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I would allow "none of the above" to be an option. And if my child then went in inappropriate clothes and felt like a fool --- well, experience is the best teacher.

No you would look like the fool who has a child raising their parents. At 8yrs old, the disrespect of showing up poorly dressed at a formal event would fall on you.

But I honestly don't care about the opinions of people who would think less of somebody based on their child's clothes.

Also, I don't think that my child's clothes are about me. I don't think that my husband's clothes are about me, either.

LOL, is this for real? Then just let them show up in pajamas then.

Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

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Anonymous wrote:She's 8? How big of a power struggle would it cause for you to just say, OK for normal everyday clothes you can pick pretty much anything you feel comfortable in but for formal events people just have to suck it up and wear what's appropriate. Pick between one of these 3. Then show her a few of the tops you said she "wouldn't" wear. Formal outfits aren't exactly a choice in our home, so that's what I would lean towards doing.

THIS

Since when has it become politically correct to let a child pick out their formal wear? Back in the 80's, I would have picked what Madonna wore to the VMA's if given free range. Should my parents have let me done that? My oldest DD hates dresses - hates them. But I certainly wasn't going to let her wear jeans to her uncles wedding. We found a simple black dress and ballet flats to compromise on. We tried a few black dress pants and tops but she realized the dress was actually much more comfortable. Do you think my son wanted to wear a suit? No. He begged for khakis and a shirt but it was a formal wedding so suit and tie it is.

This would be really cute with black skinny pants. She will be the chicest girl at the wedding.

https://www.jcrew.com/girls_category/jackets/blazers/PRDOVR~99417/99417.jsp


OP again. LOVE this idea. Going to look on ebay for something similar (and cheaper)! Thanks, PP!

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Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

I would allow "none of the above" to be an option. And if my child then went in inappropriate clothes and felt like a fool --- well, experience is the best teacher.

No you would look like the fool who has a child raising their parents. At 8yrs old, the disrespect of showing up poorly dressed at a formal event would fall on you.

But I honestly don't care about the opinions of people who would think less of somebody based on their child's clothes.

Also, I don't think that my child's clothes are about me. I don't think that my husband's clothes are about me, either.

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Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Never said a fluffy dress. If you look back at my comment I said my daughter tried on black dress pants and shirts that I offered her. In the end she found the black dress to be more comfortable. She has then worn that dress 4 more times to Bat and Bar Mitzvahs. My son wanted to wear khakis and I said no. Formal invitation means dress or dress suit for girls and suit and tie for men.

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Anonymous wrote:http://www.thefader.com/2014/12/17/shilohs-suit-game-is-on-fleek

Let her wear what Shiloh wears and she'll kill it.

So if my 8yr old son wanted to wear a dress, would he have "killed it" too?

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Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

I would allow "none of the above" to be an option. And if my child then went in inappropriate clothes and felt like a fool --- well, experience is the best teacher.

No you would look like the fool who has a child raising their parents. At 8yrs old, the disrespect of showing up poorly dressed at a formal event would fall on you.

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Anonymous wrote:http://www.thefader.com/2014/12/17/shilohs-suit-game-is-on-fleek

Let her wear what Shiloh wears and she'll kill it.

Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

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Anonymous wrote:Come on, no one said sweats. OP said no buttondown and khakis. But you all insisting this 8 yr old wear a fluffy dress are ridiculous. There's lots of examples here of great looking appropriate pants, top and vest or jacket.

Yeah, but the problem is except for one thing that OP is trying to find in a cheaper option, OP said her DD won't wear any of the examples on this thread either. At some point, the event is going to be tomorrow and it is going to need an outfit. Sometimes in life people have to settle for necessary rather than preferred. If I were OP I would offer a few pants and top outfits with some of the tops from this thread, and a dress, and let DD pick from among those but "none of the above" would not be an option.

I would allow "none of the above" to be an option. And if my child then went in inappropriate clothes and felt like a fool --- well, experience is the best teacher.