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Post 07/19/2015 00:05     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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Anonymous wrote:I am due with my MILs first grandchild any day now. She has offered since thanksgiving to buy us a glider. She waits until today to tell me the one I picked out was too expensive while in the same breath asking if I think I'll have the baby this weekend because she and FIL want to travel to tysons to go to the Nordstrom sale to "stock up on stuff we don't need."


Why do you care if they stock up on stuff they don't need?


She doesn't. I think you've missed the point that PP was trying to make. Try reading it again and think about the concept of irony as you read it.


She said they want to stock up on stuff they don't need, and her glider was too expensive. Why would she care then if they aren't there for the birth?


Dude, the point is they said the glider for their grandchild was too much money, and then they were going to Tysons to waste money on crap. Money they could have put toward the glider.


Np here. I don't get this "quick to call everyone entitled" trend. Entitled would be randomly wanting or requesting a glider be bought.

In this case then the in-laws should have verbalized a set budget if the gift came with conditions. Because now they are literally saying that they would rather buy things they don't need than buy the gift they promised. They lack integrity.

So? It was more than they wanted to spend. That's their business, and if the author of this post feels slighted, she has an entitlement problem. They said no, and that's that.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:55     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
My MIL is a nice lady, we get along, we don't chat all the time, but communicate from time to time. She lives on the West Coast we are in DC.

She can be a bit of a manipulator but DH and I keep that in check. She's a good grandmother and will help us if she can and we need it (not financially, but if both of us need to travel which has only happened once) she will fly over to take care of the grandkids.

Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:30     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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Anonymous wrote:I am due with my MILs first grandchild any day now. She has offered since thanksgiving to buy us a glider. She waits until today to tell me the one I picked out was too expensive while in the same breath asking if I think I'll have the baby this weekend because she and FIL want to travel to tysons to go to the Nordstrom sale to "stock up on stuff we don't need."


Why do you care if they stock up on stuff they don't need?


She doesn't. I think you've missed the point that PP was trying to make. Try reading it again and think about the concept of irony as you read it.


She said they want to stock up on stuff they don't need, and her glider was too expensive. Why would she care then if they aren't there for the birth?


Dude, the point is they said the glider for their grandchild was too much money, and then they were going to Tysons to waste money on crap. Money they could have put toward the glider.


So? It was more than they wanted to spend. That's their business, and if the author of this post feels slighted, she has an entitlement problem. They said no, and that's that.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:27     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am due with my MILs first grandchild any day now. She has offered since thanksgiving to buy us a glider. She waits until today to tell me the one I picked out was too expensive while in the same breath asking if I think I'll have the baby this weekend because she and FIL want to travel to tysons to go to the Nordstrom sale to "stock up on stuff we don't need."


Why do you care if they stock up on stuff they don't need?


She doesn't. I think you've missed the point that PP was trying to make. Try reading it again and think about the concept of irony as you read it.


She said they want to stock up on stuff they don't need, and her glider was too expensive. Why would she care then if they aren't there for the birth?


Dude, the point is they said the glider for their grandchild was too much money, and then they were going to Tysons to waste money on crap. Money they could have put toward the glider.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:26     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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She dressed my infant son in girls clothes "just to see what it would be like to have a girl grandbaby."



!!!


Thankfully, her behavior (that is just one example) upset and alienated her son enough that he drastically limits the amount of time we spend with her.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:25     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:My MIL once came to visit my extended family at my home country while we were there on vacation. She stayed at our summer house. Every evening my family went to a lot of trouble to prepare really elaborate delicious meals for her. She fussed and fretted and picked at her food because she has serious food issues. Hardly ate a thing because she never does (counts every calorie obsessively) She would fret over my DH being served food and second helpings and finally one night, in front of everyone, said loudly "DON'T MAKE MY SON FAT!" DH is not even remotely fat nor is almost anyone in my family. It was s offensive. Coming from a culture like mine (Mediterranean) where food plays a really central food in hospitality and showing love, my family was really puzzled by her. I was furious.


Sounds like she was jealous over her son, her "baby," getting attention from your family. Sad she didn't enjoy the hospitality and the experience more.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:20     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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She dressed my infant son in girls clothes "just to see what it would be like to have a girl grandbaby."



!!!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:18     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said


She dressed my infant son in girls clothes "just to see what it would be like to have a girl grandbaby."
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:14     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Not to minimize your pain but there is actually a song about that first comment

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh9ZZgDqzAg

Anonymous wrote:Where do I begin. . . .

She's commented on how my unattractiveness is an advantage, because attractive women are too demanding as wives.

She's told me that she wished this other woman was her daughter-in-law.

She's said that everything her son does bad is my fault.

She's told me that people of my race all smell bad.




Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:13     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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Anonymous wrote:This was said repeatedly over the course of 3 years during which i had 2 children:

"I really want blue-eyed grandchildren, at least one"

It was literally an impossibility given my skin tone, but one of her other children had a child with bluish eyes and guess who the world revolves around?



Whoah. So racist. Sorry you have to deal with that.


"Racist"? I don't think the PP even said her race. Gimme a break!


Said the clueless white person.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:11     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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Anonymous wrote:This was said repeatedly over the course of 3 years during which i had 2 children:

"I really want blue-eyed grandchildren, at least one"

It was literally an impossibility given my skin tone, but one of her other children had a child with bluish eyes and guess who the world revolves around?



Whoah. So racist. Sorry you have to deal with that.


"Racist"? I don't think the PP even said her race. Gimme a break!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:05     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
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Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


This is an old saying OP. I wouldn't be offended at all.


It is true though.

The wife runs the holiday schedule and the access to grandkids.

It also says this in the Bible
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 23:02     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
When she found out we set a wedding date "Have you thought about living together instead of getting married?"

20 years of happy marriage and three years later I can laugh about that one. At the time...not so much.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 22:36     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
When we first started dating I refused to kiss her ass the way the prior girlfriend did
She tried to campaign against me with DS's other family members survivor-style to get rid of me. When that didn't work because we all get along great, she got in touch with the ex directly to try to both feed her info that might get her and DS back together and get her pissed at DS so his life would suck and he'd get yelled at.

She's done lots of other cool stuff in the 14 years since then.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2015 22:30     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
My MIL once came to visit my extended family at my home country while we were there on vacation. She stayed at our summer house. Every evening my family went to a lot of trouble to prepare really elaborate delicious meals for her. She fussed and fretted and picked at her food because she has serious food issues. Hardly ate a thing because she never does (counts every calorie obsessively) She would fret over my DH being served food and second helpings and finally one night, in front of everyone, said loudly "DON'T MAKE MY SON FAT!" DH is not even remotely fat nor is almost anyone in my family. It was s offensive. Coming from a culture like mine (Mediterranean) where food plays a really central food in hospitality and showing love, my family was really puzzled by her. I was furious.