel worse. But when you are going thru it you think about the end and kind of how is this going to happen and because it is so painful want to get to the end...but it doesn't end - she will always be with you, you will have a deep loss and you will feel that and carry it. So, just slow down, try not to think of others or the house, or planning, just hold her hand, see her little face and let her feel your love and presence - she can feel it. No one can tell you what it will be like for you really. But it will probably not bring the relief you seek when she does pass, you will probably be very angry and a lot of other emotions you may not be prepared for. Going home will be difficult without her. Having lots of people around will help you from sinking, even if you don't really think you want them around or want to talk to them. You will have to comfort others when you feel they should be comforting you, people will be awkward and say odd things. It will be awful, but she was a gift and carrying her with you, feeling that love for the rest of your life is what you can hold to. I wish her a peaceful passing and comfort to you.
Anonymous
01/21/2016 23:05
Subject: Re:questions for those who have lost a child
I'm so sorry OP. Am sending love and light your way.
Anonymous
01/21/2016 23:05
Subject: Re:questions for those who have lost a child
I'm so sorry, OP. I hope that you can find a support group and make time to attend to your grief. Loss, especially one like this that isn't universal, can be very isolating. Finding others who have been down this road is important, in my opinion. Deepest sympathies to you.
Anonymous
01/21/2016 22:59
Subject: questions for those who have lost a child
Love and light to OP and all PPs.
Anonymous
01/21/2016 16:07
Subject: Re:questions for those who have lost a child
I am so deeply sorry for your loss, OP. Crying, thinking about you and your family. Wishing you peace and sending virtual love and hugs your way.
Anonymous
01/21/2016 13:53
Subject: Re:questions for those who have lost a child
My deepest condolences, OP.
Anonymous
01/16/2016 08:13
Subject: questions for those who have lost a child
I hope you are able to find peace and I am so very, very sorry for your loss.
Anonymous
01/16/2016 00:12
Subject: questions for those who have lost a child
OP I too cried reading these posts. I am thinking about you and your family. I wish you peace and know that you are not alone. Sending lots of hugs and love.
Anonymous
01/15/2016 23:24
Subject: questions for those who have lost a child
Op, I cry for you and your loss. I am so sorry.