Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 17:01     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was already not on your side, but "he is my fur-baby and it would stress me out" pushes this into "is she freaking kidding?"

First of all, he's not a fur-baby (what a horrifying mental image that stupid phrase evokes!). Second ... OMG, you'd be STRESSED OUT?! The horror. Welcome to life for 99% of adults. Too bad you're an overgrown child.


OMG, I gag everytime someone calls their pet their "fur-baby". Or refers to themselves at Mommy or Daddy or worse yet grandparents of animals!


I have a (human) child but still consider my dog my fur-baby.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 16:18     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Dog will go to a pals house or board for a few weeks. Reassess the situation after your house sells. It might not be as easy as you think to sell it!
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 16:17     Subject: Re:Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sell Home, move to an apartment and pay the rent on the apartment. Buy new house after 1 year and you have gone on a month-to-month lease. Make sure you move into a place with a month-to-month lease after a year. No extra money lost.

You sound a little too entitled to your mom's home. She has offered it on her terms and you don't like the terms. Either accept it or find a different solution.


I have never lived in an apartment that let me go month t month after a year, at least not without an exorbitant rent increase. I think it's a myth.


Lots of places in dc do this. I've always gone month to month after the first year.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 16:00     Subject: Re:Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:Sell Home, move to an apartment and pay the rent on the apartment. Buy new house after 1 year and you have gone on a month-to-month lease. Make sure you move into a place with a month-to-month lease after a year. No extra money lost.

You sound a little too entitled to your mom's home. She has offered it on her terms and you don't like the terms. Either accept it or find a different solution.


I have never lived in an apartment that let me go month t month after a year, at least not without an exorbitant rent increase. I think it's a myth.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 15:57     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:I was already not on your side, but "he is my fur-baby and it would stress me out" pushes this into "is she freaking kidding?"

First of all, he's not a fur-baby (what a horrifying mental image that stupid phrase evokes!). Second ... OMG, you'd be STRESSED OUT?! The horror. Welcome to life for 99% of adults. Too bad you're an overgrown child.


OMG, I gag everytime someone calls their pet their "fur-baby". Or refers to themselves at Mommy or Daddy or worse yet grandparents of animals!
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 14:52     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I know I need to grow up and get over it. Doesn't take the frustration away though. I hate this house and we've been slowly chipping away and debt and now we have this awesome opportunity and we can't do it. And of course we could rent but it's expensive in our area and it would feel like a complete waste of money to pay $1k a month and get stuck in a lease when my mom's 4 bedroom house is just down the road and sitting empty 70% of the time (she travels for work).

If I didn't know any better I would think she's just being passive aggressive. She didn't have a problem with my out of state baby sister and her cat temporarily moving in with her a few weeks ago - sis decided to stay where she is in the end but the door was open for her regardless.

I guess an apartment might me our only option anyway.


That's not true. You CAN do it, you choose not to. I would let your dog come either if it were my house, just saying
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 13:59     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another post reinforcing my opinion that dog owners are the worst.


+1. The only people who love your dogs are YOU, dog people. The rest of us would get dogs if we wanted to be around dogs.


Then stay home. Dogs are not illegal.

I despise grumps like you that feel your wants/desires trump my own. And, yet, I'm forced to endure you. So, you shall endure my dog in public spaces and my own home.


The OP lives near her mother and brings the dog over to the mother's house. The mother has met the dog but doesn't want it living there. I would let 1 relative's dog [100 pounds] live in my house-but not the relative. Some other dogs owned by relatives I would not let visit for an afternoon. My house and I know one relative would NOT keep it in a crate in the garage plus the dog has destroyed crates. For the same reason airlines require IITA for the breed that is the only way it would be on my property. One little dog I like.

Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 13:47     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another post reinforcing my opinion that dog owners are the worst.


+1. The only people who love your dogs are YOU, dog people. The rest of us would get dogs if we wanted to be around dogs.


Then stay home. Dogs are not illegal.

I despise grumps like you that feel your wants/desires trump my own. And, yet, I'm forced to endure you. So, you shall endure my dog in public spaces and my own home.


No one is arguing with dogs in public and in YOUR home. However, the people who try to bring their dogs to other peoples' homes and then get grumpy or feel offended when others don't want those dogs in their home are the problem.

In this case, OP is trying to force her dog on her mother. While a short visit is one thing, living in the house 24x7 for several weeks or months is another thing entirely. The mother has a right to live in a pet-free home. OP being upset that her mother won't let her bring her dog to LIVE there (as opposed to visiting for a few hours) is just overly entitled. Sell your house or not. Stay with your mother or not. Just don't bring the dog. Pretty simple.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 13:39     Subject: Re:Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Sell Home, move to an apartment and pay the rent on the apartment. Buy new house after 1 year and you have gone on a month-to-month lease. Make sure you move into a place with a month-to-month lease after a year. No extra money lost.

You sound a little too entitled to your mom's home. She has offered it on her terms and you don't like the terms. Either accept it or find a different solution.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 13:25     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another post reinforcing my opinion that dog owners are the worst.


+1. The only people who love your dogs are YOU, dog people. The rest of us would get dogs if we wanted to be around dogs.


Then stay home. Dogs are not illegal.

I despise grumps like you that feel your wants/desires trump my own. And, yet, I'm forced to endure you. So, you shall endure my dog in public spaces and my own home.


Yeah, but MY HOME will always be free of YOUR dog. It's very simple.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 13:22     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...

Even if I got a dog of my own, I STILL would not allow other dogs to stay in my house. It's non-negotiable.

OP, you sound so incredibly entitled and self-centered. Not everyone likes dogs in their house, and you should respect that, however much you help her out in other ways.
Plus the whole "I don't like my house and want to move" is so childish. Presumably you knew about your home's deficits before you moved in? If you really want to move, then assume that responsibility fully. Don't resent your mother just because she can't help you with your dog.

There are so many people in your boat, who don't like their house and just put up with it or renovate because it's too expensive to move. Can't you renovate too?

Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 12:54     Subject: Re:Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why don't you ask your friends if anyone would be willing to keep your dog with them for a few weeks while you stay at your Mom's house and sell your house? Or find a pet boarding house as another PP suggested. Sounds pretty easy to me.

Your mom is not the one keeping you from staying with her. Your adamant refusal to find an alternative short-term home for your dog, e.g. you and your decision are preventing you from taking advantage of the financial situation. Penny-wise and pound foolish. You're not rehoming the dog; you're boarding the dog for few weeks.


+1 You may also want to read between the lines and reconsider bringing your dog with you every time you visit your mom.


Omg yes, this. We have several lovely family members who have small dogs. They bring them EVERYWHERE with them. Two of them beg constantly for a ball to be thrown--like, every second they are awake. They get under the feet of elderly family members. They scratch the floors. I love my family and I even like their dogs. But I think it's incredibly rude to assume everyone wants your pet around.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 12:52     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another post reinforcing my opinion that dog owners are the worst.


+1. The only people who love your dogs are YOU, dog people. The rest of us would get dogs if we wanted to be around dogs.


Then stay home. Dogs are not illegal.

I despise grumps like you that feel your wants/desires trump my own. And, yet, I'm forced to endure you. So, you shall endure my dog in public spaces and my own home.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 12:52     Subject: Re:Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
I'm with your mom. I don't have pets for a reason: I don't like animals in my home. You want to move in with your mom for an unspecified period of time AND bring your dog? Oh hell no. That is just entitled.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2015 12:51     Subject: Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...
Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!


Yep, agree. She's being selfish. Sure, it's her house, her rules. If she wants to stick with that, fine. But, I would not be rushing over at 9 p.m. anytime she needs it anymore. Two way street and all. And, to be clear, I would tell her so. The dog is 6 pounds and you regularly bring it over anyway. She's being silly.

The good news is that you can still accomplish what you want w/o having to stay with her. It will be less convenient but people do it all the time.