Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:55     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did you pass out because your husband drugged you?

Why aren't you on the pill?


No, I was drunk and tired. Honestly my husband has a small penis so I don't feel much with or without a condom. I'm also not very experienced sexually. I was a virgin before we married. Maybe some of these things don't seem believable to you because I'm coming from a Turkish Muslim background.


LOL, this is a total troll thread. Anyone who's, say, spent some time in Istanbul when they were young and single would peg this as total bullshit in a heartbeat.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:55     Subject: Husband
To be fair, you don't seem very receptive to any advice OP. What are you looking for?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:52     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is such a troll post. So all these months you've been having sex the room has been SO DARK that you couldn't possibly tell that your DH wasn't wearing a condom? And the whole financial struggle/potential unemployment? I get why you added that but it's overboard.

A better idea would be have been telling us that he messed with your bc pills.

Better luck next time, OP.


We have only had sex twice in the last 2 months. I have been away a lot as I travel for work and I had a death in my family. I would travel to Chicago most weekends to be with my mom. This is not a fake post!


Which is it, OP, did your mom die last year or did you visit with her most weekends?


Why the hell does this matter? She passed away in March of this year. I visited her since the time we found out she was sick.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:49     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:I am going to stop responding to this forum. I have been hurting over stuff that has happened and came here for advice. Advice that' I can't get in my local community. It seems everyone wants to focus on why I don't want to give my husband oral. This is really besides the point.

You've gotten advice from abort and leave to stay and work it out (and save your own money). You made it clear you weren't aborting and weren't leaving- what else do you want people to say? That what your husband did was fine? It's not. But if you want to get through it with him that is your choice.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:47     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is such a troll post. So all these months you've been having sex the room has been SO DARK that you couldn't possibly tell that your DH wasn't wearing a condom? And the whole financial struggle/potential unemployment? I get why you added that but it's overboard.

A better idea would be have been telling us that he messed with your bc pills.

Better luck next time, OP.


We have only had sex twice in the last 2 months. I have been away a lot as I travel for work and I had a death in my family. I would travel to Chicago most weekends to be with my mom. This is not a fake post!


Which is it, OP, did your mom die last year or did you visit with her most weekends?
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:41     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:I am going to stop responding to this forum. I have been hurting over stuff that has happened and came here for advice. Advice that' I can't get in my local community. It seems everyone wants to focus on why I don't want to give my husband oral. This is really besides the point.


Dont listen to the trolls OP- there's a lot of losers on here, but it's mixed in with good, well intentioned advice

Most of the good advice seems to be: divorce your husband. This is a HUGE violation of your trust and it's just not OK.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:39     Subject: Husband
I am going to stop responding to this forum. I have been hurting over stuff that has happened and came here for advice. Advice that' I can't get in my local community. It seems everyone wants to focus on why I don't want to give my husband oral. This is really besides the point.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:37     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did you pass out because your husband drugged you?

Why aren't you on the pill?


No, I was drunk and tired. Honestly my husband has a small penis so I don't feel much with or without a condom. I'm also not very experienced sexually. I was a virgin before we married. Maybe some of these things don't seem believable to you because I'm coming from a Turkish Muslim background.


Damn this whole thing is just so sad
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:30     Subject: Husband
There is not a straight forward explicit statement in the koran or hadith that says it's ok. Some Muslims think it's fine and some do not. Again it depends how religious they are.

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:22     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am feeling angry because this means I will have to stop working within a few months .


Why would you quit??? Aren't you the only job?

This marriage is getting worse and worse. Sex is rare, small penis and you've never touched it during sex or BJ. And he's a jerk who tricks you into a pregnancy.


The not touching penis/bj thing is cultural. This is no way to measure my marriage. My husband is a really sweet guy. I think he's just very excited about having a baby.


Congrats OP. this is the first time you've stood up for you DH. If you want this baby and this marriage, you can make it work!

Muslim women don't touch penises or give BJs? I have never heard of this and am curious!


Oh my God you people are so gullible it's ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 16:15     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:I would take a PP's advice to stash money in a secret bank account. Don't tell your husband about this account.
Also, is there a community of other Turkish or Muslim women in your area? You could get support there.[/quote

Yes but they will bring religion into everything. ]
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:55     Subject: Husband
I would take a PP's advice to stash money in a secret bank account. Don't tell your husband about this account.
Also, is there a community of other Turkish or Muslim women in your area? You could get support there.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:54     Subject: Husband
Op again
There's so many reasons we shouldn't fly while pregnant.. Radiation, heavy carts, violent pax, emergency evacuation, bad landings, accidents during turbulence, long hours standing on foot, no set meal break times when very busy, dehydration because of the air and not getting time to drink proper amounts of water... The list is endless

I watched fellow flight attendants miscarry like it was an epidemic. One friend of mine miscarried 5 times and finally got pregnant after she stopped flying years later. This is why I told my husband no babies!!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:44     Subject: Husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thought Muslims don't drink alcohol.


This


I also thought that, but I wasn't sure.


Depends how conservative they are. Lots of Turkish people drink. I don't drink often and I get sleepy fast when I do.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 15:43     Subject: Husband
Like people of all faiths, I'm sure some Muslims are more observant than others. I'm also sure they pick some aspects of their religion to adhere to more closely to than others. It doesn't make her a troll (though, if I'm being totally honest, some other aspects of her posts might).