Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 11:08     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
That seems really out of line and not something that professionals do.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 11:02     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:Has he acknowledged that he missed this important fact? Why do you think he isn't objective?


No, he hadn't. If he was objective, he would have investigated why my child was having so many issues at school when he was not having any issues just three months/grade prior. Instead he jumped to the conclusion that he had been right all along about the school being a "bad fit" and talked about my child to Monica at Ivymount MAP even before we had visited, decided to apply or decided whether to change schools.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 10:38     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Has he acknowledged that he missed this important fact? Why do you think he isn't objective?
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 09:51     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:I feel for you OP. I have been in this place before, where a professional (in our case a well regarded one) was advising me that what i thought was the right or best fit for my kid wasn't, and what they were advising was not something I could sign on for.

It can be stressful as you weigh what you think is best vs what the professionals advise.


Thank you. We are no longer working with our well regarded professional since he appears to be suffering from tunnel vision and an overabundance of ego that keeps him from being objective. We had been very happy and issue free at our current "bad fit" school for three years prior to this grade and all the problems that appeared with a new inexperienced Sp Ed department that we currently have a complaint filed against with OSSE for not following the IEP. Doctor missed that the school was not following the IEP b/c he always thought the school was a bad "fit" and our problems "inevitable". If he had listened more to us, the parents, instead of listening to himself and the people who weren't following the IEP, we would still be working with him.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 09:16     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
I feel for you OP. I have been in this place before, where a professional (in our case a well regarded one) was advising me that what i thought was the right or best fit for my kid wasn't, and what they were advising was not something I could sign on for.

It can be stressful as you weigh what you think is best vs what the professionals advise.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 08:51     Subject: Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:We were encouraged to continue an application to MAP for our AS kid not once but twice. There were visits and detailed discussions of kid coming for intake, when the start date would be, not an acceptance, but definitely every indication that there would be one. The first time we were going for due process and they just basically dropped us. One month after a "let's have him in for an intake visit in two weeks or so," I finally had to get in touch with them. They had just dropped us completely. That's when we got a no after them knowing we were putting them as our school for due process and talking about intake meetings.

Stupidly we looked again a couple of years later and this time money was a huge issue for them. After a lengthy conversation about DS, Monica actually said she was really concerned about the money and didn't want to spend much more time on us unless the money was 100% in place because "it was a waste of her time." Still there was discussion of further involvement with my child. Monica telling me what I should tell DS about the next visit. Thank goodness I didn't bring it up with him since nothing was officially on the calendar because then it was complete radio silence for a couple of weeks and then a rejection letter.

I understand their right to have a process and decide that they aren't the right fit for some kids. Of course. However, they seem to be really confused about the potential impact of discussing "intake" at a school with a kid with AS and then dumping us for unknown reasons. Will definitely never look their way again though I'm sure it is a great fit for many other people.


Thank you for sharing. Sounds like our experience with Unstuck isn't out of the norm at Ivymount.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 08:34     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:For arguments sake, isn't his professional opinion worth something for you to consider? Or is the point that given the way they handled unstuck, you wouldn't feel comfortable with the school, even if it is the best place?


Of course but we love our current school that our doctor has always thought was a "bad" fit until this year... and my kid told me over the weekend that he is starting to like his school again. It's an immersion language school and DS is above grade level in English and Math even though he spends only 1/2 the time in English. So we would be sending DS to MAP only for their social curriculum which I don't know if it's worth it since DS would be giving up the immersion language. Same for Auburn too but Auburn seems to run their business like a "normal" business and not a personal fiefdom.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2014 06:25     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
For arguments sake, isn't his professional opinion worth something for you to consider? Or is the point that given the way they handled unstuck, you wouldn't feel comfortable with the school, even if it is the best place?
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:47     Subject: Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Ugh, OP, what a mess. I just want to mix you a stiff drink and serve it with a giant slice of chocolate cake.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:37     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:Is the doctor pushing MAP bc he thinks you can get funded? have you spoken to a lawyer?


He's pushing MAP b/c in his professional opinion, it's the best place for DS. He felt this way 4 yrs ago when DS got his diagnosis.

Our chances for funding is excellent and we will not have to file for due process. Our school (at least the new sp Ed teacher and sp Ed coordinator) wants us gone.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:28     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Is the doctor pushing MAP bc he thinks you can get funded? have you spoken to a lawyer?
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:27     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:what is sww?


School without walls
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:24     Subject: Re:UnOPstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
Anonymous wrote:OP (or PP, not sure if its the same person). Confused. So you charter wants to get rid of you, but they also want to provide FAPE at your school with an IEP? or are they saying they think you can get funded at MAP bc they cant provide FAPE?


The bolded. Our Sp Ed coordinator told us at our IEP meeting that OSSE pretty much follows what the IEP team recommends... And this was before we filed our complaint that the school was not following the IEP (and we have very strong evidence).

So OSSE may have problem with providing funding when the school is not following the IEP, basically creating the problems, and then claiming the school cannot provide FAPE. My kid did not have issues at school until this grade. We don't want public funding for MAP. Don't like MAP.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:03     Subject: Re:UnOPstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
OP (or PP, not sure if its the same person). Confused. So you charter wants to get rid of you, but they also want to provide FAPE at your school with an IEP? or are they saying they think you can get funded at MAP bc they cant provide FAPE?
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2014 21:00     Subject: Re:Unstuck and on Target Saturday Social skills group at Ivymount school
what is sww?