Anonymous wrote:I had a friend like this. I felt it was none of my business. My loyalty was toward her, not her husband. After 20 years our friendship did end, but it was about her disrespect toward me- I would not judge her for her infidelity. She was too self absorbed to really be a good friend and she was completely unaware of how often and how much she disrespected me - even when I brought it to her attention. Common theme in both relationships- it's all about her wants and needs.

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Anonymous wrote:I had something just like it happen 20 years ago. Friend had multiple partners and had no plans on stopping. Told friend that he (I'm a guy) has one week to tell his wife or I would.

I told him that if wife does not care, I don't care but that I would not keep information from her. He told me that I was a shitty friend and I responded that he was a shitty husband. He told me I would lose his friendship if I told.

Long story short is that he was divorced within the year and I have never spoken with either one (they BOTH hate me?).

Sometimes doing the right thing is hard.

I would definitely not have you as a friend. Dudes don't go telling secrets to another guy's wife or call him out on his husband role. I bet you don't have many male friends.