Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 12:20     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."



OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.


Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.



Barf. Could you be more sanctimonious? Like I said, you have NO idea why he's working at TJ's at that very moment. He could be a laid off engineer. He could have had to move home to care for his sick parent, and needed some cash flow. He could be an adjunct professor at a university who makes very little. YOU have no idea. So yes, say that he's an asshole. Say that he's rude. But don't even PRETEND that you know about his life and his "choices," all of which could have been the "right" ones.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 12:18     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."



OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.


+1

You sound like the twat I once waited on who was telling her daughter she had to do better in life and study hard so she wouldn't end up like me (the waitress). Funny thing is at that point I had a double undergrad in engineering and was almost done with my master's in Eng, which was paid for by an academic fellowship. The waitressing was to pay for my fancy car and spending money.

She'd be luck to end up like me now.

(sorry to hijack, point is just that you don't know people's stories so just don't make them up)
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 12:14     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."



OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.


Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 12:00     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."



OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:59     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
...and you take responsibility for your choices and do whatever it takes to improve your lot in life.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:49     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a cashier earning minimum wage in an expensive zip code. You are really asking a bit much, OP.


Nothing justifies a person threatening or intimidating anyone, anywhere, ever.


WHERE's the intimidation?? What threats? He just said a couple of sarcastic things. If you want people to kiss your rear ends, then be give them affordable housing. It is very tough to work retail in this area. Its a miracle that there are nice retail workers here. If you only understood the living conditions they have to deal with, you'd be a little more forgiving and understanding. And next time, expect longer lines at TJ's thanks to your complaint. Also, there are TONS of job openings in retail right now. Good help is hard to find. No one wants to commute for a minimum wage job that won't even cover gas.


Many of you whining about not having perfect cashiers have probably not set foot inside their world. Here are some examples: baby cockroaches crawling in and out of outlets, peeping toms staring into their apartment while the "do their business", going outside to get in your car only to find someone has slashed your tires. Some have to contend with knowing full well that their pre-dawn walk to get to their thankless cashier job may be their last. Commutes that are an hour and a half and cost $15 one way to get to their monotonous cashier job. A felony conviction that only allows them to work minimum-wage jobs despite having served their time. So, next time a cashier is rude to you, maybe ask them if everything is ok because their words hurt your feelings or indicated that they are upset about something. Maybe extend them a little patience and grace and give them helpful instruction in kindness.


Or you share a decent place with other retail workers and live close to your job or ride the bus or metro into it. You can definitely do better than that awful scenario that your are describing. I know that I sure did.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:48     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:27     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a cashier earning minimum wage in an expensive zip code. You are really asking a bit much, OP.


Nothing justifies a person threatening or intimidating anyone, anywhere, ever.


WHERE's the intimidation?? What threats? He just said a couple of sarcastic things. If you want people to kiss your rear ends, then be give them affordable housing. It is very tough to work retail in this area. Its a miracle that there are nice retail workers here. If you only understood the living conditions they have to deal with, you'd be a little more forgiving and understanding. And next time, expect longer lines at TJ's thanks to your complaint. Also, there are TONS of job openings in retail right now. Good help is hard to find. No one wants to commute for a minimum wage job that won't even cover gas.


Many of you whining about not having perfect cashiers have probably not set foot inside their world. Here are some examples: baby cockroaches crawling in and out of outlets, peeping toms staring into their apartment while the "do their business", going outside to get in your car only to find someone has slashed your tires. Some have to contend with knowing full well that their pre-dawn walk to get to their thankless cashier job may be their last. Commutes that are an hour and a half and cost $15 one way to get to their monotonous cashier job. A felony conviction that only allows them to work minimum-wage jobs despite having served their time. So, next time a cashier is rude to you, maybe ask them if everything is ok because their words hurt your feelings or indicated that they are upset about something. Maybe extend them a little patience and grace and give them helpful instruction in kindness.



I don't care that they have cockroaches or other problems. They still need to be nice to me. I am enabling their paycheck by patronizing their store.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:12     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a cashier earning minimum wage in an expensive zip code. You are really asking a bit much, OP.


Nothing justifies a person threatening or intimidating anyone, anywhere, ever.


WHERE's the intimidation?? What threats? He just said a couple of sarcastic things. If you want people to kiss your rear ends, then be give them affordable housing. It is very tough to work retail in this area. Its a miracle that there are nice retail workers here. If you only understood the living conditions they have to deal with, you'd be a little more forgiving and understanding. And next time, expect longer lines at TJ's thanks to your complaint. Also, there are TONS of job openings in retail right now. Good help is hard to find. No one wants to commute for a minimum wage job that won't even cover gas.


Many of you whining about not having perfect cashiers have probably not set foot inside their world. Here are some examples: baby cockroaches crawling in and out of outlets, peeping toms staring into their apartment while the "do their business", going outside to get in your car only to find someone has slashed your tires. Some have to contend with knowing full well that their pre-dawn walk to get to their thankless cashier job may be their last. Commutes that are an hour and a half and cost $15 one way to get to their monotonous cashier job. A felony conviction that only allows them to work minimum-wage jobs despite having served their time. So, next time a cashier is rude to you, maybe ask them if everything is ok because their words hurt your feelings or indicated that they are upset about something. Maybe extend them a little patience and grace and give them helpful instruction in kindness.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:06     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a cashier earning minimum wage in an expensive zip code. You are really asking a bit much, OP.


Nothing justifies a person threatening or intimidating anyone, anywhere, ever.


WHERE's the intimidation?? What threats? He just said a couple of sarcastic things. If you want people to kiss your rear ends, then be give them affordable housing. It is very tough to work retail in this area. Its a miracle that there are nice retail workers here. If you only understood the living conditions they have to deal with, you'd be a little more forgiving and understanding. And next time, expect longer lines at TJ's thanks to your complaint. Also, there are TONS of job openings in retail right now. Good help is hard to find. No one wants to commute for a minimum wage job that won't even cover gas.


Look, I was broke as shit for a decade in DC - I know it sucks. It is NOT okay to harass people, period.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:04     Subject: Re:The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
The excuses are absurd. The behavior is unacceptable. Report it to the manager. Which TJ?
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:03     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a cashier earning minimum wage in an expensive zip code. You are really asking a bit much, OP.


Nothing justifies a person threatening or intimidating anyone, anywhere, ever.


WHERE's the intimidation?? What threats? He just said a couple of sarcastic things. If you want people to kiss your rear ends, then be give them affordable housing. It is very tough to work retail in this area. Its a miracle that there are nice retail workers here. If you only understood the living conditions they have to deal with, you'd be a little more forgiving and understanding. And next time, expect longer lines at TJ's thanks to your complaint. Also, there are TONS of job openings in retail right now. Good help is hard to find. No one wants to commute for a minimum wage job that won't even cover gas.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 11:00     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Perhaps you didn't realize your Affair Partner was his dad?
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 10:56     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would just forget about it. It wasn't about YOU. He would have been like that to anyone next in the line. And he probably was. He probably had the worst day ever, wanted to quit that very second (akin to the flight attendant who quit by grabbing some beer bottles, cursing up a storm, and sliding down the emergency chute... remember him?). You were just the unlucky victim. Retail jobs are hard. They are. They suck. That's the honest truth.

Shake it off.


Yes. Don't make it about you. And you are upset that he treated you, a customer that way. . .let it go. How would you feel if you were bagging groceries, having a shitty day?


No, sorry. I worked as a cocktail server/waitress/bartender throughout my twenties and that is HARD work - but I never treated anyone the way this cashier treated OP. I went through all sorts of life events but, as a member of the service industry, had to suck it up and provide good service. On my worst days I was mechanical/ unsmiley, never intentionally creepy like this guy. He has serious issues.



"No, sorry"? I worked in retail too. The guy was having a horrible day. He did not suck it up. He reacted differently than you did on your worst days, because he is not YOU.

OP needs to get over it and move on. She was buying some food, he was ringing it up. He was in a pissy mood. She interpreted it as creepy, because she's used to friendly clerks at TJs. Story over.


PP here - he was not just unfriendly, he was actively creepy/aggressive/intimidating. That is unacceptable. On my worst days maybe I'd go through the motions, but I never made an effort to make customers uncomfortable. He sounds antisocial at best, sociopathic at worst. No excuses for what he did.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2015 10:56     Subject: The rudest cashier I ever encountered.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a cashier earning minimum wage in an expensive zip code. You are really asking a bit much, OP.



+1. The pearl clutchers here really blow me away. Get over it.


There are tons of retail workers all over the area who go into work everyday and treat customers professionally. In fact, their customer service skills are often a lot better than the interpersonal skills of higher skilled, higher paid employees elsewhere.

Do not paint retail workers with a brush like that. So not fair.



You quoted me. Indeed, what you say is true. But this guy was not one of those. Because there are so many great retail people out there, this jerk really stood out to OP. And that was all there was to it. He was a rude asshole. There are rude assholes in life. She encountered one of them. The end.


Sure. But his behavior was inexcusable. Low pay does not give you a pass on doing your job and treating customers with basic courtesy. He was a jerk, not because he is low paid. He was a jerk because that is how he handles having a bad day or whatever his problem was that day.

Honestly, I probably would have come right back at him if he had been rude like that to me. But if he was intimidating I might have just paid and gotten the hell out of there. It would bug me and make me wonder WTH though just like it's bugging Op. As others have said - you either complain about something like that when it happens or you let it go and hope not to encounter him again.