Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 19:04     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.


WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:54     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.


Yes. It's the women that are rigid---never the verbally abusive, narcissistic aHoles that have everyone IRL fooled--even the hos they cheat with. Always portray the wife as a nag, not into sex.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:25     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:19     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Not an issue that you know about your husband but is there a need for it to be publicized to the whole world?


She probably wouldn't have known her husband was a cheater if not for the hack.


This is just awful and sickening. When this whole AM thing first broke, my first reaction was - "serves the cheaters right". But this goes way beyond that sentiment now! This is destroying the lives of so many families - especially children. I don't know what the solution is or the right thing to think is anymore.


Maybe it limited damage.

Maybe before the spouse got an STD and infected his spouse.

Maybe before he knocked a chick up who claimed to be on the Pill--and avoiding paternity and a bastard 1/2 sibling for the kids.

Maybe before spouse was robbed or found dead in the Donovan Hotel.

Maybe the spouse finally has enough reason to leave a narcissistic, macho ahole.

Maybe before a crazy Fatal Attraction chick was met and started stalking his family.

I don't know. I think opening the blinds and seeing reality is for the best.


Seeing reality, yes. But not having your parents' sins known by everyone.


Parent. Singular.

Should have thought of the family and not gone on a website advertising 'life is short, have an affair'. Zero sympathy.

Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:16     Subject: Re:Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would think when people are being driven to suicide it is a police matter/ in the public interest to provide some.protection. Like blackmail/ extortion. Again, the people who signed up dod not actually commit a crime.


Adultery is not a crime?


Seriously? You thought it was? No, it isn't. Immoral, yes; illegal, no.


It's illegal moron Adultery isn't just a crime in the eyes of your spouse. In 21 states, cheating in a marriage is against the law, punishable by a fine or even jail time.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:14     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Not an issue that you know about your husband but is there a need for it to be publicized to the whole world?


She probably wouldn't have known her husband was a cheater if not for the hack.


This is just awful and sickening. When this whole AM thing first broke, my first reaction was - "serves the cheaters right". But this goes way beyond that sentiment now! This is destroying the lives of so many families - especially children. I don't know what the solution is or the right thing to think is anymore.


Maybe it limited damage.

Maybe before the spouse got an STD and infected his spouse.

Maybe before he knocked a chick up who claimed to be on the Pill--and avoiding paternity and a bastard 1/2 sibling for the kids.

Maybe before spouse was robbed or found dead in the Donovan Hotel.

Maybe the spouse finally has enough reason to leave a narcissistic, macho ahole.

Maybe before a crazy Fatal Attraction chick was met and started stalking his family.

I don't know. I think opening the blinds and seeing reality is for the best.


Seeing reality, yes. But not having your parents' sins known by everyone.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:13     Subject: Re:Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would think when people are being driven to suicide it is a police matter/ in the public interest to provide some.protection. Like blackmail/ extortion. Again, the people who signed up dod not actually commit a crime.


Adultery is not a crime?


Seriously? You thought it was? No, it isn't. Immoral, yes; illegal, no.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:08     Subject: Re:Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the suicides. If you go on this site presumably you don't care about your marriage THAT much, right? Maybe it's the public nature of it. Most of the people I recognized on the list are already divorced. Sad in any case.


That's the point. It isn't just destroying their marriage, it's destroying their professional and personal life as well. While cheating is horrible, it isn't illegal, and ruining people's lives over what should be a private matter seems cruel.


You know what's cruel??? Being cheated on after you make a VOW to promise to be faithful oh and you keep up your end of the bargain while the other person betrays you. That's what's cruel!!! How do you like blowing your nose into tissue that's been used by someone else? That's what its like to share a partner who has been unfaithful and sleeping with others who may have given him STDs.


I agree with all that, and if the hack simply gave the information to the cheated-on spouse, I wouldn't care. But making it public means that you're making it so much worse for the kids and spouse. Kids don't deserve to have that stuff be public. Yes, the cheater did wrong and put the family at risk. But then to take that and blow it up that much worse for the family is just wrong and cruel.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:06     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Not an issue that you know about your husband but is there a need for it to be publicized to the whole world?


She probably wouldn't have known her husband was a cheater if not for the hack.


This is just awful and sickening. When this whole AM thing first broke, my first reaction was - "serves the cheaters right". But this goes way beyond that sentiment now! This is destroying the lives of so many families - especially children. I don't know what the solution is or the right thing to think is anymore.


Maybe it limited damage.

Maybe before the spouse got an STD and infected his spouse.

Maybe before he knocked a chick up who claimed to be on the Pill--and avoiding paternity and a bastard 1/2 sibling for the kids.

Maybe before spouse was robbed or found dead in the Donovan Hotel.

Maybe the spouse finally has enough reason to leave a narcissistic, macho ahole.

Maybe before a crazy Fatal Attraction chick was met and started stalking his family.

I don't know. I think opening the blinds and seeing reality is for the best.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:06     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:I especially feel sorry for the teenagers of the cheating spouses. If their peers find out, the kids will be teased unmercilessly.



jesus I didn't even think of that!! OMG all those email addresses in the student directories. wow....
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:05     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People who are happy about the backlash from the AM hack are evil. And I'm a cheated on spouse that is still recovering from the affair, its details and the divorce that came after it. I cannot believe how little empathy you have and how vindictive you are. Cheating is awful, but I wouldn't have wanted my ex to kill himself over it. Stop with the witch hunt, it's disgusting.


These men should have thought long and hard before cheating like scum bags. Give me a break. It was their choice, as is their suicide.


You think their kids deserve this? Sicko.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 18:03     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


I don't have sympathy for the cheaters either, but I have a LOT of sympathy to their spouses and kids. And losing them to suicide because someone thought it would be fun to out them is NOT good for them. The cheater harmed his family, sure. But so did the hackers and outers.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 17:56     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
I especially feel sorry for the teenagers of the cheating spouses. If their peers find out, the kids will be teased unmercilessly.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 17:36     Subject: Re:Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the suicides. If you go on this site presumably you don't care about your marriage THAT much, right? Maybe it's the public nature of it. Most of the people I recognized on the list are already divorced. Sad in any case.


That's the point. It isn't just destroying their marriage, it's destroying their professional and personal life as well. While cheating is horrible, it isn't illegal, and ruining people's lives over what should be a private matter seems cruel.


You know what's cruel??? Being cheated on after you make a VOW to promise to be faithful oh and you keep up your end of the bargain while the other person betrays you. That's what's cruel!!! How do you like blowing your nose into tissue that's been used by someone else? That's what its like to share a partner who has been unfaithful and sleeping with others who may have given him STDs.


But what about the ones who are already divorced or single? The site wasn't only used by married people. Yes, I think the whole concept is gross, but I don't think it is fair that those who aren't hurting anyone now have their personal business out there for every one to judge.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2015 17:29     Subject: Suicides associated with the AM hack
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.


Not an issue that you know about your husband but is there a need for it to be publicized to the whole world?


She probably wouldn't have known her husband was a cheater if not for the hack.


This is just awful and sickening. When this whole AM thing first broke, my first reaction was - "serves the cheaters right". But this goes way beyond that sentiment now! This is destroying the lives of so many families - especially children. I don't know what the solution is or the right thing to think is anymore.