Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 22:18     Subject: Re:Adam4Adam
I'm sure Jeff can confirm if that was indeed the OP or a troll impersonator.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 22:15     Subject: Re:Adam4Adam
Anonymous wrote:
MikeL wrote:From the explicit forum:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/502914.page

The money shot:

OP here...the verdict is in, he is GAY. I caught him, "red handed"....he said he had to work late, so I stopped by his house to drop off dinner for him so that when he got home he was all set. Well, he was already home, and in bed with another guy... Case closed. I took the dinner back home with me!


OP, is this you?


troll warning
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 22:01     Subject: Re:Adam4Adam
MikeL wrote:From the explicit forum:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/502914.page

The money shot:

OP here...the verdict is in, he is GAY. I caught him, "red handed"....he said he had to work late, so I stopped by his house to drop off dinner for him so that when he got home he was all set. Well, he was already home, and in bed with another guy... Case closed. I took the dinner back home with me!


OP, is this you?
MikeL
Post 10/27/2015 15:25     Subject: Re:Adam4Adam
From the explicit forum:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/502914.page

The money shot:

OP here...the verdict is in, he is GAY. I caught him, "red handed"....he said he had to work late, so I stopped by his house to drop off dinner for him so that when he got home he was all set. Well, he was already home, and in bed with another guy... Case closed. I took the dinner back home with me!
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 12:49     Subject: Re:Adam4Adam
Anonymous wrote:Wait...you are both 36 years old, and have not had sex for 8 months because you are "saving yourselves"? Are either of you virgins? I ask that as a serious question because at 36 years old that seems highly unlikely, in which case what exactly are you "saving". If this was some 14 year old or a the rare college-girl-that-does-this asking, I would understand. Given the ages that seems like a big red flag though.
Not virgins...just took time getting to know each other...after 5 months we started talking about sex...but with busy careers, living separately, travel for work...it was a challenge... And yes, it's been a red flag for me for a while. I thought he was being a gentleman.... *more tears*
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 12:41     Subject: Adam4Adam
You've only been together for eight months. Just move on. No need to get wrapped-up in this guy's issues. He sounds like a pot that is eventually going to boil over.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 11:35     Subject: Re:Adam4Adam
Wait...you are both 36 years old, and have not had sex for 8 months because you are "saving yourselves"? Are either of you virgins? I ask that as a serious question because at 36 years old that seems highly unlikely, in which case what exactly are you "saving". If this was some 14 year old or a the rare college-girl-that-does-this asking, I would understand. Given the ages that seems like a big red flag though.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2015 11:29     Subject: Adam4Adam
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a good person. I would at least grill him for answers - was he planning to go through with it? Why did he lead you on? Was he really going to continue with the relationship? You also need closure.


I agree OP sounds like a great person, but I disagree she should grill him. Just move on. He will plead to get her back, tell her what she wants to hear, she may be tempted to believe it because she is understandably in a stage where there is a shot clock on finding a partner to have kids with.

OP, I wrote to you in the explicit column (hopefully one of the thoughtful responses) and said he may be bi but definitely is going to have gay sex. Just get out now. I like the suggestion "its not you, it me." He will suspect why you made the break and he will be relieved that you won't share his secret.

If you exchange in some back and forth, you will end up with him for longer than necessary out of loneliness (many of us have been in and out of relationships with exes because of loneliness). Don't waste time. Cleaner the break, the faster your heart will be in the right place to move on and be available to find a man.




I agree completely. The only reason to engage in a discussion is if you really think you can work it out. Otherwise he will use the opportunity to manipulate you into staying and giving it a try. Don't waste your best years. Just leave.