Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 19:58     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
It is not 'bad' to 'live in sin', but clearly marriage has its benefits or you would not have all the fuss about marriage equality/gay marriage.

I have seen many friends poo poo marriage and just live with BF/GF until they found what they thought was 'the one', left GF/BF and then they were all too ready to tie the knot.
Just make sure the motives are clear for both of you.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 18:23     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Time and time again, I see such strong reactions on DCUM to people who say they live with a boyfriend or girlfriend and don't plan to marry.
If they are ok with it, why do people have such a problem with it?
Why isn't it ok to live your life with someone without marriage?


Because it is a symptom of a bigger problem: The inability to grow up, make a decision and be accountable for one's life.


Why do you get to decide that only marriage will lead to people growing up, making decisions and being accountable for their lives?
This is the most ridiculous statement EVER!!
You cannot tell me that the twits who get married after a few months or a year of dating (happens all the time!) are more responible or grown up than a couple who has been in a loving, monogomous relationship for 10 years.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 18:03     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:Time and time again, I see such strong reactions on DCUM to people who say they live with a boyfriend or girlfriend and don't plan to marry.
If they are ok with it, why do people have such a problem with it?
Why isn't it ok to live your life with someone without marriage?


Because it is a symptom of a bigger problem: The inability to grow up, make a decision and be accountable for one's life.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:57     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's one reason it's so bad:
http://news.yahoo.com/jeannette-bougrab-charlie-hebdo-charb-girlfriend-160121995.html


Crazy families are crazy regardless if you are married or not. They would probably deny their marriage.


Can't deny a piece of paper.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:49     Subject: Re:What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because, unfortunately, our legal system has defined thousands of privileges and rights that are granted to married spouses that do not apply to cohabitating partners. Among the rights and privileges are rights to joint property, to make legal and/or medical decisions for each other, the right to visitation in medical situations, the financial protections under the law and many thousands more. If you choose to cohabitate, then in emergencies or unforeseen circumstances, you have no such protections.

If you don't see the importance of this, then go through the non-explicit relationship forum and just look at the threads of marriages and relationships that are breaking up and the complications that arise when they have to divide joint property, discuss custody issues, etc.


Why is this unfortunate? How else should the government know that you wish to join property and give rights to the other person?

Marriage isn't this big awful evil. Marriage is also very important for society. Two people joined together can best care for children and the other person. Life throws you a lot of curve balls. Financially it's best to have a partner and someone to care for you through your ups and downs.


I didn't mean that it's "unfortunate" that marriage has so many rights. I was answering the subject question "What's so bad about living in sin?" What I meant was that marriage has all these rights. Unfortunately, if you live in sin instead of marrying, you don't get those protections.

For those who have been cohabitating for many years without problems, I'm glad luck has been on your side, but a couple of issues that I've seen with non-married friends are because they don't have the protections guaranteed by marriage:

- One couple was traveling out of state when they had a car accident. One partner had to be hospitalized. The unmarried partner was not allowed to make medical decisions and was not allowed to visit the unconscious partner. They had to call the out-of-state parents who drove a few hours to come and make medical decisions. Without the parents' consent, the uninjured partner was not even allowed to see the unconscious partner.

- A young unmarried couple had lived together for several years. When one partner died, his parents came and claimed his belongings. They claimed the majority of the shared household because he had been working and his partner had not been. They argued and the courts upheld that he was the owner of the majority of their apartment and contents and they took it. The partner was left not only having lost a partner of several years, but also losing most of the home furnishings and their joint life and memories.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:15     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:Here's one reason it's so bad:
http://news.yahoo.com/jeannette-bougrab-charlie-hebdo-charb-girlfriend-160121995.html


Crazy families are crazy regardless if you are married or not. They would probably deny their marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:14     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Here's one reason it's so bad:
http://news.yahoo.com/jeannette-bougrab-charlie-hebdo-charb-girlfriend-160121995.html
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:05     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I start a thread titled: What's so wrong with marriage?

Find the right person and marriage is awesome!


Marriage is an accepted institution that is expected of most people.
Deciding not to marry is not. Marriage doesn't need it's own thread.


Expected by who? The church?

Some of you are too old fashioned. Wake up. We no longer have to follow stupid traditions.


Society. Do you live in the United States?


Yes. And I've noticed that it isn't expected anymore. If you say you aren't getting married, people usually don't say a word.


You and I have had completely different experiences then.


My guess is you practice a religion.


You couldn't be more wrong!! I'm a practicing atheist. My family isn't religious either.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:04     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I start a thread titled: What's so wrong with marriage?

Find the right person and marriage is awesome!


Marriage is an accepted institution that is expected of most people.
Deciding not to marry is not. Marriage doesn't need it's own thread.


Expected by who? The church?

Some of you are too old fashioned. Wake up. We no longer have to follow stupid traditions.


Society. Do you live in the United States?


You couldn't be more wrong!! I'm a practicing atheist. My family isn't religious either.

Yes. And I've noticed that it isn't expected anymore. If you say you aren't getting married, people usually don't say a word.


You and I have had completely different experiences then.


My guess is you practice a religion.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:03     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I start a thread titled: What's so wrong with marriage?

Find the right person and marriage is awesome!


Marriage is an accepted institution that is expected of most people.
Deciding not to marry is not. Marriage doesn't need it's own thread.


Expected by who? The church?

Some of you are too old fashioned. Wake up. We no longer have to follow stupid traditions.


Society. Do you live in the United States?


Yes. And I've noticed that it isn't expected anymore. If you say you aren't getting married, people usually don't say a word.


You and I have had completely different experiences then.


My guess is you practice a religion.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 17:02     Subject: Re:What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's not okay for practicing Christians. If you aren't one, go for it.



Practicing Christians very often commit adultery - that is also a kind of sin, is it not? What about priests who are pedophile? There is religion and there is morality. Two different things.


Oh, yay, more anti-Christian talk.

Yes, Christians commit adultery. That doesn't mean it's not a sin.


But it makes zero sense. Are 'religious' people supposed to be using their religion as sort of a guide in life? Setting morals?

If you are going to practice, why would you not stick to those morals?

Answer: Religion is a giant hoax. People want to believe there is some guy upstairs who will just forgive them for being a piece of shit while on earth. And the churches take full advantage of these idiots.


I don't personally know any Christians who are "pieces of shit". Sorry you've had a bad experience.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 16:46     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I start a thread titled: What's so wrong with marriage?

Find the right person and marriage is awesome!


Marriage is an accepted institution that is expected of most people.
Deciding not to marry is not. Marriage doesn't need it's own thread.


Expected by who? The church?

Some of you are too old fashioned. Wake up. We no longer have to follow stupid traditions.


Society. Do you live in the United States?


Yes. And I've noticed that it isn't expected anymore. If you say you aren't getting married, people usually don't say a word.


You and I have had completely different experiences then.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 16:38     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I start a thread titled: What's so wrong with marriage?

Find the right person and marriage is awesome!


Marriage is an accepted institution that is expected of most people.
Deciding not to marry is not. Marriage doesn't need it's own thread.


Expected by who? The church?

Some of you are too old fashioned. Wake up. We no longer have to follow stupid traditions.


Society. Do you live in the United States?


Yes. And I've noticed that it isn't expected anymore. If you say you aren't getting married, people usually don't say a word.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 16:26     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I start a thread titled: What's so wrong with marriage?

Find the right person and marriage is awesome!


Marriage is an accepted institution that is expected of most people.
Deciding not to marry is not. Marriage doesn't need it's own thread.


Expected by who? The church?

Some of you are too old fashioned. Wake up. We no longer have to follow stupid traditions.


Society. Do you live in the United States?
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2015 16:21     Subject: What's so bad about living in sin?
My dream is to be married but live apart