Anonymous wrote:

Only insane parents stay when they've never been in the home or met the parents!" poster shows up. Keep trying, but know that you cannot shame sane and smart parents out of having a protective rule that they don't drop kids off at homes we're unfamiliar with.

Speaking of insane, only an insane parent lets some silly creepy troll on an anonymous message board "embarrass" them out of what they know is best for their kid.

Nobody should be shamed out of anything. If you feel it is not safe for your child to be dropped off, you can either (1) ask to stay or (2) decline the invite. What I find extraordinarily rude. however, is when parents do neither of these and then stay and I suddenly have to deal with food and drink etc. for multiple people that I did not plan to be there. My child is the youngest in his class, and by the time most of the kids are 7, I think drop off should be presumed unless otherwise stated.

I would not presume at 7, maybe 8 or 9. I don't see the issue with food. We always have tons of extra and make sure parents know in advanced that lunch is served to them. In less you are low income there is no excuse not to feed everyone and be a good host.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a six year and drop off but only do so if hosting parent is okay with me dropping off kid with his own cupcake and epi as he does have food allergy. 99% of parents are okay with this but every now and again I stay. Of course I write that parent off because there is a greater chance of someone choking then my kid having a reaction with their own food so will assume host parent is a basket case.

You sound pretty selfish. You don't just drop off a kid with an epi pen and hope a parent is ok with it. You need to explain to them how it is used and go over what is ok for your child. There are videos online. If a parent is not willing or want to be trained in it, why on earth would you risk your child safety if the allergy is serious enough to have a pen. When we host a party we always ask each parent for any food allergies or picky eating to make sure the child will be safe/have something to eat. To write off a parent because they are not comfortable with food allergies is strange.

Fellow parent of a kid with a food allergy here: We always tell the host parent in advance when we RSVP. We ask if they are comfortable with the epipen and give them the quick rundown of what using it entails. Most are comfortable, but I'd never look down on a parent who is able to admit that they aren't. It scared the #$#% out of me to think about having to use an epipen when my child first was diagnosed. I've since had to use one twice and I still find it scary. If the host isn't comfortable, I'd rather know so I can stay (and stay as far out of the way as possible). We also go out of our way to bring a safe cupcake for our kid and make things as low-maintenance as possible for the host.

We've had parents drop off kids (some asked us to babysit) and handed us the pen with no instruction at all. I just found the video and watched it. Sadly, most parents are not like you. If it is just a peanut allergy, its easier for me as a host to get everyone cupcakes that are nut free rather than one kid having to bring his own and stand out to the other kids. We always do nut-free so it isn't an issue and if a parent tells me about a random allergy we avoid that too (my child has a few random allergies so I often tell him not to eat the food just in case if I cannot ask what is in it). When a parent RSVP's, I ask about food allergies and let them know the menu and ask if their child will something (or I'll get something specific for all the kids knowing the one child will eat it)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a six year and drop off but only do so if hosting parent is okay with me dropping off kid with his own cupcake and epi as he does have food allergy. 99% of parents are okay with this but every now and again I stay. Of course I write that parent off because there is a greater chance of someone choking then my kid having a reaction with their own food so will assume host parent is a basket case.

You sound pretty selfish. You don't just drop off a kid with an epi pen and hope a parent is ok with it. You need to explain to them how it is used and go over what is ok for your child. There are videos online. If a parent is not willing or want to be trained in it, why on earth would you risk your child safety if the allergy is serious enough to have a pen. When we host a party we always ask each parent for any food allergies or picky eating to make sure the child will be safe/have something to eat. To write off a parent because they are not comfortable with food allergies is strange.

Fellow parent of a kid with a food allergy here: We always tell the host parent in advance when we RSVP. We ask if they are comfortable with the epipen and give them the quick rundown of what using it entails. Most are comfortable, but I'd never look down on a parent who is able to admit that they aren't. It scared the #$#% out of me to think about having to use an epipen when my child first was diagnosed. I've since had to use one twice and I still find it scary. If the host isn't comfortable, I'd rather know so I can stay (and stay as far out of the way as possible). We also go out of our way to bring a safe cupcake for our kid and make things as low-maintenance as possible for the host.

Only insane parents stay when they've never been in the home or met the parents!" poster shows up. Keep trying, but know that you cannot shame sane and smart parents out of having a protective rule that they don't drop kids off at homes we're unfamiliar with.

Speaking of insane, only an insane parent lets some silly creepy troll on an anonymous message board "embarrass" them out of what they know is best for their kid.

Nobody should be shamed out of anything. If you feel it is not safe for your child to be dropped off, you can either (1) ask to stay or (2) decline the invite. What I find extraordinarily rude. however, is when parents do neither of these and then stay and I suddenly have to deal with food and drink etc. for multiple people that I did not plan to be there. My child is the youngest in his class, and by the time most of the kids are 7, I think drop off should be presumed unless otherwise stated.