Anonymous wrote:07:31, there is nothing wrong with using an informal expression. I am writing a post on DCUM not a formal essay. And I am sure if you had been on the playground you would have noticed the "cursing"which included words such as bitch, dirty ass hands, fuck. Great cuss words for elementary school children to hear!

Comma please, after DCUM.

Oops Defcon 11!

And I want to add that the kids weren't "bad." They seemed like nice kids being looked after by a caregiver who seemed to think it was okay to speak to people in a really horrible way. I can't blame the kids but I can't change the chaos they are raised in either.

In my original post I never mentioned race and my only reference to SES was to note that such behavior would be less likely to occur in an affluent suburb, in part because parents are more likely to be better educated.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, Iagree 07:53 but who wants to explain what "suck dick" means at an elementary school aged child. Still, we made the choice to live in the area and understood that are kids might be exposed to things we didn't like.

Why do you assume that white higher SES kids don't say such things?

Bad kids have horns! Going to Defon 10!

Yes, Iagree 07:53 but who wants to explain what "suck dick" means at an elementary school aged child. Still, we made the choice to live in the area and understood that are kids might be exposed to things we didn't like.

OP, I am an AA lower middle class parent. My DC goes to private so she really doesn't know the kids in our neighborhood regardless of race or SES. When we play at the park, she's aware that some kids may make choices our family doesn't allow. Again, this is without regard to the color of skin or HHI.

07:31, there is nothing wrong with using an informal expression. I am writing a post on DCUM not a formal essay. And I am sure if you had been on the playground you would have noticed the "cursing"which included words such as bitch, dirty ass hands, fuck. Great cuss words for elementary school children to hear!

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Anonymous wrote:OP's concern is a valid one.

OP, I don't know how old your kids are, but if they're young enough, you'll get to know the families through playdates. Get to know the parents yourself. I never allowed my child to sleep over at the home of parents I hadn't met. I also had his friends over a lot and got to meet their parents.

More importantly, I had many, many conversations with my child about the fact that there are some bad kids and that those are the people he needed to stay away from. He avoided them like the plaque.

Dental or arterial? Both are bad. Plaques for service or achievements are good, and should be a sought-after goal.

The word you are looking for is important, not importantly. 7:00, "cuss words" is slang; please do not be so crass. You should be saying "curse words." And OP, as already pointed out to you, it is "affected," not "effected."

Really, really concerned about the poor writing style being used in these posts on DCUM. I hope my children are not exposed to your children, who obviously come from households where proper grammar is not important.

Not sure if OP was a troll but the question is valid and not just limited to exposure in school. Recently was at Raymoond Rec center and kids with either caregiver were cursing up storm. Kids seemed sweet but caregiver screamed at them, using variety of cuss words. Kids followed lead and yelled out " name of person, sucks dick" At the playground with tons of young kids all around. Another mother hit her two year old for crying.

If you live in a transitioning area, it is difficult to shield your kids from these things. Yes, this could happen in more affluent suburbs but it is less likely.

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Anonymous wrote:I embarrassed for everyone who didn't spot this as a piss-poor troll job.

I love how people try to pretend as though many upper class folks don't think this way.

Think what way? Like a troll? Or are you trying to call upper class racist?

I don't get this at all. I know a lot of "brown people" who are much higher SES than myself. Why do people on DCUM constantly want to throw these strawmen around about "brown people" and then conflate it with SES and say "low SES" is strictly code words about racism?

Anonymous wrote:I am also glad you're son is practicing good dental health. Avoid the plaque! Floss daily!

Best get to a periodontist STAT.

Anonymous wrote:Bad kids come from bad parents. The apple never falls too far.......

I don't know. The kid who bullied mine (which rich kid in a private school, btw) had lovely parents who were horrified by their kid's aggression.

I am also glad you're son is practicing good dental health. Avoid the plaque! Floss daily!