PP here - I want to amend my previous remarks to say I don't have a problem with someone posting where their kid is going to attend. Keeping a running tally of all the places he/she was accepted is braggy and pretty gross.

I'm a little surprised that the majority of people posting on this thread seem to have a big issue with others posting their kids' college acceptances on Facebook. Now that I'm at the age (46) where some of my friends have kids old enough to be college-bound, I like hearing about where they're going, just as I've enjoyed posts in recent years about their kids' athletic achievements, seeing pictures/videos of their musical performances, etc. I live far from many of my oldest and closest friends, and don't talk to them nearly as much as I used to. So I welcome these glimpses into their lives.

Maybe it's because I only have about 150 Facebook "friends." Pretty much every single person I'm friends with there is someone I genuinely know, value, and wish the best for. If I had 800 "friends" - including every co-worker, classmate, and kids' classmates parents - maybe I'd be a lot less interested in hearing about their kids' accomplishments.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is a smart cookie. She did not tell anyone where all she was/is applying nor did she tell where she got accepted. She is the least stressed senior I have seen. There are many kids in HS who are falling apart right now, because they made a big deal about applying in a particular college and then did not get accepted.

So, please, tell your kids to keep a lid on their list of colleges and admission status. They can post which college they are going to when the time comes. Every thing does not have to be shared on social media.

It's great if your DD is some self-possessed, brilliant sphinx, but it helps some kids figure out where they want to go if they talk to their friends. It doesn't necessarily have to be posted about on social media, although I'd leave this up to the kids to decide, but this notion that kids are silos is ridiculous.

I don't sense kids at our high school are falling apart at all. They congratulate each other and seem to know intuitively that it will all work out in the end. There will be a place for everyone

I never said that kids are silos. There is enough discussion among friends about various schools etc, but most kids are using Naviance, Fiske guide to colleges and other ratings to draw the list of possible schools. College visits over summer and help from teachers and counselor have also informed these children. So, a lot of data is available outside of social media.

The conversation was if people need to know where you are applying and the status of your application on FB. I think it is ok for kids to say that they have been accepted to XYZ college and will be going there.

Anonymous wrote:My DD is a smart cookie. She did not tell anyone where all she was/is applying nor did she tell where she got accepted. She is the least stressed senior I have seen. There are many kids in HS who are falling apart right now, because they made a big deal about applying in a particular college and then did not get accepted.

So, please, tell your kids to keep a lid on their list of colleges and admission status. They can post which college they are going to when the time comes. Every thing does not have to be shared on social media.

It's great if your DD is some self-possessed, brilliant sphinx, but it helps some kids figure out where they want to go if they talk to their friends. It doesn't necessarily have to be posted about on social media, although I'd leave this up to the kids to decide, but this notion that kids are silos is ridiculous.

I don't sense kids at our high school are falling apart at all. They congratulate each other and seem to know intuitively that it will all work out in the end. There will be a place for everyone

My DD is a smart cookie. She did not tell anyone where all she was/is applying nor did she tell where she got accepted. She is the least stressed senior I have seen. There are many kids in HS who are falling apart right now, because they made a big deal about applying in a particular college and then did not get accepted.

So, please, tell your kids to keep a lid on their list of colleges and admission status. They can post which college they are going to when the time comes. Every thing does not have to be shared on social media.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems pretty simple to me. The news is the child's news and accomplishment to share on FB, not the parent's news.

Parents who need to brag about their kid's choice of college need to get a life of their own to post about.

I don't understand this logic. are we not allowed to say anything about our kids on FB? No "Suzie had a great school year. Yay Suzie!" "First day of school! Good luck this year, Suzie!" I mean, technically it is the child's school year and could be posting in FB, but this is the type of thing I see all.the.time.

I'm not allowed to say anything about my kids on Facebook. They drew up a contract. You can't tell that I'm married or have kids if you look at my page.

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My kids used to get furious if I ever posted pictures of them without their consent, or tagged them in posts. I learned my lesson and don't do that anymore. I didn't think about the fact that their friends would see every silly "Mom" post that I tagged them in, and how embarrassing that must have been.

This seems pretty simple to me. The news is the child's news and accomplishment to share on FB, not the parent's news.

Parents who need to brag about their kid's choice of college need to get a life of their own to post about.


I don't understand this logic. are we not allowed to say anything about our kids on FB? No "Suzie had a great school year. Yay Suzie!" "First day of school! Good luck this year, Suzie!" I mean, technically it is the child's school year and could be posting in FB, but this is the type of thing I see all.the.time.

No, this isn't exactly what I meant and in my brevity, I apologize for being unclear.

My feeling is that announcing major life events, whether it is where one is attending college or where one has accepted a job, or whether one is getting married or expecting a child, is up to the person whose news it is. Once that person decides to share, then of course everyone else can weigh in on and celebrate the success. But I think it is most respectful to wait until the person whose news it is decides when and how to share.

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Anonymous wrote:This seems pretty simple to me. The news is the child's news and accomplishment to share on FB, not the parent's news.

Parents who need to brag about their kid's choice of college need to get a life of their own to post about.

I don't understand this logic. are we not allowed to say anything about our kids on FB? No "Suzie had a great school year. Yay Suzie!" "First day of school! Good luck this year, Suzie!" I mean, technically it is the child's school year and could be posting in FB, but this is the type of thing I see all.the.time.

I'm not allowed to say anything about my kids on Facebook. They drew up a contract. You can't tell that I'm married or have kids if you look at my page.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I no longer use FB - I can only take so much bragging which runs rampant on FB. I do not miss it at all.

+1. I have two friends who boast about their kids all.the.time. I've started "liking" only their posts that don't involve bragging. When I go on FB, that is, which like PP I do less and less.

Signed, the poster who lets people decide for themselves whether to click through the picture tags to find out where DC is going to college (and dear "boohoo" poster, don't even bother, because it's a great, great school and there's nothing to hide here).

This is why I no longer use FB - I can only take so much bragging which runs rampant on FB. I do not miss it at all.

Anonymous wrote:This seems pretty simple to me. The news is the child's news and accomplishment to share on FB, not the parent's news.

Parents who need to brag about their kid's choice of college need to get a life of their own to post about.

I don't understand this logic. are we not allowed to say anything about our kids on FB? No "Suzie had a great school year. Yay Suzie!" "First day of school! Good luck this year, Suzie!" I mean, technically it is the child's school year and could be posting in FB, but this is the type of thing I see all.the.time.

I would let him post it if he wants to. Don't post it on your own fb page though.

This seems pretty simple to me. The news is the child's news and accomplishment to share on FB, not the parent's news.

Parents who need to brag about their kid's choice of college need to get a life of their own to post about.

Anonymous wrote:I can only remember one of my facebook friends posting about her child's acceptance and she's pretty insufferable in general about her kids. It just isn't done, so when someone does it, it really stands out. At least with my friends. I do see a lot of posts when parents are dropping kids off at college for the first time, but that seems fine to me.

I did a post with a pic of the car packed for college. I didn't mention the college. If people really want to know, DD is tagged in the pic and it's easy enough to click on her name and get taken to her own FB page, which has lots of pictures of kids wearing gear with the college's name on it. But that's on the person doing the clicking.

The worst is when the parent posts the acceptance of the child and gets 150 "likes" and then goes on to tell everyone in person of the acceptance (as if we didn't already know). She's announcing the news yet again to people who have already acknowledged it? Perhaps drunk Facebooking is all I can think. Just stop. It's embarrassing.