Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my SIL. Everything has to be organic, no sugar, no fat. Their family eats a very strict, limited diet. The funny thing is, they are always sick, they are all way too thin, and the kids have various dental problems. Meanwhile, we eat normal food with a moderate amount of junk food indulgences and we barely ever get sick. I am sorry, I just think that life is too short to live in such a restrictive way. Denying your kids the experience of trick or treating seems extreme.

Right. they claim their food obsession is to be more "healthy" but they are so neurotic it's actually far less healthy than eating a more normal diet. Dietary restrictions like that are unhealthy both physically and mentally. Probably your sister is anorexic whether or not diagnosed and is imposing her neuroses on the whole family. She sounds like a sexual abuse victim.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- My bosses won't let the kids go see Santa, as in they've never ever 'met' Santa. It really upsets them and it just seems dumb to be hipsters about holidays just to be cool. It's cruel. But I'm not paid for my opinions so I just shut up and do my job with a smile. The kids are allowed to trick or treat but they can only keep one piece of candy.

This bit of parenting bothers me less than about any parenting choice I've ever heard of. It's "cruel" to not take your kids to the mall and seat them on the knee of a man wearing a bunch of fake facial hair?

Because they suffer from neurotic anxiety, making a boogey man out of Mall Santa actually places far more emphasis on his degree of importance than is warranted and by doing this, they make mall santa far more of an issue in their kid's lives than he would otherwise be.

But then all neurotic people do stuff like this--they turn the minor and trivial and innoccuous into something ominous and to be feared and avoided. So yeah that's a rather cruel way to bring up one's children--that being neurotic is an appropriate reaction to something like a mall santa.

Sort of like if the parents taught their kids that little spiders were so scary that they should always panic and run away from them rather than ever, even a single time, try to see what it is all about.

PP you sound like you might have asperger's if all you think it's about is not taking them to see a man with a fake beard. You're missing the big picture which is that the parents described are extremely neurotic and raising their kids to be the same way. Same as OP's sister in law who is terrified of halloween candy.

....Because too much candy is the source of all the world's problems. Eliminate candy and we solve those problems. How could anything be more simple?

Actually, all food and dietary obsessions are closely related to body dysmorphisms as well as OCD, phobias, anxiety, and neuroses.

The person's psychological issues are "projected" and externalized onto the tangible outside object which is designated as the source of all evil. This is a defense mechanism.

So, it's not just "don't eat too much candy, it will make you ill," it's "even ONE pieces is BAD and EVIL."

It's completely irrational. Going trick or treating once a year and then sitting on the floor stuffing your face with candy never hurt anyone except if they are diabetic.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- My bosses won't let the kids go see Santa, as in they've never ever 'met' Santa. It really upsets them and it just seems dumb to be hipsters about holidays just to be cool. It's cruel. But I'm not paid for my opinions so I just shut up and do my job with a smile. The kids are allowed to trick or treat but they can only keep one piece of candy.

This bit of parenting bothers me less than about any parenting choice I've ever heard of. It's "cruel" to not take your kids to the mall and seat them on the knee of a man wearing a bunch of fake facial hair?

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my SIL. Everything has to be organic, no sugar, no fat. Their family eats a very strict, limited diet. The funny thing is, they are always sick, they are all way too thin, and the kids have various dental problems. Meanwhile, we eat normal food with a moderate amount of junk food indulgences and we barely ever get sick. I am sorry, I just think that life is too short to live in such a restrictive way. Denying your kids the experience of trick or treating seems extreme.

Just to clarify, I don't mean "funny" in a ha-ha way, but rather that it is a weird phenomenon.

Sounds like my SIL. Everything has to be organic, no sugar, no fat. Their family eats a very strict, limited diet. The funny thing is, they are always sick, they are all way too thin, and the kids have various dental problems. Meanwhile, we eat normal food with a moderate amount of junk food indulgences and we barely ever get sick. I am sorry, I just think that life is too short to live in such a restrictive way. Denying your kids the experience of trick or treating seems extreme.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never give my niece gum before clearing it with my SIL.

Come on now. Its harmless. Its just gum.

It's not harmless to my kid, who is allergic to artificial coloring. There's growing evidence that artificial food dyes are harmful to ALL kids, actually ... that's why they are banned in Europe. IMO, the very best that can be said about most factory made American candy is that it won't instantly kill you unless you choke to death on a piece. But it's not food, and it's not "harmless."

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While the entire neighborhood was outside trick-or-treating including children from families who are way more prominent then theirs, my nieces and nephews were inside with sad faces looking out of the window at the rest of the children outside enjoying themselves.

I really do not know why my brother married that bitch. I have never cared for her. Never have. Never will.

Just offering my nieces and nephews a simple stick of chewing gum turns into a huge fucking argument with her.

I do not know what my brother was trying to prove by marrying her but he did and the in the end our entire family ends up losing.

FUCK THAT BITCH!!!!!

Probably because he was afraid that he couldn't get laid by anyone else