Anonymous
Post 05/10/2015 13:03     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:Back to OP's simple question.

No, I would not be fine with a transgendered person teaching my child of any age. Including college. I would have zero say in the matter at that point, I realize, but I still would not like it.


Be honest, you are one of those parents who emails college professors when Larla gets a C, amirite?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2015 10:57     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is really so hard to explain about it? Mr. Jones was born as a man, but always felt like he was really a woman, so now he's going to be a woman. Kids will ask age-appropriate questions and you answer them in a straight forward manner, just like questions about sex. We're the ones who make it all complicated and messy, not the kids.


I'm pretty sure the surgery needed to give the illusion of fulfilling this particular desire is both complicated and messy.
And I also don't agree that surgery can make someone into a woman. Man has gotten too bold that they have the power to change whatever they want. I totally disagree. I would explain to my children that there are many people with values, beliefs, ideas, etc... that we do not agree with. Our only obligation is to treat them with dignity and respect. That's it. I would tell my child that we don't agree with the teacher, but as long as the teacher is good in their job (and doesn't surreptitiously try to espouse values to indoctrinate the kids that transgendered, etc is okay, we our family does not agree with), we shouldn't worry about their own personal choices. Whatever choices he/she makes is between he/she and his/her maker. My child had a teacher who was a smoker and as a pulmonary specialist, I felt she was pretty ignorant. My child questioned me about it and I explained that smoking is bad and that stupid people do it. Unfortunately, not everyone is smart all of the time. So, your job is to learn the material being taught and treat the teacher with dignity. We don't have to like her and what she values. You're not going to like or agree with everyone. There's bad people in the world. A fact of life. So, this is actually a good teachable moment.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2015 05:39     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:Transgender is not the problem. It is gender identity that is the problem you are concerned about. If someone has changed their identity who cares but if a man simply dresses as a woman or a woman simply dresses as a man, this is the real issue. I do not want to share a bathroom with a man who simply identifies and dresses as a woman. In this circumstance they use the man's bathroom. period. Sorry folks no gray area here. If you have a males plumbing you use the males bathroom. We do not have to, should not be required to nor need to accommodate you.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2015 05:38     Subject: Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
No, not ok at all at any age. They can play dress up at home.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2015 05:31     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Butbutbutbutbut...

On the other thread people said a majority of people wouldn't want a transgendered person teaching their kids. This thread isn't possible!


DCUM isn't a good example of the population, it tends to draw out vocal minority groups on both sides. Who knows if the people posting represent the general population.


I doubt it, no one in my circle knows what DCUM is. None of my neighbors either. But to answer the question, it depends. If the teacher has already transitioned and doesn't use the classroom as a social platform to promote "awareness and acceptance" of their decision I'm okay with it. As long get as the teacher does not identify as both female and male and your child doesn't kwow whether they're going to be taught by a Mr. or a Mrs. each day. I don't want it to be a distraction in the classroom from academics.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2015 01:49     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:What is really so hard to explain about it? Mr. Jones was born as a man, but always felt like he was really a woman, so now he's going to be a woman. Kids will ask age-appropriate questions and you answer them in a straight forward manner, just like questions about sex. We're the ones who make it all complicated and messy, not the kids.


I'm pretty sure the surgery needed to give the illusion of fulfilling this particular desire is both complicated and messy.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 22:22     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Transgender is not the problem. It is gender identity that is the problem you are concerned about. If someone has changed their identity who cares but if a man simply dresses as a woman or a woman simply dresses as a man, this is the real issue. I do not want to share a bathroom with a man who simply identifies and dresses as a woman. In this circumstance they use the man's bathroom. period. Sorry folks no gray area here. If you have a males plumbing you use the males bathroom. We do not have to, should not be required to nor need to accommodate you.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 21:01     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Post transition. Any age. I have to say if it is not post transition the parents in F.CPS will chew them up, spit them out and make them wish they had waited. I think the whole transition process is to confusing for kids of all ages especially HS or lower.

Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 20:26     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Seeing it as I have two friends who are transgendered, one of whom my 4 yo twins see regularly (their child is a classmate of my twins), I have no problem. Right now, they just think their classmate has two mommies, Miss Mary Anne and Miss Jane (not their real names). When they are older, we'll talk about how Miss Jane started as Mr. James but didn't feel right as a man and first started dressing and later had some doctors help him become Miss Jane.

I can honestly say that Miss Jane is an excellent parent and teacher to both her and my children when they are together, so I would have no problem with a transgendered school teacher.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 20:23     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:Butbutbutbutbut...

On the other thread people said a majority of people wouldn't want a transgendered person teaching their kids. This thread isn't possible!


DCUM isn't a good example of the population, it tends to draw out vocal minority groups on both sides. Who knows if the people posting represent the general population.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 20:22     Subject: Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:Since my DS is in Sunday School with with a 6 y/o who was identified female at birth but self-identifies as male AND the parent of one of his friends is trans AND I don't hold it against a person if their parents misidentified their gender identity at birth, I am fine at any age.


How exactly can a parent misidentify a child's gender at birth
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 20:08     Subject: Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Since my DS is in Sunday School with with a 6 y/o who was identified female at birth but self-identifies as male AND the parent of one of his friends is trans AND I don't hold it against a person if their parents misidentified their gender identity at birth, I am fine at any age.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 19:10     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:

Wow. Let's hope nothing tragic ever happens to you. If a teacher is disfigured or lost a limb, this would be a great opportunity to teach your kids to be accepting of others. Do you think the school should fire such a teacher to avoid kids being exposed to them? Hopefully there aren't many people with your position.


Not either prior poster, but do you think it is just possible that the PP was pulling your leg? Go read it again.

Yes, obviously sarcasm. I love the posts about not being okay with a dead teacher and the one whose son sometimes wants to be a dog or baby. Entertaining thread. And no, I would also not care, wait... take that back. I would actually embrace this.




Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 18:55     Subject: Re:Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?

Wow. Let's hope nothing tragic ever happens to you. If a teacher is disfigured or lost a limb, this would be a great opportunity to teach your kids to be accepting of others. Do you think the school should fire such a teacher to avoid kids being exposed to them? Hopefully there aren't many people with your position.


Not either prior poster, but do you think it is just possible that the PP was pulling your leg? Go read it again.




Anonymous
Post 05/09/2015 18:34     Subject: Are you find with a trangender teacher teaching your children? What age groups?
Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn't be ok with it.

But I also wouldn't be ok with a teacher who has an accident and comes back disfigured or with a lost limb. I wouldn't be ok with a teacher who dies or gets really sick or moves either, because that conversation is too hard. An unmarried pregnant teacher would be a definite "no," as would a gay teacher, but I might add an exception to the gay thing if they left their personal life at home.

We also don't have pets until kids are in high school because if one dies that conversation would be too mature and difficult for my DCs.



Wow. Let's hope nothing tragic ever happens to you. If a teacher is disfigured or lost a limb, this would be a great opportunity to teach your kids to be accepting of others. Do you think the school should fire such a teacher to avoid kids being exposed to them? Hopefully there aren't many people with your position.