Anonymous wrote:When all the valedictorians from the 50 states move to one little city and then expect their children to do just as well as they did--well there is going to be trouble. Only 20 percent of those children can be in the top 20 percent at a DC area private. Leave your child in the school even if they are not making the top grades. They will still be benefitting and they will have friends etc. don't take them out because they have B on their report card

I grew up in California and every valedictorian and otherwise very intelligent student I knew in high school stayed in California, where there are abundant opportunities for intelligent, successful, and ambitious people. Not one of those people gave a though to moving here.

Not a big studier? So what!! Many other qualities important for a happy useful life. The bragging is just people responding to the super competitive atmosphere in DC. Try to get off the subject and you will probably find interesting nice people underneath.

I attended a prestigious secondary school and went to a crappy college. So did many of the kids I went to school with.

That is a good thought pp. You are right. So many high achiever parents feel badly their kids don't get into the school they graduated from (even knowing it was much easier to get in way back when ...when only super rich people could go to Ivies pre-aid).

When all the valedictorians from the 50 states move to one little city and then expect their children to do just as well as they did--well there is going to be trouble. Only 20 percent of those children can be in the top 20 percent at a DC area private. Leave your child in the school even if they are not making the top grades. They will still be benefitting and they will have friends etc. don't take them out because they have B on their report card

All area privates will have a certain number of legacies and a certain number of that small number will have Not attended ivies and make lots of money necessary to pay for their children to attend same private. This going to be a small number of people and an even smaller number will still be insecure about it. Most of the people at the school will be more like you. That's one way the school keeps ivy admission high is to take legacies. You will notice on the admissions forms there is a spot to fill in - parents college.
I would say send to a private if you want smaller classes
The parents will be fine. A good way to gauge the atmosphere is to go to the schools fall fair where the parents volunteer. Chat up the parents there. You will soon find a place or places you like.

Anonymous wrote:OP, sorry you are getting so much grief.
People lin your situation exist; They may hot express themselves as openly as you do, but please do not feel bad about all the aweful posts blaming you for being a snob and the wrong kind of elitist.
Most people like you put their kids in privates. When/if they do not score supreior grades or if the teacher has any kind of concern, then they think of public, especially public charters where donations/ local connections go a long way.

Wrote the poster who did NOT go to an Ivy. I did, so does DC, and the grief OP is getting is coming from posters like me who went to Ivies.

Also, public charters don't work the way you think they do. DC attended one for three years. Big donations or dazzling connections aren't going to buy your kid entrance because, unlike private schools, the best charters are by lottery and are oversubscribed. Nor will money or connections buy you good grades or better college outcomes. Not sure what you're thinking here.

OP, sorry you are getting so much grief.
People lin your situation exist; They may hot express themselves as openly as you do, but please do not feel bad about all the aweful posts blaming you for being a snob and the wrong kind of elitist.
Most people like you put their kids in privates. When/if they do not score supreior grades or if the teacher has any kind of concern, then they think of public, especially public charters where donations/ local connections go a long way.

Anonymous wrote:Op, please think about your own attitude. It's gross. I have kids in local privates and not one human I have spoken to has HYP as their end goal. It that's what you are basing your children's life success on, you should get help and rethink.

Not one? Not one single person? I have to say, these people did exist at our private school. They were a tiny minority. Also, I got the impression many were too tasteful (unlike OP) to mention it. But they do indeed exist. It's wrong, but they exist.

Op, please think about your own attitude. It's gross. I have kids in local privates and not one human I have spoken to has HYP as their end goal. It that's what you are basing your children's life success on, you should get help and rethink.

I have been on a lot of school tours and met many other prospective parents along the way . I am curious how those conversations went when you asked their educational backgrounds ?
I agree with a PP, I have no idea where any of my friends and neighbors went to college, and for sure don't know anything about their elementary school

What is HYP? her Young Princess? hot Youthful Politician? Did you not read the article about legacies not having such a shot at the Ivies any longer, competition is fierce. Gotta love your 1% problems

WIS is a great school especially the lower school. Well educated parents mostly foreigners who like foreigners. They are not snobby. I don't know where they went to college but they are smart people.
Hey your babies could learn french as well as how to color. Really the people there are great .

WIS is a great school especially the lower school. Well educated parents mostly foreigners who like foreigners. They are not snobby. I don't know where they went to college but they are smart people.
Hey your babies could learn french as well as how to color. Really the people there are great .

OP, please go back to NE. we don't want you here.