Anonymous wrote:

It's not necessarily disrespectful, she's probably just distracted. I worked with a woman who had a common name but unusual spelling, but wound up misspelling it on several occasions in emails when I was particularly busy or distracted. Just remind her again in person.


to me this is the definition of disrespectful, if you don't care enough to get someone's name right.

I can only really focus on a limited number of things at once. If I am asking someone to lunch, or about a routine work matter, I can certainly remember the correct spelling of their name. While I am trying to coordinate numerous things by email while talking on the phone about another issue, the spelling of their name is not foremost in my mind.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure you always pronounce everybody's name correctly? Do you have an accent?

See here is the thing... I don't mind that most my Asian coworkers can't pronounce my name.

Jennifer.... Jenefu, no Jennifer, Jenefu, no Jennifer

Do you see how obnoxious I would sound if I corrected them all the time, I know they mean nothing by the mispronunciation, but when I hear them complain that others can't pronounce their name, I think REALLY. You have to be kidding me.

You should just make sure you don't live in a glass house before you throw a stone.

We'll just call you jen, problem solved and move on

Anonymous wrote:

It's not necessarily disrespectful, she's probably just distracted. I worked with a woman who had a common name but unusual spelling, but wound up misspelling it on several occasions in emails when I was particularly busy or distracted. Just remind her again in person.


to me this is the definition of disrespectful, if you don't care enough to get someone's name right.

I can only really focus on a limited number of things at once. If I am asking someone to lunch, or about a routine work matter, I can certainly remember the correct spelling of their name. While I am trying to coordinate numerous things by email while talking on the phone about another issue, the spelling of their name is not foremost in my mind.

It's not necessarily disrespectful, she's probably just distracted. I worked with a woman who had a common name but unusual spelling, but wound up misspelling it on several occasions in emails when I was particularly busy or distracted. Just remind her again in person.


to me this is the definition of disrespectful, if you don't care enough to get someone's name right.

Anonymous wrote:It's not necessarily disrespectful, she's probably just distracted. I worked with a woman who had a common name but unusual spelling, but wound up misspelling it on several occasions in emails when I was particularly busy or distracted. Just remind her again in person.

Anonymous wrote:My name is foreign and people often have difficulties pronouncing it when they see it, but it's actually fairly easy to pronounce. A coworker has been spelling my name phonetically in emails and I have corrected her twice already. Once I was very irritated when she did it, because she actually introduced me to an external partner misspelling my name. I feel that it is very disrespectful. What should I do at this point. FWIW, I have only raised the issue with her via email. Should I bring it up in person?

Anonymous wrote:If everyone misspells your name, it's time to get a nick name because you will spend too much energy correcting people and missing the point . In today's quick and text message society with abbreviations you want something easy. Actually most people will just use your initial if it's too difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend has been spelling my son's name incorrectly with an ie instead of a y. No bad intentions, just clueless stupidity.

This is me, unfortunately I am the incorrect speller. My 3 friends all names their girls Lily, however they are all spelled differently (Lily, Lilley, and Lilly) and I cannot remememner who is who.
For invitations, or thank you cards, yes I look it up in my address book where I wrote them all out correctly, but for every day texts or quick emails (are both Mason and Lilly coming? For example) I know I screw it up.

Couldn't you just text "Are M and L coming?"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure you always pronounce everybody's name correctly? Do you have an accent?

See here is the thing... I don't mind that most my Asian coworkers can't pronounce my name.

Jennifer.... Jenefu, no Jennifer, Jenefu, no Jennifer

Do you see how obnoxious I would sound if I corrected them all the time, I know they mean nothing by the mispronunciation, but when I hear them complain that others can't pronounce their name, I think REALLY. You have to be kidding me.

You should just make sure you don't live in a glass house before you throw a stone.

First off, this is about spelling, not pronunciation. There are a million ways the coworker could check the spelling before he sends a message out. Lots of words are hard to spell. No excuse.
Secondly, anyone who doesn't take the correction and try to learn how to pronounce someone's name correctly is being incredibly rude. If there's a sound that is hard to make for people who come from a specific background, I can understand, but they still need to make the effort.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend has been spelling my son's name incorrectly with an ie instead of a y. No bad intentions, just clueless stupidity.

This is me, unfortunately I am the incorrect speller. My 3 friends all names their girls Lily, however they are all spelled differently (Lily, Lilley, and Lilly) and I cannot remememner who is who.
For invitations, or thank you cards, yes I look it up in my address book where I wrote them all out correctly, but for every day texts or quick emails (are both Mason and Lilly coming? For example) I know I screw it up.