Anonymous
Post 12/28/2015 21:18     Subject: Petty yes, but I'm still bothered
This is why only children receive gifts in my family. Too many hard feelings and pettiness over nothing.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2015 23:03     Subject: Petty yes, but I'm still bothered
Anonymous wrote:Why is OP so obsessed with her MIl and her MIL's other relationships? THAT is the question. I've never heard of someone caring that much about their relationship with their MIL.


It's only weird and noticeable if they are all sitting around the tree opening these gifts (which it sounds like they are). Otherwise, Op would be oblivious to it all unless she specifically asked SIL what MIL gave her - which Op now knows NOT to do, lol.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2015 23:00     Subject: Re:Petty yes, but I'm still bothered
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is giving you gifts she genuinely thinks you'd like.


Op got one cheap throw. I agree that a throw is not a bad gift and you don't have to pay$$$ to get a good one. However...

Would you feel comfortable giving one of your own DILs a cheap throw, while giving the other DIL boxes of designer clothes and lotions.

I, personally, would feel uncomfortable doing that. At the same time, Op is not the one who DID this. So Op does not need to worry about it. Not even a little.



But it's possible that, like with the baby gifts, she thinks SIL is more pretentious and would care about getting designer lotions. She may consider OP to be "above" that and that she'd be comfortable with a less showy gift. My MIL would not get my SIL designer things, not because she doesn't like her, but because SIL doesn't care about the designer items. But I like them, so she might get them for me with no ill intent towards SIL.


That is possible. But unlikely in this case. 4 or 5 boxes of designer clothes and lotions that the one SIL likes vs. one cheap throw that the Op didn't even ask for.


Anonymous
Post 12/27/2015 23:00     Subject: Petty yes, but I'm still bothered
Anonymous wrote: I am surprised adults even notice what other adults receive. Truly.


Me too.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2015 22:56     Subject: Petty yes, but I'm still bothered
Why is OP so obsessed with her MIl and her MIL's other relationships? THAT is the question. I've never heard of someone caring that much about their relationship with their MIL.