Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:46     Subject: Re:Dog destroying marriage
When we adopted our 2 dogs, it was for life, and that entails old age. If my DH acted like an ass, especially about what I care about, I'm not sure I'd be happily married. He knows that if I see an animal in harms way, a stray dog or cat, we're pulling the car over, period. Compassion!!!
MommaRN
Post 03/24/2015 16:45     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
Anonymous wrote:She's small enough to carry. It is simply not feasible for me to take her down multipls times per day. I'm not hauling two kids plus dog down a flight of stairs that many times. Nor am I going to sacrifice what little free time I have to do that. Between childcare, I take care of the home (laundry, clean bathrooms, vacuum, mail, bills, make beds, etc). In the lite downtime I have I take care of myself (shower, eat). I also run a small and lucrative consulting business part time. The dog likes the balcony. It's big and airy and she's happy sniffing around out there. I pick up the poo daily and change the per pads every few days. I'm not going to feel bad about not adding more to my plate. I don't just sit around all day. I think my DH should just keep the status quo. We can have a gross balcony and a happy mom or a clean balcony and a miserable mom. I think I am more important than the balcony.


Well, clearly your DH thinks differently. Those pee pads must reek by the time you get around to changing them out! I'm with your DH, this sounds absolutely disgusting and I feel bad for your poor pooch
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:44     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
MommaRN wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Didn't you post this a few months ago? Were you the poster who was heavily pregnant and was allowing the dog to defecate on the balcony because you couldn't carry him/her down the stairs?


Boom! I KNEW I'd heard this story before!


I reported it. I think the OP is making things up.
MommaRN
Post 03/24/2015 16:42     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
Anonymous wrote:Didn't you post this a few months ago? Were you the poster who was heavily pregnant and was allowing the dog to defecate on the balcony because you couldn't carry him/her down the stairs?


Boom! I KNEW I'd heard this story before!
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:42     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I don't have an issue letting her go. I am ready I want her to be ready not just because she is now inconvenient.


If you keep refusing to accommodate her changes needs as she ages, she's going to be ready a lot sooner...so you've got that going for you.


Seriously, you simply refuse to take her out more often even though you can. And, yes, you CAN take two kids downstairs with you. The dog isn't ruining your marriage, your steadfast refusal to do anything that inconveniences you is. I suspect this isn't just an issue where the dog is concerned. It's time for some self-reflections.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:40     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
I can't read this thread. Pregnant with a much loved older dog.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:39     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but that is bs. How many of you walk your dog eight times per day? She gets walked twice, when DH gets home and before he leaves. The dog has had a long life and priorities change. I'm not a single woman with no other commitmentS anymore. She gets good care and lots of love and I am absolutely entitled to put my well being above the dog. I take care of the whole family, I have needs too.


This is ridiculous, OP. Many people have two young children and a dog. Dogs need to be walked more than 2 times a day. What do parents of young kids do? Put both kids in a double stroller. Wear one in an Ergo and walk the other while walking the dog. Whatever.

You are "entitled" to put yourself above a dog that has served you loyal and is now elderly and helpless. You are entitled to have a neglected dog pee all over your balcony and cause tension in your marriage. But you are not entitled to people approving you or to your husband being okay with that.

You are choosing your self-care priorities and causing your dog and your husband to be inconvienced and uncomfortable.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:36     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
I really appreciate so much all of the advice. I do. I have to sign off now bc I have stuff to do but also bc if I read too many more posts I will probably euthanize the dog and then blame DCUM! I will talk to DH and the vet. Thanks all.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:33     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
Anonymous wrote:They are 3 and 1.


What about the one that you were supposed to give birth to in mid-January, per your previous post about how you had to run away to the Marriott in the middle of the night?
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:32     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
They are 3 and 1.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:29     Subject: Re:Dog destroying marriage
Anonymous wrote:This has to be fake, right? I mean, the dog is small enough to be carried down to the foyer, out the door and into the tiny green space to pee. This takes, what, two minutes? I get that she likes the balcony, and that's fine, but you should be able to take her out front every two hours or so that you're home with no problem. I assume you can leave your children in a space place for two minutes to pee yourself or take that shower, right?

I think this must be someone trolling. No dog lover is so cavalier about quality of life and ALSO unwilling to take two minutes to help mitigate the random peeing and the mess on the balcony.


Did you read her PP from right after Christmas? The baby is a couple months old. I actually didn't know that she had an older child.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:28     Subject: Re:Dog destroying marriage
This has to be fake, right? I mean, the dog is small enough to be carried down to the foyer, out the door and into the tiny green space to pee. This takes, what, two minutes? I get that she likes the balcony, and that's fine, but you should be able to take her out front every two hours or so that you're home with no problem. I assume you can leave your children in a space place for two minutes to pee yourself or take that shower, right?

I think this must be someone trolling. No dog lover is so cavalier about quality of life and ALSO unwilling to take two minutes to help mitigate the random peeing and the mess on the balcony.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:21     Subject: Re:Dog destroying marriage
How old are your kids, OP?
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:16     Subject: Dog destroying marriage
I suggested that but he said "the dog will never pee on this balcony again".
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 16:11     Subject: Re:Dog destroying marriage
OP has your dog been tested for cushing's disease? That's what our older dog had when he began peeing a lot and wasn't incontinent.

On another note, I think your DH is probably responding to your absolute rigid refusal to do anything other than exactly what you are doing. Marriage is a give and take, and a little compromise goes a long way. Can you take the dog out maybe 2x a day and get a dog walker for another 2, so the balcony doesn't get as gross?