Anonymous
Post 02/05/2016 09:50     Subject: Re:Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
I would use birth control on your end vs relying on the younger person, unless you want a newborn at 50+.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2016 09:40     Subject: Re:Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and my wife is 25. People like to think they know the reason why age gaps like that happen and come up with reasons like "he is rich" or "he is immature" or "she's a gold digger" or "she is in to power" but it really isn't that simple. In our case I have a good job and I'm able to provide a comfortable life but I'm by no means rich. At this point in my life I know who I am and I'm able to take care of what needs taking care of. When I was younger (20s - 30s) I was still figuring out how things work. I think that my wife appreciates the fact that I'm confident and capable more so than my money. We see it on DCUM all the time. The wives always say they wish they had an "alpha." Older men are more patient, confident and capable simply because they have had more life experience. That can be appealing to women. This is only one of the facets of why these relationships may happen to work. Just figured I'd add some perspective.



Nevertheless, odds are high she will be cheating on you w/i the next 5 to 10 years. You will be riding over the hump of the aging curve during that period; some guys age a lot worse than others--and you won't know which is you until you get there.

Meanwhile, your wife is heading into her most sexually horny years as a woman in her 30's and 40's.

But you sound smart enough to have already figured that all out and made your peace with it.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2016 09:36     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
You don't understand...

...I am in my 50's (male). In my head, I am still psychologically with respect to the opposite sex, in my 20's. Mentally we still desire the most sexually attractive females.

Then I look in the bathroom mirror and see a face that is unrecognizably old.

And I think of all the lost opportunities from my youth.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2016 12:22     Subject: Re:Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
I'm 45 and my wife is 25. People like to think they know the reason why age gaps like that happen and come up with reasons like "he is rich" or "he is immature" or "she's a gold digger" or "she is in to power" but it really isn't that simple. In our case I have a good job and I'm able to provide a comfortable life but I'm by no means rich. At this point in my life I know who I am and I'm able to take care of what needs taking care of. When I was younger (20s - 30s) I was still figuring out how things work. I think that my wife appreciates the fact that I'm confident and capable more so than my money. We see it on DCUM all the time. The wives always say they wish they had an "alpha." Older men are more patient, confident and capable simply because they have had more life experience. That can be appealing to women. This is only one of the facets of why these relationships may happen to work. Just figured I'd add some perspective.

Anonymous
Post 01/18/2016 19:08     Subject: Re:Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is it gross?
Would it be gross for say George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr, etc. to date someone in their 20's?
Would it be gross for say Heather Locklear, Demi Moore, Michelle Pfeiffer, Christie Brinkley, etc. to date someone in their 20's?


Even Clooney and Pitt are is with a 40-year old and 36 year old
Downing has been long married to a woman who is 42.

So even they think it's weird

They may find it weird, but the question was are they gross to a 20 something?

But if your looking for actual celebrity couples where one is/was in their 50's and the other in their 20's when they started dating or got married I'll oblige.

Alec Baldwin 53, Hilaria Thomas 27
Sylvester Stallone 51, Jennifer Flavin 29
Frank Sinatra 51, Mia Farrow 21
Bing Crosby 54, Kathryn Grant 24
Billy Joel 55, Katie Lee 23
Eric Clapton 55, Melia McEnery 24
Kevin Costner 49, Christine Baumgartner 27

And of course the granddaddy of them all
Hugh Hefner 86, Crystal Harris 26
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2016 19:04     Subject: Re:Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:Why is it gross?
Would it be gross for say George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr, etc. to date someone in their 20's?
Would it be gross for say Heather Locklear, Demi Moore, Michelle Pfeiffer, Christie Brinkley, etc. to date someone in their 20's?


Even Clooney and Pitt are is with a 40-year old and 36 year old
Downing has been long married to a woman who is 42.

So even they think it's weird
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2016 13:46     Subject: Re:Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
My dad remarried someone half his age. She was mean as hell when he got old and senile. Sad. He earned every bit of that trophy wife
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2016 16:56     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Consenting adults, fine. Not for me. Weird.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2016 13:36     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
I'm a woman and have dated a couple of men 12 years younger than me. We had great fun and the relationships lasted about a year to 18 months.

I have remained very close friends with one of them. He wanted to have kids. I told him that I was not willing to go there again at my age (adoption or surrogacy).

I think in the long term it has drawbacks, but for the short term -- I'd recommend it. LOL It's hard going back to dating men my age with their pot bellies and couch potato attitudes.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2016 12:17     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:Can't dating ever just be about FUN ?

No. According to some, everything should be about planning your retirement. God forbid you don't pretend you enjoy being old and decrepit when you get there!
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2016 12:10     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:NP.

PP, I think you're personalizing, but...
20 years older is similar to being with a person you're age who is sick. Growing old together and enjoying the "golden" years seems unlikely.

Ladies and gents, unless changing adult diapers is what you want, resist the temptation to have cold hands holding yours.


This is so delightfully insufferable! You must be very young and naive, my friend. Thankfully, this will improve with time
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2016 21:28     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:NP.

PP, I think you're personalizing, but...
20 years older is similar to being with a person you're age who is sick. Growing old together and enjoying the "golden" years seems unlikely.

Ladies and gents, unless changing adult diapers is what you want, resist the temptation to have cold hands holding yours.

You have no idea what your talking about. Do you really think all elderly wear diapers and have cold hands. I'll give you a little clue, even in a nursing home only about half the residents are incontinent.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2016 19:10     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
NP.

PP, I think you're personalizing, but...
20 years older is similar to being with a person you're age who is sick. Growing old together and enjoying the "golden" years seems unlikely.

Ladies and gents, unless changing adult diapers is what you want, resist the temptation to have cold hands holding yours.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2016 19:00     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People don't think about the future. 35 and 50 looks great until 50 turns 65. Health issues come up and the younger spouse is screwed.

I saw my mother go through it. I'm watching a friend go through it.

not pretty - Nor is it practical when you have young kids.

But people live in the moment. So if you don't mind dealing with adult diapers, then go for it.

That's a bit of an exaggeration. Most people still live active healthy lives at 65, heck some even into their 80's. Sure, you may not be as athletic at 65 as you were at 25. But lets face it, most 25 year olds today aren't really that athletic either.


Hey - I'm just speaking from experience. If you've never gone through it or worked through it with friends and family members, you really shouldn't chime in. not being rude- just being truthful

The women end up handling the kids b/c the men are too tired. And sex is all about the Viagara. If you want to grow old TOGETHER, find a partner around your age.

just saying

What your just saying, although apparently based on your person experience, is still ignorant. What your claiming is only two very healthy active people can live a happy meaningful life together. So your basically just saying any one with health issues is SOL when it comes to love.

just saying
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2016 23:33     Subject: Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
My DH is 12 years older than me, and we've been married for over 25 years. Most of the time I don't think about the age difference, honestly. We've been together so long, raised our kids together and have so many shared experiences at this point that our differing ages don't generally seem relevant. I will say that DH is in hi mid 60's now and starting to have a few small health issues, which is a drag. It does make me worry about the future somewhat, but I've had many good years married to this guy so whatever comes I think we'll muddle through somehow.

Life offers no guarantees to any of us. I had both a parent and a sibling die in their 40's, and I have another sibling who married a guy three years younger who was super active until he contracted a progressive degenerative illness at age 50. So you just never know. Age is one variable but there are so many other things you simply cannot control.